So we all have those moments when we’re feeling down. Well guess what can make you
feel better almost immediately? Spending money.
You got it! It turns out that for the most part, we all
like shopping – even when we’re buying things we don’t really need.
When we’re feeling depressed going to the mall on a spending spree can give you a feeling
of relief. It feels good – so much better than having
to deal with all your problems. It’s kind of like a drug.
But what can start out as an innocent habit of some “retail therapy” can lead to a
shopping obsessing and even a full blown addiction. This addiction can give you major money problems
– financial stress from running up your credit cards and even relationship problems
because we might try to hide our spending from others.
At it’s worse we might even be tempted to steal money from our retirement accounts or
even from family members to feed a shopping obsession.
So how do you handle the urge to go shopping? In this video, I give 5 tips for how to stop
spending money. Coming up!
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So Tip Number 1: Ask Yourself, why are you shopping? Sure, it does feel good, but why
are you doing it? Are you trying to fill an emotional need by
shopping? Are you feeling lonely? Sad? Depressed? Angry?
For many of us, that’s exactly happening. We’re trying to fill a void in our life.
So why are you shopping? Tip Number 2: Embrace Your Emotional Needs.
So we’ve established that you are spending to fill an emotional
need. So I want you to embrace your emotional needs.
What are some better ways to fill that sense of emptiness in side, or to help you feel
less alone or less stressed? How about talking to a friend, or journaling
about your feelings, or even cuddling with someone you love. How about going for a jog,
or just having a good cry? Work on finding other ways – better ways
- to help you satisfy your emotional needs. Tip Number 3: Leave Your Credit cards at home.
So when you DO go out shopping, take cash with you and leave your cards at home.
Research shows we spend about 30% less when we use cash. It hurts slapping down those
20 dollar bills on stuff we don’t need.
Tip Number 4: Hit the Mental Pause Button. By this I mean try to put some time between
your impulse to buy and pulling the trigger. Hitting the mental pause button can really
help a lot. Jot these questions down on “Notes” on
your phone and read them before you hit the check-out counter: DO I really need this?
Do I have room for this? What if I wait to buy this? How will I feel about this tomorrow?
Take some time to answer these questions. It will really help you slow down and will
stop your spending. Then if you decide you need it. Buy it tomorrow.
Not today. This is a huge power tip. When your emotions fade, chances are you won’t
buy it after all. Buy it tomorrow is a great psychological hack.
Try it out for yourself. Tip Number 5: Are you stuck? Then ask for help. If these
tips aren’t enough to help shift your spending behaviors, and you feel stuck, then please ask for
help. Sometimes shopping can become an addiction
– what we call a compulsive buying disorder. If left unchecked, this can have devastating
consequences. But like other addictions, the great news is that it can be treated.
So if you have difficulty controlling your spending and it’s causing you problems in
your life, seek the help of a therapist or a support group such as Debtors Anonymous.
I have links to some resources in the description below.
Question for you: If you’re vulnerable to overspending, what’s one thing you can do differently
based on these 5 tips. Write it down and put it into action this week.
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