in this time in my life in this moment i am overwhelmed
by what god is calling on me to do and be in this world i'm being called on in my life
to love people and to protect people and to be a river to my people
i know to do what we do
you got to be able to take abuse you got to be able to have people talk crazy about you
in this business you got to be able to have people disrespecting you
and you got to smile and you got to pretend like that's okay
denzel said to me a few minutes ago he said at your highest moment
be careful that's when the devil comes for you
i'm i'm motivated by fear that fear of fear i hate being scared to do something it's very
simple this is what i believe and i'm willing to die for it yeah period 99
of people are not willing to do what it takes to make their dreams come true
the marines have a saying everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die the
center of bringing any dream into fruition is self-discipline this the central um
problem that has been the focus of my life and everything that i've done has been centered on um
having a successful love relationship right so i saw my parents when when they were growing up and
i hated that my parents uh marriage deteriorated and um you know as young as i can remember
five six years old i wanted to be married i wanted to have a family um i always wanted to uh commit
and have a single successful relationship so the the scientist in my mind and in my study of
spiritual texts and things like that i've always been looking for the secret to um successful
uh love relationships and then as i've grown it's sort of expanded and i'm seeing the through line
uh oh the same basic ideas are successful parenting and the same basic ideas are being
a successful follower or successful leader or successful student and i started to see
the central issues with all of human relating the problem is really singular at the
center of it is almost exclusively a lack of understanding of the other person's
perspective you know something as simple as food and eating it it's not about
your body as much as it is about your mind it's getting command of your mind to be able to choose
actions that are in your own best interest every day we are choosing
that's not in our own best interest so if the world is attacking you and the world wants to
fight you and the world's trying to hold you down so you're gonna kick yourself in the balls
so you won't stop yourself from getting what you dream you can't be scared to die
for the truth the truth is the only thing that's ever going to be constant and
you can't fear what might happen to you if you were to tell the truth because what
happens to you if you don't tell the truth is worse than telling the truth will ever be
self-disciplined is the center of all material success you cannot win the war against the world
if you can't win the war against your own mind and i think the word discipline has kind of gotten
a bad name we think about it in terms of punishment i'm not i'm not talking about
discipline in that way i'm talking about discipline in the sense that you you forego
immediate pleasure for the exchange of long-term self-respect i believe that self-discipline is
the definition of self-love that when you say that you love yourself that means that
you have behavior towards yourself that is loving
it don't matter whose fault it is that something is broken if it's your responsibility to fix it
for example is it's not somebody's fault if their father was an abusive alcoholic
but it's for damn sure their responsibility to figure out how they're going to deal with those
traumas and try to make a life out of it's not your fault if your partner cheated and
ruined your marriage but it is for damn sure your responsibility to figure out how to take that pain
and how to overcome that and build a happy life for yourself fault and responsibility do not go
together it sucks but they don't when something is somebody's fault we want them to suffer we
want them punished we want them to to pay we want it to be their responsibility to fix it but
that's that's not how it works especially when it's your heart
your heart your life your happiness is your responsibility and your responsibility alone
you can make a person smile you can make a person feel good you can make a person laugh
but whether or not a person is happy is deeply and totally and utterly out of your control
the prerequisite for spending time with any person is that they nourish and inspire you they feed
your flame look at your last five text messages are those people feeding your flames or dousing
your fight put your phone down for just a second and look around look to the people around you
are those people throwing logs on your fire or are they pissing on it
the first step before anybody else in the world believes it is you have to believe it there's no
reason to have a plan b because it distracts from plan a and i think psychologically the
advantage that that gives me over over a lot of people that i've um have been in competition with
in different situations is it's difficult to take the first step when you look how big yeah the task
is the task is never huge to me it's always one brick i i believe and i learned very young that
you you don't try to build a wall you don't set out to build a wall you don't say i'm gonna
build the biggest baddest greatest wall that's ever been built you know start there you say
i'm going to lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid there will not be one brick
on the face of the earth that's going to be laid better than this brick that i'm going to lay
in this next 10 minutes and you do that every single day and soon you have a wall