This whole question around tolerance and empathy and understanding and where the limits are
is a very, very tough conversation and I come down in an odd place.
On the one hand I think we have to defend very aggressively the most vulnerable constituencies
in America: Muslims, immigrants, transgender people, LGBT, women, African Americans, low-income
people, and I think you have to be aggressive about it.
I think you have to be passionate about it.
I think you have to be serious about it.
If we’re going to have liberty and justice for all and not liberty and justice for some,
then we’ve got a lot of work to do.
And I think that’s important.
At the same time there sometimes can be a loss of empathy for those constituencies that
may feel that they have to give up something to get to equality.
For those of us who are trying to gain something to get to equality we can be very passionate,
and it feels good—we're making up lost ground over generations of discrimination, we’re
overcoming that, it feels great.
For other people, even just psychologically, they may feel that they’re losing ground,
and it’s sometimes hard for us to have much empathy for that and we tend to go into, “Shut
up!
You guys have had the game to yourselves.
You're disproportionally the business leaders and the senators and everything else, and
it’s our turn, and shut up.”
And that’s totally understandable, it just may not work very well because change is hard
for people.
If you’re a liberal—you look at gentrification.
Here’s a neighborhood that used to have African Americans or Latinos or whatever,
and then you go away for five years, you come back, and the hipsters have come and they’ve
set up their kale shops and bike things everywhere, and you’re like, “Hey!”
It’s like Oakland California right now: West Oakland is being completely transformed
by its proximity to Silicon Valley, and people who work for Google and all these places are
now moving into West Oakland, totally changing the place.
I sometimes look at that and I go, “Hey, hold on a second; I liked Oakland the way
it was!”
And if I can build a wall around Oakland and make Silicon Valley pay for it, I might consider
that, because I liked Oakland the way that it was.
Now, that doesn't mean that we should close the borders or that Trump is right, I'm not
saying that at all.
I think we need more immigration not less, and I think we need a faster pathway for us
to steal all the best talent from around the world and the hardest workers, rather than
slower.
I think America gets to compete better because we get to cheat and get all the good people
from everywhere here.
But can I have a bridge of empathy and understanding to somebody who says, “Hey, wait a minute.
I liked America the way that it was when I grow up, I liked certain things.
I’ve got some grief now.
I’ve got some anxiety now.
I’ve got some fear now.”
Do we have to call that person a bigot?
Do we have to say that person is a morally deficient human being and push them outside
of the circle of decent company, or is there some way for us to say, “We don’t agree
with you, we see it differently, but we can understand why there might be some anxiety
here.
And by the way, you might want to prepare yourself, because more change is coming.
We’re going to keep pushing for more change on gender, on sexuality, on the demographics.
So more change is coming, but we get it.”
Sometimes I think people just want to be witnessed in their struggle without being judged and
condemned.
These are tough conversations to have, and if you start talking the way I’m talking,
you’re going to get hit from all sides.
I’m willing to do it because I just don’t think you can have an honest conversation
any other way.
And the benefit of having a democracy with 300 million people in it—every color, every
human, every faith, every gender—all of us actually working together, I mean, it’s
worth having some tough conversations and going through some rocky periods to get to
that outcome.
But our intolerance for the intolerant may actually create more intolerance.
Our tolerance for the intolerant may leave in place too much intolerance.
So it’s a catch-22 that you can’t get through with just your brain; your heart has
got to lead you to someplace where you can actually hold onto your principles and hold
onto your neighbor at the same time.
That's the challenge.
No easy answer, but that’s what we’ve got to try to do.