That one is that occurred to me with your story is sometimes the solution to the client's
problem can seem so obvious to us.
Because we don't have the problem.
Right, exactly.
That's kind of cool when that happens if we, because it can be a very obvious statement
to us, but if we present it in a sort of mind bending way, it can be my bending to the client,
even though it's very obvious to us.
Sometimes just saying what's very obvious to you directly is mind bending.
Yes, right.
What?
Have you ever done that?
You didn't mean to mind bending, it's just he saw how misaligned someone's perceptions
was to what you thought was reality and you basically said something along the lines of,
"It's not, it's that."
Have you ever done this?
Now that's a bit of a risky maneuver because that can go down the not being acknowledged,
respected sort of route, but when it takes, isn't it?
Everything you've ever wanted from mind bending language and more?
"It's not this, it's that."
"What do you mean?"
"Think about it.
It's not this, it's that."
You sometimes even repeat the exact same words and they'll go, "What?"
"Just think about it.
It's not this."
"Alright, I've called that part."
"It's that."
"You mean it's not this, but that?"
"Yes."
"Oh my God.
Oh my God.
You're right.
That's right.
"This changes everything," because it does.
Was that mind bending?
Was there some crazy language pattern?
No, it was a mind bending idea and that's all that we do.
Mind bending language is there to help you express mind bending ideas, and we go back
to the communications model.
The reason we do these question formula is so that we have a way of expressing ideas
that our culture does not habitually express.
It's to expand our vocabulary, so we can talk about things that our culture doesn't talk
about because those things our culture talks about routinely solves the problems that other
cultures had, but we don't.
We have vocabulary for that.
It's embedded in our culture, so we don't think about it.
It's those things that our culture does not routinely talk about, that at some point in
the edges somewhere creates the kinds of problems that our culture doesn't know how to resolve.
So in order to resolve those problems, we've got to think in a way that stands outside
of our cultural reference points.
We need an idea that's bigger or different, really different from, not really bigger even,
that's different from the ideas that we've been stuck on.
The idea, which in itself is mind bending.
It's a mind bending idea.
Mind bending language is a way of almost, if you do it mechanically.
Even though it's just doing mind bending language mechanically sometimes get the result done,
so you can have someone with a problem and then you just read out these mind bending
questions that you got in the first deck of cards.
You did that all in the first day of, the first video of the training series.
That in itself can just shift the problem.
Have you ever noticed that sometimes?
It's because the way those are formulated fundamentally change the relationship of the
person's perception in relation to the problem.
Somewhere along the lines you'll stumble accidentally, just by sheer dumb luck, on a mind bending
idea.
You already know what it is yourself.
They'll know because it's all their stuff that's being reconfigured.
The beauty of the binary mind bending questions is it's designed in such a way that the chances
of hitting a mind bending idea are well above average, which means well above our regular
communication mode, which memory is 60 percent failure.
Do you see how that works?
Then the problem comes in that you get mystified.
You have no idea why it worked because you could see it work, but you have no concept.
It's like magic and that's when you get into trouble because now you go to magical thinking,
which is, "What do I say?"
And that's not the answer.
The closer answer would be, "What do I think," so that they can change, but actually that's
not even the answer either.
The real answer is, "What do they need to think," or more accurately, "What do they
need to perceive so that the problem can no longer maintain itself."
That's a long loop because in order for them to guide them to their perceptions, it helps
immensely if you go first.
So you perceive it in a way that they can't, which is where you mentioned you got stuck
on clients or who was it that says, "You get stuck with clients when you don't know the
problem's insoluble."
That was you, right?Really what you're saying is you got the same stuck attentional perception
that they have.
When you can perceive it from a way that no longer allows that, it's basically called
creativity, right?
Then they can no longer hold on.
No, sorry.
Then you can no longer hold on the problem.
You free now, you're liberated, they're still stock.
Next, you have to communicate that idea in some meaningful way.
That's why we need the language so we can get this mind bending idea out of our heads
and into the world.
We need to facilitate with a vocabulary so you don't just go, "Um, no, it's not that.
No, it's not that.
No, think of a different, think of different, again and again and again."
If you kept doing that and actually they kept changing to a different thought, eventually
they hit it.
You go, "That one, that's the one I want," but that's not going to happen in a regular
conversation.
So the reason we have mind bending language is so you can express a mind bending thought
with a reasonable chance for it to be understood.