Hey, it's me with my crazy hair that needs to like go away.
I think it's time. But, hah. I wanna talk about lesbians who date trans guys.
Oh lesbians who are ad-da-d, addicted, fuck. I'm kidding.
Attracted to trans guys. Only because this is such a controversial topic and I think
it's really interesting to talk about. I think some lesbians are attracted to trans guys because of the way that
some of us were socialized as female and therefore we can relate better to them.
Some of us, not everybody, before you go crazy. Just wait until you comment on this video
until I am done. Um, I also think it's because uh many
individuals who are out right now um, you know are very
young and haven't had bottom surgeries yet. So lesbian individuals might still really be attracted to that
area of the person. And I think that's, that's legit but I do think that there are
some implications that need to be discussed on both sides and understood.
If you are a lesbian dating a trans guy, um, that's fine. But if you're seeking out
trans men because they are trans men, and you would never date a cis man
that's where the issue kind of lies with me. Because you might not necessarily see the trans guy as
100% male because you would never date a cis guy. Like I said, I understand that you might be attracted to certain
features of our socialization, body, and stuff like that. But still, um,
It just, it might make some trans men feel invalidated
either with you, with their manhood and masculinity. And maleness
Only because you would say you would never date a cis guy.
Do you know what I mean? I am not trying to be an asshole over here or policing anybody.
It's just certain things that need to be understood. I've been asked multiple times
'Is it okay for lesbians to date trans men?' Fuck yeah, it's fine. Do it! Do it up! Do you!
You're queer. If you identify that way and you want to do it up, cool.
But if both of you um
don't understand the relationship dynamics, and
you're in it for the wrong reason, then it's probably now going to work.
And I do have personal experience about this and I am really trying not to be biased
but I was in a relationship with a lesbian who dumped me because she missed being a lesbian.
Even though she was 100% fine with me being trans. I don't get it.
But, you know, if the trans guy passes in society and you do hold hands you are going to look like a straight
couple and that is something to keep in mind. Um but other than
that, I don't really have anything else to say. Um, I've seen a lot of posts on Tumblr about women
who say 'I want to date a trans guy, I want to date a trans guy! Um but never
a cis guy because men a yucky.' I'm sorry but I don't like to put my personal opinions on
such controversial topics but I don't think that's okay. I don't think that's okay at all. You would never date a
cis guy but you would date a trans guy. And you say that men are disgusting.
Come on, like, I don't have boobs
I look like a guy, I smell like a guy, um only because my mannerisms are a bit more feminine
than the 'usual' and the way I was socialized makes me more 'caring'
to society um might make you attracted to me.
Um, but you need to understand that I am planning on having bottom surgery. And um those parts aren't
gonna be the same and you might not be attracted to that. Um, or you might be.
I don't know. If you're seeking out trans men because they still have vaginas and boobs um
you're being misled by the media. Saying that, I would definitely date a lesbian again.
Just because I had one or two negative experiences with that doesn't mean... I identify as queer, I completely understand
the implications that would happen in that relationship and uh as long
as she was aware that we would look like a straight couple, and that
I am probably going to me having bottom surgery and I don't have boobs and
if she can accept that, and most human beings can, then there you go. Fuck it.
I am a person. A body is just a body. You know? So that's cool.
It's just I'm not really into the fetish idea shit. I get a lot of like chasers
talking to me and it kind of really turns me off to like anything because who wants to be
you know, who wants to be chased, haha Chase, by somebody who only
wants to be with trans people because they're trans. It just like, I don't want to be one of those like
checkmarks off your list. Oh I fucked a trans guy. You know what I mean?
I'm not saying that lesbians do that, i'm completely off on a tangent fuck it.
I love you guys and if this is too controversial for you then talk to me about it.
Don't call me out, let's just talk.Yeah. Yeah