Hey it's Stephan Erdman here how are you doing I am the creator of the Pimp Your Lingo
program the six week double your confidence challenge and the approach at will program and a
few other programs as well I've got a big newsletter at tooshytodate.com
and i have a lot of people watching the videos here on youtube.. which I am
extremely grateful for
that's why i felt very guilty over the last
year
or so because I have not been able to simply physically to
answer all of the questions I've had here on youtube from
uh... subscribers
to my videos
who are watching my videos and who have a question great questions very often but i've just
literally not been able to answer them so i
hit upon a very clever idea which i should have had a long time ago
i'm basically gonna take
the best questions of the most relevant questions that i can actually
answer easily
and make quick videos about them hopefully of course keeping your name
you know
between us yeah but i'm going to take your questions
and actually turn them into quick videos and answer them in the videos
ok I am going to try my best to keep these videos
under five minutes because I know I tend to want to add too many things at
times so I am going to get really short
make sense so that's what's coming up over the next couple of months and i
am definitely going to do these
regularly unless i get a lot of comments about who will be talking too fast
or you're talking crap and stuff like that
if you wanna leave nice comments and let me know that this is a good idea let me know ok
these videos are not going to be pretty and I am going to look rough at times and
uh... i'm not going to pre rehearse
or pre you know you're not always going to get perfectly
executed videos here but i hope this makes sense because feel bad about
not answering all the comments
all the questions i can't answer all the questions there are far too many
so
this is cool
according to a few minutes without actually saying anything but just
setting this up so that's great uh... ok so here's a question
just a piece of advice I am reading this here on the screen
I am not going to mention your name okay
i've been watching and searching for seduction video books etcetera and I've
seen your pages that i do not know who was the best seduction master
but honestly you are the coolest one
I am blushing thank you very much cool
my question is about approaching but my problem is of little different than the
ones you mentioned your videos
there is a girl she does know my name and I do not know her name
we have never talked
but i've received all the signals that shows she's a great interest in me
interest in the that she has a great interest to me explore yes she has a
great interest to me
can't read
and she's really cute
the problem is i don't know how to approach that girl she's waiting for me
so if i decide to go to that i really really really do not know what to say
first
saying hello how are you is silly
should i say oh i'm planning to buy a birthday present for a friend but i do
not know what to buy can you give some advice
like many pickup artist suggest
suggest
and this does not seem logical either because we are aware of each other she
likes me and i like her that if i go to her then this would mean to her and me
that I've decided to raise the issue
so talking about irrelevant things seemed stupid
i really do not know what to say first can you help me stephan yes I can
and your instinct is right whatever those pick up artists uh... which shall
remain unnamed here and
say to you about you know
uh... giving you this is a generic pick up line uh...
for uh...
this doesn't make any sense
so your instinct is right you just have to trust it ok
on the other hand hello how are you you're saying saying that sounds silly
it does only because of one thing it's a little bit formal ok
now so having said all that
one of the most important things in the most important principles
whenever i start talking to a girl
that I don't know yet
one of the most important principles that is important
one of the most important principles that is important is that
you do not sound formal
instead you want to sound really informal
now here's the thing your situation is you've already made contact with her
you're already communicating youi know that you are there each of you this is cool this
is the hardest bit
you have already connected on some level you're two humans
you are now
having to help her out because she's a girl and girls
generally you know if they approach man a lot they called slags or
prostitutes ok
it's that just unfortunate that that's the way society works so you're just helping her
out
and basically that's why you start the conversation with her... but you have
already started communicating as this is really cool so this makes it really easy
so what i would do next time I see her
I'll probably just say well
i see you all the time so what's your name
that's probably what i would say I probably you know
there are millions of other things you can say but just do one thing
keep it informal
as simple as possible so hey
is perfectly fine
then just listen to what she's saying have a nice
acknowledge the fact that the process of starting to talk to a girl that you've
already made eye contact with
is totally natural
and you know wat it's crucial to the survival of the human race and it makes
complete sense and you're a cool guy for doing it ok
and you're also helping her out
so all you need to say is hey
or
whatever I prefer actually
would be hey i've seen you a few times so what's your name
or whatever
very simple
you're acknowledging what's already been happening you're acknowledging that
you already have some sort of relationship stay familiar with it stay informal
and stay nice and relaxed that's all
don't start to
string out long sentences going
hi well i've seen you around
now i have a question for you this birthday present
or you know i need a female opinion on something don't do all that stuff
just just keep informal and just start talking
at the very informal level
cool now there's a lot more of course
on my approach at will program that will teach you everything
you can get this program basically this is all about how to approach women
and hope to star conversations with women and develop it to the
level where you
get her number everything easy and you enjoy the process that's the
aim of the approach at will program because to be honest that's what I've learned to do over the years after being a really shy guy myself so that you can get at approachatwill.com
if you want more
there's going to be a lot of free stuff there I have a launch running there and uh... later on
you can also buy the program if you want to get the whole thing
so that's what you can do at approachatwill.com
thank you very much I hope this was useful
catch you later thanks very much this is the first video about you know on
certain direct questions in my mailbox
so um...
yeah no expense spared here
how to to start a conversation with a girl who's giving you signs