according to many theories of personality introverts and extroverts are often viewed in
terms of these two extreme opposites introverts will sat at home watching tv quietly in their
joggers and their oversized sweatshirts whereas the extroverts are all out partying the night
away with large groups of friends but the thing to understand about introversion and extroversion
is that you cannot place them into these clearly defined boxes as they are not all
or nothing traits watch this video as i explain the personality traits of the 70 who fall in
the middle today let's talk about the five signs that you are an introverted extrovert
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banner there's no doubt that personality plays a huge role in our everyday lives as everything that
people do is a reflection of their personality personality is always with us influencing what
we think about what we feel and how we behave so understanding where you sit on this introversion
extroversion spectrum can influence everything from your social views your relationships and your
career think of introversion an extroversion has been on this you know this long spectrum
some people will fall closer to the extreme ends making them either you know very introverted or
very extroverted however most people are closer to the middle which gives them qualities of both
introversion and extroversion you can also look at it this way think of it like height because whilst
we do have very tall people and we also have very short people the reality is that most people fall
into the middle of a standard deviation graph making the majority of the population of average
height and the same rule applies to introversion and extroversion whilst of all those that sit at
the extreme ends of the spectrum very few of us can accurately call ourselves a total introvert
or a total extrovert for those who do sit at these extreme ends in the same way as
recognizing somebody as being very tall or very short the two extreme ends are actually very very
different introverts tend to be quieter and they're more reserved and introspective
think of them as this filled balloon that slowly deflates as they walk into a room
it's almost like other people suck the energy out of them leaving the introvert feeling
drained and wanting to leave and recharge somewhere quiet and peaceful by themselves
extroverts on the other hand walk into a room with this deflated balloon and it quickly inflates
as they suck the energy out of the people through their social interaction
the introverts do enjoy spending time around others it's just that they prefer the company of
close friends that they have known for a long time whilst the extrovert is more than likely heading
off to the party with the sole goal of meeting lots of new people and making lots of new friends
there are also far more misconceptions about introverts than there are about extroverts
introverts are often labeled as being shy and aloof but these false perceptions are generally
instigated by the failure of extroverts to understand how introverts think feel and function
you see extroverts are so busy looking ahead for that next opportunity to interact because they
want to just talk and make new friends that they don't really give enough time to grasp
or understand the introvert they're standing in front of them the extrovert will simply assume
that their presence is always welcome because they can't imagine why anybody else would ever
need or want to be alone and as a result the introvert can find that other people try to
change them and you know there's nothing worse than being out and then someone coming along
and grabbing you on the dance floor saying come on stop being so boring join in and have a dance when
you just don't feel in the mood it's not that extroverts are trying to be pushy or arrogant
it's more like you know somebody's saying you know that they love rare steak
and they simply don't understand how anybody else could want to eat it any different way
the extrovert simply expects everybody else to think and feel the same way that they do
at the end of the day there is no right or wrong personality type and there isn't one type that's
better or worse than the other it's just different instead both introverts and extroverts need to
understand each other's differences as well as their similarities but what about those people
who fall in the middle let's say all of those of average height what is their personality
when they can quite happily fall into either side of the spectrum or flip from one end to the other
depending upon the situation if you find that spending too much time around other people leaves
you feeling drained but you still enjoy meeting other people or if you love being alone but you
also enjoy socializing with friends then there's a pretty good chance that you are one of the 70 of
people who fall somewhere in the middle these are known as ambiverts or the introverted extrovert
and they identify with some characteristics of the introversion and some characteristics of the
extroversion and they tend to enjoy both spending time with others and spending time alone depending
upon the situation and their needs and feelings at the time so if you're still unsure if you fit
into the introverted extrovert here are five signs that will let you know if you are an introverted
extrovert the impact of the environment as an introverted extrovert you're going to be sensitive
to your surroundings because the ambience in a room can either energize or it can train you
now your emotions and behavior will be affected by both the genre and volume of the music that's
playing and also the number of people in the room it's all about this pressure that you feel
so going out as part of a large group to a loud concert where you're pressured into
joining in is going to make you feel extremely overwhelmed but going to a smaller more intimate
concert with close friends will get you up on your feet singing and dancing in no time
the impact of people although you gain a lot of satisfaction from your relationships unlike a true
extrovert you don't have the energy to maintain a large social network plus you don't naturally
click with the first person that you meet so if you're an introverted extrovert you're going to
invest time into the friends that make you feel at ease you know those sorts of people that you can
hang out with them forever and you never run out of things to talk about you see the familiarity
of these long-term friendships makes being with them really easy because you don't have to expel
any energy trying to make an impression so they don't leave you feeling drained the introverted
extroverts are happy going out to meet new people but the main difference lies in the fact that
there is only so much socializing that you can actually take you know you can't go out every
night so the thought of being out permanently is enough to make the introverted extrovert
want to run home lock all the doors run away and hide so the thing to look out for when socializing
is you know after say a busy weekend or a long day at work is that you can very easily run out
of energy especially if you're being forced to make prolonged small talk as this is going to
leave you looking for that escape route so you can just disappear and recharge somewhere quiet
on your own the impact of first impressions as an introverted extrovert you need time to warm up in
social situations but this makes your personality a real enemy of the good old first impression
when meeting people for the first time you are deeply introspective and reflective and this
gives off the impression that you don't want to engage in conversation because in your mind it
takes so much effort to think of what to say and you also worry because you're in fear of
what other people would think but once you feel comfortable and relaxed you do begin to open up
but it's always and only on your terms and only those at this extreme end of the extraversion
are going to be seen dancing on the tables and being the life and soul of the party so you are
more than happy to be on the outside and always looking in but the more time that other people
invest in getting to know you the more they will see and encourage you to open up and join in
the impact of conversation true extroverts rarely struggle for anything to say because it's easy
for them to make chitchat and talk with ease about virtually any topic but introverts find it really
hard to maintain small talk as they'd rather have a conversation based on depth and meaning
when it doesn't come naturally continually thinking of something to say takes effort
so for the introverted extroverts they find it takes less energy to just say what's on their mind
than it does to search for what they see as fake and meaningless topics such as the weather
so conversation is there but it does have to have some purpose
at networking events for example or parties you're not going to be somebody who works the room
nor do you feel the need to draw a lot of attention to yourself in these social
situations you see the value in making connections with others and you especially
love those rare moments when you meet a like-minded soul but you have no interest in
trying to prove yourself in a crowd of strangers you aren't looking to be the most popular person
in the room you are simply looking to be the one that adds the most value the impact of labels
the difficulty with the introverted extrovert is that your friends and family just don't quite
get you because when you do want to be on your own they try and drag you out because they don't see
this need for solitude as being introversion they see you as having an off day and then on other
occasions they will look on a surprise at this sudden burst of energy and life and sold the party
but when that doesn't last and you then want to retreat back into the peace and quiet and
recharge your batteries they can question you to see what's wrong so you can be outgoing and still
be introverted it's all about understanding the environment the people and the conversations and
then you need to adapt according to what makes you feel safe and secure in your very own comfort zone
one day you can with the life and soul of your very own party and the next day you can lock
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