Howdy folks!
Have you been feeling disconnected from your partner lately? Despite giving 100% you might
feel your relationship withering away. The five love languages can help you to
communicate with your partner much better. Usually, your partner will
respond to at least one of these, you just need to find out which works best for them.
In today's video let's see how each of these five love languages translate into your life. Does
saying I love you help? Or will buying gifts do the trick? We’re discussing all that and more...
1. Words of affirmation
This is the first love language. But before we dive in deep, let’s see a simple example.
Imagine your body has a love tank, just like the oil tank of a car.
In order to be madly in love with someone, your love tank needs to be filled up.
When the tank is full you are happy in a relationship. This is probably
when the relationship has just begun and you are enjoying the honeymoon period.
Staying in love requires real effort. When it’s half full you will probably be
happy but at the end of the day feel that something could be changed. And when it
goes dry it’s a red alert moment - where you rethink your life with your partner.
How would you describe your love tank right now?
Is it full? Sound off in the comments below and start a conversation with our Bestie community.
Words of affirmation build a strong verbal connection with your partner.
Express your affection and compliment them for the little things. You can ping them,
send a voice message, write a love letter or just say it out loud.
What was the last thing that you complimented your partner for? Has it been too long since
you showed them your emotional side? Don’t stay stuck. Break the shyness and start fresh.
People who have words of affirmation as their primary love language,
enjoy feeling valued and appreciated. But if you are not verbal enough you will have
to make an extra effort and train your brain to send out those positive words.
It also depends on how you have been raised as an individual. Your personality might not be very
expressive but in order to fill up your partner’s love tank, you will have to make an effort.
Try giving a reason for the compliment. Instead of just saying I love you,
try saying I love you for something they did. For example, thank you for going to the PTA meeting.
Nothing is better when someone appreciates you for the smallest of the small things.
It can brighten up your partner’s day.
A person who speaks the love language of words of affirmation will be content
after getting some words of encouragement, too. It could be for cooking a tasty new recipe or
even a professional achievement. Scribble a small love note for them at their desk.
Make sure to spoil them with compliments. They might simply feel that you are happy to have
them in your life. Keep experimenting, you never know what might click.
On the other hand, being verbally abusive can totally destroy this kind of partner from within.
Showering them with one killer complement every day will actually let them know what
you think of them. A bonus step would be complimenting them in front of others.
That might put them on cloud nine.
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2. Quality time When any relationship
matures it becomes less exciting. You start thinking about where the person went that you
actually fell in love with. You always look for sustainable long-lived passion
in your relationship. Even if it isn’t always laughing and smiling, it is a commitment.
Quality time requires you to pay undivided attention to your partner.
Spending hours watching Netflix does not count as quality time.
Instead, unplug at the dinner table or before you hit the bed so you can get some heart-to-heart
time with your partner. Schedule a date night at least once a week. Read books that they like and
discuss them. If your partner loves nature, go for a hike. Explore new hobbies together.
You can also play board games, or simply start by asking how their day was.
Aim to have uninterrupted and focused conversations.
Those who relate to this love language will also love it if you make eye contact while you talk.
If you have been neglecting your loved ones, not prioritizing them,
they might take it as an insult. Treat them with more love, patience and care.
So however busy your schedules might look, try to squeeze in some quality time.
You expect someone to stick with you till the end, love unconditionally and never give up on you,
then you too might want to do the same. Be the change and watch your relationship blossom.
Speaking of quality time, some people don’t enjoy another’s company. Watch:
People who like to be alone have these 11 unique personality traits.
3. Acts Of service If your partner speaks
the love language of acts of service then you might want to do some nice things for them.
It could be filling up gas in the car, running errands, putting away the dishes, that kind of
thing. If your partner loves cleanliness and has been asking you to put away those smelly socks,
doing that one little thing can make your partner feel loved.
Also, never go back on a promise of helping them out. Forgetting to do
the chore will only set you back with someone who speaks this love language.
Remember the pattern and notice changes in their attitude when you help.
If you feel it's a positive outcome then repeat it. If your parents did small things
for you in your childhood then acts of service could be your love language, too.
4. Receiving gifts Gifting is one obvious way to symbolize love
and affection. It shows the time and effort you've invested in that person. And it doesn’t have to
be something that’ll break the bank like pearls and diamonds. Small things can mean just as much.
A gift could be anything that would appeal to your partner. If they tend to remember
every little gift they’ve ever received from you then, Bingo you’ve found their
love language. Get the simple stuff like their favorite cereal or chips from the supermarket.
If you don't know what to buy just pay closer attention to what your partner has been looking at
or talking about recently. You can also check what's sitting in their online shopping cart.
Flowers can also be a nice token of appreciation.
Forgetting birthdays and anniversaries for someone with this love language is 100%
out of the question. Instead, go all out on these special days. They will remember it for all of
eternity if you come up with something like a surprise dinner party. Failing to do anything can
be a deal-breaker. And remember, gifting doesn’t always mean material things. Being available for
someone when they need you, or in times of grief can also be a gift. Just give without sparing.
5. Physical touch
We have arrived at the final love language. If your parents cuddled and hugged you
often when you were little, you would expect the same kind of love from your partner.
And, this goes beyond the bedroom. It can be anything from a simple pat on the back to kissing.
New mothers are encouraged to hold their babies close.
This increases the skin-to-skin contact and releases happy hormones in the baby
as well as the mother. This same habit can translate into adulthood.
People who have physical touch as their primary love language
will feel safe and protected with any form of physical touch. Bedroom intimacy matters,
too but there is more that you can do. Hold your partner's hand randomly when you are
out in public. Plant a peck on the cheek before you head out. Volunteer to give a
relaxing foot massage once in a while. This might make them feel extremely cared for.
You could be doing everything relevant to the other four languages,
but not speaking the language of love your partner speaks, means their love tank is
always going to be half empty. Love isn’t always perfect and sure doesn’t come easy.
Couples usually have different love languages. You may feel loved when your partner does the
lawn or takes the garbage out. And your partner might feel happy if you compliment their work.
All in all, love is a four-lettered word that is easy to spell but impossible to live without.
Love languages work differently for everybody, you just have to find the right one.
Have you ever wondered why some couples are so passionate? It
could have something to do with their zodiac signs.
Let’s keep the conversation going with a couple Zodiac-sign-related videos, shall we?
Click on Zodiac signs that make perfect couples
or 8 zodiac sign combinations that are perfect matches.
Go ahead, click one. Or better yet, watch both,
and learn more about what Zodiac signs have to say about your love life.
Which love language does your partner speak? Let us know in the comments below!