Lots of you have been asking me for this since Carlos' video went viral,
so I'm going to give it to you. It is the top seven ways to make a guy chase and make
him feel losing. You done from the perspective of a high value, secure, confident woman.
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Okay, this is so, so important. So this is how to have 50% power in your relationships,
50% fear of him losing you. If you want 100% power, then you want 0% vulnerability, in
which case I'm not the coach for you. But if you want to form a balanced reciprocal
relationship based on security, confidence, and fear of losing each other, then this is
the perfect video for you. Now. If you want to be that woman that men fear losing, then
you first have to make sure you're asking yourself the right questions. To be that woman,
you have to think like that woman, and that woman would never think, "how do I make a
guy feel losing me?" Can you imagine Scarlett Johansson asking herself that question? She
just, she just wouldn't ask it, right? So immediately, let's flip the question. Go from
"how do I make a guy fear losing me" to "how do I be the type of woman that men naturally
fear losing? "
Great question and I'm going to answer that with seven ways that
you can do that right now. All right. Number one, perhaps most important, no games men
can smell the difference between fake high value and real high value. I see advice like
"wait to text him back or don't text him back at all." I'm sorry. That's just rude. That's
fake high value. If you want to be real high value without games, learn to put your phone
away when you're with your friends. Learn to put your phone away when you sleep. Learn
to put your phone on airplane mode when you're at work or when you're doing one of your hobbies.
That way when you have your phone on you, you can always reply to your partner straight
away and he is not going to think you're needy or desperate one little bit. Another example,
fake high value. I heard this one. Buy him flowers, sorry, buy yourself flowers, then
put them on the table and pretend you don't know where they came from. Like what?
Here's a better idea. Instead of wasting time buying flowers and then lying
about buying flowers, spend that hour listening to a podcast or reading a book that improves
you and makes you the sexiest woman alive. Or here's another fake, high-value, classic
flirt with other guys. If you have to flirt with other guys, check if your boyfriend is
watching and then go flirt with other guys to make him fear losing you. Then you are
not thinking like and you won't be the high value secure woman that men fear losing.
Here's a much better idea. Be a social person. Flirt. Be playful with everyone. Whether or not your
partner is watching, should have no effect. Talk to men, talk to women, talk to children,
talk to the elderly. Put your playful personality out there to everyone and when you do, it
should have no effect as to whether or not your partner is watching.
That's true high value and that's how you know you're not playing games.
I'm glad we got that out of the way. All right, number two, don't check in unnecessarily.
A lot of women, a lot of clients I find feel this need to always be checking in, to always
be telling their partner where they are every single moment, all the time, everyday. Now,
communication is very important, and you should always communicate with your partner on the
important things, but maintaining individuality and maintaining a sense of your own identity
is important as well. You're going to have your own things that you're doing and you
don't have to check in with your partner every moment of every day. There's going to be a
natural balance that comes in with communicating where you are, what you're doing some of the
time, and then going off and doing your own thing other than the time.
It's not manipulation. It's maintaining a healthy sense of individuality
and it's important in healthy relationships. Number three, this is huge. Maintain your
social life. So a lot of women get worried that if they don't prioritize all time with
their partner, that if they keep spending too much time with their friends, that their
partner is going to think that they're not interested or that they don't care. In fact,
the opposite is true. The high value woman, the type that men fear losing always has a
priority level for her friends. She maintains her social life. She gives her partner great,
positive emotional experience when she's around him, and then she takes those experiences away,
not because she's manipulating, but because she has healthy time also set aside to give
those experiences to her friends. Maintaining a social life is absolutely essential if you
want to be the type of woman that a man would fear losing.
Number four, improve your social skills. I don't think there's an area
of life that makes the high value woman more attractive than this. See, most of us work
on our social skills, but then we get into a relationship and we can't stop that growth,
right? We work on ourselves professionally. We work on ourselves emotionally. We work
on our communication with our partner and we want to grow intellectually, but who gets
into our relationship and really says, I want to keep growing my social skills. I want to
keep getting better with people, few of us do, and it's one of the most attractive habits
that you can possibly undertake in your life. The woman who's constantly growing her social
skills is meeting everyone. Men, women, children, elderly. She's like a light that walks around
lighting up people's days. These skills are essential to happiness and the high value
woman continues to work on them even when in a relationship.
Her partner sees this, he sees the effect she has on people. He sees
the way people respond to her and men. Does it make him fear losing her?
Number five, maintain and improve your health. This is another area
where we tend to get ,. We tend to settle in and we let our health and our physical
body lag behind a little bit to what we were when we're single. The high value woman, the
type that men fear losing is the type that is threatening because she could be snapped
up at any time. The type that if a man was to drop his game, if her partner was to drop
his game, another man would be happy to come along and snap that up. One of the ways that
you demonstrate you're this type of woman is by continuing to keep up your standards
in your physical health. Make time for your physical health, both diet, exercise, and
mental as well to ensure that you're still the most attractive woman that he met at the
beginning, and that you're the type of woman that any man would fear losing.
Number six, improve your mind. Gee, this is just, this is such an attractive
habit. I cannot explain how attractive this is when you have a partner, as a man, when
you have a partner who comes home and tells you about a book she's read, about a seminar
she's been to, about this incredible podcast about health, about wealth, about growing
her relationships, about something that improves her and she lights up with this self-improvement
that she's done - that's just, that's a rare thing. That is incredible. It's attractive,
and it exactly defines the type of high value woman that a man is going to fear losing.
Finally, number seven is keep your standards always. So as a man invest
more in you and you invest more in him. Obviously, you're going to have more leeway with each
other. That's what a secure relationship is, but monogamy is and always will be a choice.
He makes the choice each day, each week, each month to come back to you, and you make the
same choice to come back to him. It's never a 100 given. It should never be 100% assumed
and he should still feel that if he were to abuse you, manipulate you, betray your trust,
any of these things, that you would make the choice not to come back. That's how a high
value woman would act, and that's how she instills a fear of losing her in her partner
just by being who she is.
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