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Do you feel confident in yourself?
Do you know what you're good at and what you're bad at?
Even psychology experts know the benefits
that come with being confident in yourself and your skills.
The identity that your mind creates about yourself
can be described in psychology as your ego,
which is the translation for, I or me in Latin.
(indistinct) having confidence in yourself
and your skillset is great.
But being overconfident causes a swollen ego,
or having what's called a big head.
A large ego can get in the way
of your personal and business relationships.
Are you worried you might have a large ego?
Here are six signs that your ego is controlling your life.
Number one, you always have to be right.
The ego is the identity that your mind creates
about yourself and it helps you to make decisions
based on what you think is right or wrong.
However, unhealthy egos
only focus on self-interest and desire.
This means, you must be right about everything
and tend to get enraged, whenever someone says otherwise.
This can be easily seen in conversations or discussions,
and even when you're in the wrong,
you prefer to cut the discussion off,
so as to not admit that you are in the wrong.
If you're dealing with this kind of problem
of ego in your life, then people might find it difficult
to maintain a relationship with you.
Number two, you always want more.
Do you struggle to feel satisfied with what you have?
Do you keep wanting more and more things?
It's normal want to achieve success
and have financial security
and to yarn for the things that you really want.
But, a way to separate this from always wanting more,
is to ask yourself this question.
Do you ever think that too much is never enough?
Say your neighbor just got a sports car,
and then now you feel compelled
to purchase a better sports car than theirs,
to show that you're better than them.
Always wanting more, will control your life
in an unsustainable way, because you struggle to accept
what's going on in the here and now.
Number three, you only focus on yourself.
If you have a large ego,
you'll focus more on your needs and wants,
even when it inconveniences others.
This is because you naturally find yourself
more interesting and important than other people.
You might also resort to manipulative behavior
in order to get what you want.
A common example of this is when you're deciding
on where to have lunch with your friends.
Your friends agree to eat at McDonald's,
but you would rather have lunch at Burger King.
To get your friends on your side,
you start saying terrible things about McDonald's
to try and manipulate them into going to Burger King,
even though everyone else was against your choice for lunch.
Eventually, you might find that your friends and family
start to steer clear of you,
because things always end in an argument
that they'd rather avoid.
Number four, you don't like it when other people succeed.
Are you constantly comparing yourself to others?
Do you feel incredibly self-important?
When you have a bloated ego,
you feel like you deserve more success
than the others around you,
because you think your hard work trumps everybody else's.
You might be left feeling frustrated
when others get promoted at work or get awards at school.
You feel that you deserved that promotion,
or should have received those awards instead,
because you are prone to jealousy
over other people's success.
This can harm your friendships
and leave you feeling isolated.
Number five, you set unrealistic goals.
Do set unrealistic goals for yourself,
just to show others that you are superior to them?
Setting unrealistic goals for yourself
is common behavior with an inflated ego,
due to the pride and extremely high expectations
that you have for yourself.
This puts additional pressure and stress on your shoulders,
and might cause you to push others away.
For example, imagine you've set a goal
of getting full marks on every single course in university,
to prove that you are smarter
than everyone else in your classes.
Say, you are studying alone
and then your dormmates are being loud next door,
talking and playing music.
You angrily march over there
and yell at them for being disruptive,
before going back to your studies.
Holding onto the belief that you're better than others,
will take a huge mental and physical toll on you.
You are constantly afraid of someone being better than you
and live in fear of the day that others will see you fail
to achieve your unrealistic goals.
Number six, you lack empathy.
According to "Power of Positivity",
if you suffer from an overly large ego,
you can also be described as a narcissist.
You might lack the ability to understand other's feelings
and where they're coming from,
and are solely focused on your own self-interest.
Examples of this type of narcissistic behavior
are evident when you say things like, "They deserve it
because they didn't do anything to stop it,"
whenever something bad happens to someone else.
Of course, not every person with a big head is a narcissist.
If you wanna learn more about narcissists,
check out the link in the description.
Did you recognize any of these signs
of having a large ego in yourself?
Having a large ego is different than simply being confident
in your abilities.
It's important to know the difference
between being egotistical and being confident,
as well as the difference between
always focusing on self-interest and self-care.
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