Hey guys this Captain Daniel Hyun from ABCs of Attraction.
So today I'm going to talk about actually something very dear to my heart and probably
something that you personally experienced too.
Yeah! You.
So, I'm on my way home.
I just came from New York and I'm going on the train to New Jersey.
So, I'm originally from New Jersey and that's where my parents live.
So, I'm actually going to my aunt’s house right now to see my parents and everything.
So, one thing I realize about when I started pickup and now that I'm a full-time dating
coach is that my parents never knew that I did pick up.
So just like you I was a student.
When I was a student I never told my parents that this pick up thing.
Now I retired from this really good-looking job, this really cool job that my parents
would tell all their friends about.
Something they could be very proud of.
So that was me being a captain in the air force.
That is a job that my mom and dad can tell everyone at church, everyone around their
community of friends said well my son is a captain in the air force.
Look at the job I'm doing now.
I told them I'm the Asian hitch or I'm a dating coach.
They actually saw my reality tv show dating no filter and they're like what do you do?
You're a dating coach?
And on internet they actually googled me, and they saw that I had women next to me and
right off the bat they found out what I did.
They saw that that I do this dating coach thing so they judge like you teach guys how
to pick up women and yeah I know guys, you probably had your parents especially Asian
parents tell you “hey become a doctor, become a lawyer, do all this” and if you did anything
to look bad for the Asian culture, but most part of the family, they said stuff to you.
So right me right now though you do have a job that your parents love.
But you keep certain secrets and I guarantee you probably most likely you're not telling
them that you vested thousands of dollars, hours of your time going to pick up right?
Watching YouTube videos, investing in the bootcamp and you're like what am I doing?
How do I tell them?
And that's the thing guys.
The biggest thing is you have to tell, you just have to tell you parents and the most
important thing is maybe you're like "No I don't want to tell my parents" right.
So, I actually told my parents exactly, because I actually became close.
Maybe as a student you don't have to.
So, let me actually backtrack on that.
Because I'm a coach you got to tell your parents that you're living, this is your lifestyle
and you also for me I'm on YouTube, I'm a public figure.
But when you tell your parents you don't have to tell parents that you invest in a bootcamp.
But the biggest thing is they do find out, you paid this money to a bootcamp what are
you doing.
Then you got to tell them honestly there's one thing I would say is like you have to
tell them why you're doing it.
Because you want to find your girl.
You want to find, tell them you want grandchildren, you want a you know a wife you want to see
me have what.
That's one of the best means, think about your parents.
They love you no matter what.
But they want to love you in a very specific way.
So, they're not going to understand that you are doing this to get away or to have children,
to have a family.
They're not going to get it.
All that money, all the cars, BMW’s, you get rich from a [03:16 inaudible] girls just
come to you.
You and I both know that's not true.
The biggest thing is that, tell them that this is a way for you to get away and have
grandchildren that they could that you can bring home to on a Sunday.
That's next thing okay.
Another thing that I realized what my parents are telling them that I did pick up as a coach
was I accept the fact that pickup has a very bad name.
People think that pickup is a manipulation of woman.
People think it's just trying to have sex with women and I realized, it can have a very
bad negative aspect in the world right.
Probably why a lot of you guys hide it right.
I used to hide it.
I used to hide the fact that I learned pickup and now I tell everyone.
Specially the women I am dating.
Because for me it led me to the self-development.
Well let me become a better man every single day and let me do workout, let me do meditate,
let me do read books.
So, another big thing is stop talking about just pick up.
Tell your parents or even people that you love the most that, this is what it led me
to do right.
Because you guys know both like what pick up does it helps you improve your life in
so many other ways.
Because to actually be truly good at pickup, you have to study, you have to self-develop
and you have to work on your inner game a lot.
You have to tell them that it's more than just girls and that's the big thing that I
want you guys to realize.
If you're truly ashamed of pick up, then you're making it all about girls.
One thing I do with pick up now that I am a coach is I tell them my dream.
I told my parents my dream, my passion was to support my Asian brothers become the best
version of themselves.
That's my big thing is I explain that is more than just picking up girls.
It's got my dream and passion.
So, like I said when you tell your parents this, don't tell them, don't focus on thinking
of girls.
This is more about coming a better version of yourself.
If you frame it that way to say it self-help, there's a possibility they'll accept it more.
The last thing I want to talk about this it's just acceptance.
So, as I talk to you right now I actually got in a huge fight with my parents.
They didn't accept me, they actually reject me.
They didn't support what I do.
So, I want to say that at this point I'm not going to try to change my parents.
I am at my friends’ home.
Your parents are just the way you are.
My parents are 60, 65 now.
They pretty much have their lives, their values set, and I have no rights to change that.
They have certain beliefs about their lives and they want to live their lives like this
and they truly believe this is the way to live.
Who am I to judge that?
So, one thing I realized is with my parents, I had told them I retired my lucrative air
force captain job, become a dating coach, you’re an idiot, you're a failure what you're
doing?
Look if you have no house, you're just traveling the world doing all this, just partying with
any girls.
They made a lot of judgement, hateful comments.
But they don't know what I do.
They don't know that the first time I see a student, it's the how smiling I am.
They don't know the first time a student say that's the most fun I ever had in years, that’s
the most confidence I've felt in years.
They don't know when I see the first smile even after being rejected, after the student
overcome [06:30 inaudible] saying oh my god I can't believe I just did that.
I am so happy.
They don't know what I see.
They don't see the lives I've changed and yeah one day on YouTube maybe I'll capture
that on video for my dad.
My parents don't see that.
They don't see how happy I get when I see a student really change his life in front
of my eyes.
They don't see that amazing feeling that I feel and also smile, the happiness I see in
my students.
So, in the end guys just simply you can't try to change your parents.
You guys should accept them the way they are.
That's a great thing.
Accept your parents the way they are.
You know as hard said than done, but don't try to change your parents.
They don't agree with what you do, I mean get them the most beautiful grandchildren
and show them the most beautiful wife.
That's what I plan to do.
My plan to do is with my coaching industry is change the you know people's lives and
also make a lot of money at the same time to contribute to them and take care of them.
That's the only thing I do.
If I fight back pop back, they'll never understand what I went through.
I tried, I told them why the pickup.
About being getting rejected, being suicidal, they didn't care.
They are like it doesn't make sense that go do the lucrative captain job.
But in the end guys just first accept who you are.
The biggest thing is accepting who your parents are.
So, I want to open up and share that, because I know a lot of you guys trying to do this.
Alright captain out.
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