So you've talked to a girl, you think she's into you, and you want to ask her on a date.
How do you do it?
In this video I'm gonna teach you:how to ask her on a date, the best places to take her,
what to DO on the date, and what to do AFTER to make sure you get a second date.
Let's jump right into it.
How do you ask her on a date?
There are 2 ways to do this.
First, if you've just met this girl and you're still talking to her in person, you can invite
her out right then, and link it to something you talked about in your conversation with
her.
For example if you're both into fitness and you told her about your favorite kind of smoothie,
you could say ... "I'm actually about to head to that Smoothie King right over there to
grab something, you wanna come?"
Boom, you're on a date.
The other way to do this, and this is a lot more common, is if you met the girl somewhere
else, like at work, at school, at a party, or on the internet, you got her number, you've
been texting a little and she seems interested and you want to ask her out.
In this case, you can use a similar strategy to before, where you invite her to something
that you've both talked about already.
If you told her you're into mountain biking and she thought it was interesting, then next
time you're planning to go biking just invite her.
I highly recommend this method, since it's a casual way to ask and it sets up a fun activity
you guys can do together.
Or, if you'd rather go on a more traditional type of date, just ask her, but still be casual
about it - if it's Tuesday, you might ask her "you free Friday for lunch?"
Easy.
It's also good to ask at a high point in the conversation, whether you're texting, talking
on the phone, snapchatting, or whatever you're doing, ask her at a point where you're both
into it and having a good time, and she'll be more likely to say yes.
What are the best places to take her?
You don't have to spend a lot of money.
There are tons of things you can do.
Go for a walk in the park, to a museum, hiking, sight seeing, go to a lake, do some activity
like mountain biking or pretty much anything that sounds fun, go for ice cream or to one
of those cupcake bars, just walk around the city or somewhere nice, invite her to your
place and cook together (cooking is one of my personal favorites, because (a) you're
in a comfortable location - your own house or apartment - where you'll be more relaxed,
(b) she's already at your place so it's a lot easier to transition into hooking up,
or a second activity like watching Netflix, which is good because it combines multiple
things into one date (c) it shows a positive quality about you, that you know how to cook
and are at least somewhat responsible, and (d) it's a fun activity to do together).
Another of my favorites is doing something creative like going to a drawing class or
anything like that.
Fun stuff like that is good because it feels a lot more casual and lets BOTH of you loosen
up more, plus it's easier to have a good time because the activity itself is fun, and there's
a lot less pressure than something like a dinner date.
Also, ABOUT MOVIES: a lot of guys say movies are bad date ideas, but I disagree.
A movie is good if you include it as part of a larger date, like if you're doing 2 to
3 things and the movie is just 1 of them.
Maybe you went to Starbucks, then you went to the movie theater next door, and then you
walked around for a little while.
Or maybe she came over to your house to cook, and then you watched a movie at home.
A movie is pretty much the EASIEST setup for touching, you've probably seen those cheesy
moves on TV where the guy like stretches and puts his arm around her, I don't do that,
I just put up the armrest right from the start and immediately put my arm around her.
What do you do on the date?
So she's agreed to go out with you, you've chosen some stuff to do, and now you're out
with her.
What do you do?
This is simple: just have fun!
This is why I recommend "activities" because you're not just sitting down thinking about
topics to talk about - topics will just come naturally as you guys do whatever you're doing,
and there will be lots of opportunities for teasing and joking around, and you can pretty
much bring up whatever you want whenever you want since the mood will be light and she'll
be having a good time anyway.
For the most part, just talk about whatever interests you, comment on people around you,
ask her questions, and so on.
I already talked about how to come up with stuff to talk about in another video, so click
the link in the top right of the screen if you need help with that
You also want to try to talk about something deeper at some point during the date.
If she has a really good time and you guys are laughing and having fun, but you never
really get to know her or let her get to know you on a deeper level, she'll be more likely
to see you as just a friend, or as a friend with benefits, than as actual boyfriend material.
You don't have to be SO deep that you cause her to have an existential crisis on your
doorstep, but even something basic is good.
For example if she's really into helping the environment, that's a good topic to discuss,
you'll get to learn her motivations for caring about it and some background things about
her and she'll get to learn about you too.
So just find something, or pick something, and get into it.
What do you do after the date?
First, don't wait until the very end of the date to kiss her.
If you guys are having a good time, there will be many opportunities to go for a kiss
DURING the date.
Again, you want to do it at a HIGH point, either when things are really light and she's
laughing and having fun, OR when you've just connected with her on a deeper level and it
seems like one of those moments.
BUT, and this is VERY IMPORTANT, don't wait for a perfect time!
That stuff you see in romance movies, that doesn't happen.
You just gotta go for it.
If you're scared, just go for it anyway.
If she's into you, she'll be into it, I've NEVER in my ENTIRE LIFE had a girl be like
"so, I'm really really into you, but I just don't want to kiss you, and I don't like that
you just tried to kiss me!"
It doesn't make any sense.
If she likes you, she likes you, just go for it.
And if you chickened out and it's the end of the date and you still haven't done it,
then just DO IT.
Don't let the date end without kissing her!
If you do that, she WILL think you're either scared, gay, or not into her, and she'll start
pulling away from you.
Finally, I like to text a girl the same night to wrap it up.
Just a really short text or a funny snapchat pic.
It just adds a conclusion to it, and it leaves a positive image of you fresh in her mind
when she goes to sleep.
And if the first date went well, then don't forget to ask her out again.
You can wait a couple days or a couple weeks, just use your judgment based on how well the
first one went and how your conversations with her since the date are going.
If she's obviously into you, then don't wait as long.
And don't wait more than about 10-14 days max, any longer than that and the momentum
is dead and it'll be even harder to get her into you again.
So there you go.
Simple, step by step guide to the perfect first date.
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