Hey there, this is Clay.
And today I'm going to be answering the question of why your ex breaks up with you and then
immediately jumps into another relationship that gets like really super committed and
everything.
Yeah.
Basically we were talking about rebound relationships today.
So a lot of times some people will, will linger in a relationship that they're, that they're
not happy with, that they don't like, just because they don't want to be alone.
And so they'll stay in that relationship until someone better comes along and starts giving
them all the signals and then they know it's safe to jump from one relationship to the
next.
And a, that could be what, what's happening with your ex.
And I know that that hurts and it's unfortunate that some people, use that as, as sort of
a relationship exit plan but, but that's just the reality of it.
Some people do that.
Another common thing is that is that, you know, someone will just break up with you,
without really the intention of jumping right into another rebound relationship or anything
and they'll, they'll, they'll just end up in that relationship really fast.
And, that, that's just kind of a, a sort of situation where it's not really like they're,
they're just kind of having someone ready in the bullpen just waiting for them to give
the right signals that they just laughed and just somehow ended up meeting someone.
You know, coincidentally, but beyond that, why is it that that people in rebound relationships
tend to get really serious, really fast?
I don't know if I've told this to you before or not, but, after my ex and I broke up for
the final time, she actually ended up getting engaged, about one or two weeks after our
breakup.
And, you know, I had some friends who like, didn't tell me that right away because they
didn't want to like crushed me or anything.
But I did find this out several months later.
But the reason that this happens is because, when someone leaves a relationship, okay,
they, they have this sort of expectation of having a person in their life who is at a
certain level of commitment.
You know, where you're, you're moved in.
We were holding hands all the time.
You're kissing, you're planning your future, you're talking about getting married, you're
picking out your kids' names and all that stuff.
And after you leave that relationship, there's this, there's that whole that's leftover.
So when someone new comes into your life, it's easy to, to try to bring that new relationship
up to that same level because it's comfortable.
It's familiar.
And, that's one reason why a lot of people do that.
And that's also another reason why a lot of rebound relationships actually fail in the
long run.
It's because, the people haven't really taken the time to get to know that other person
in that relationship before they've gotten, you know, really super committed.
And you know, as, as they start to actually take steps moving forward, you're moving in
together, proposing, getting married or whatever, they start to realize a lot of the, the, the
drawbacks of being in that relationship with that person, they might just start to see,
you know, the, the little annoying habits, the, the, the, the bad, bad habits and influences
the other person might have.
They're actually not attracted to that.
That person kept hidden at the beginning of the relationship just because they were trying
to impress a, this other person.
And, you know, that's actually what happened between me and my ex.
She ended up getting engaged with this other guy.
They actually did get married, but, you know, he actually wasn't the greatest guy.
He was unemployed for a while.
Basically refused to get off the couch, just played world of Warcraft the entire time and
both of them got terribly depressed.
I don't know where they're at now, but, that's just kind of, the, the path that that took.
So, so don't be surprised or alarmed or hurt, or take it personally.
If your ex jumps right from one relationship to another.
And that relationship gets really super committed really fast.
You know, don't, don't feel like, you know, man, it took, it took us like four months
before she agreed to be my girlfriend.
How come they're like steady and committed and everything like that after only two weeks.
Don't, don't worry about that.
It's not you.
It's, it's trying to fill that void and trying to get that relationship they catch up to
a, your ex is level of, of comfort, of familiarity, of expectation with where the relationship
should be.
So I hope that helps you feel a little bit better.
And if you want some help on how to get back together with your ex after a breakup and
a, you know, basically get back together and save your relationship with that person that
you love.
Just go ahead and head over to relationshipinnergame.com and sign up today.
Thanks.