i am here with my friend tara hills today and we are going to have ourselves a blast so
what we're going to talk about today you guys is big think so some of you know about
big think and then some of you may be new to like the martha verse not my term but
my students term um i did not come up with that just so you know but some of you may know about
big think and some might not and what we're going to get into is really what it's about and how it
is actually changing people's worlds in a really profound way so tara let's go ahead and get out of
it actually let me see i'm sorry real quick real quick uh you guys can win stuff i always want to
let you guys know you can win stuff all you have to do is subscribe to my youtube channel comment
on youtube videos and share my youtube videos to social media tag myself for my business page in it
one person every week is going to get a little tappy tap to bring them on over
so let me go ahead and get rid of that all right so tara let me know what life was like a pre
big think but really because the reason why i even asked this question is i want for people to
understand the difference that really happens and to like to have it really illustrated to them
so they see it so what was life like before like before you understood how much you could actually
do with just self-talk and that sort of thing well it was a big thing for me is complementary
to um hpr home business revolution because i took the two the tag team so it's really the two in one
right one was like the main course but i didn't i thought big think was going to be a little side
dish but i'm worried it ended up becoming for me at that time in my life by god's grace exactly
what i needed so it was like before this would have been pre-made 2021 just a couple months ago
you know christians stay at home wife and mom almost 11 kids have been homeschooling
now for like 11 years and yeah that wasn't the plan because you know man makes his plans but
the lord directs his steps so yeah i'm just living my life you know tried my hands at like
dip my toes in a couple little businesses because of course we'd love to have you know more than
one income stream we're always aware that anything happened to my husband who's a local
handyman we're in trouble we've got maybe 30 days before we're in a welfare level scary situation
so yeah i'm just quietly living my life very content and grateful to freely home school i
live in canada and so that's just it right it's a pretty full-time gig i've had a kid every two
years for the last 16 years so that's my full-time stuff but if i was honest and the quietness of the
night when the kids were asleep it was just me and god there's this like aching in my heart
that i felt guilty about i was like i want even more i don't want to get rid of this this is good
i love loving my family i love homeschooling them i want to do all this and serve you i see the big
picture generationally i'm all on board with big families stay at home homeschooling mom
and dad i feel like i could i could do and be more but what what you know what so
i've said it before that i realized in hindsight that i was quietly having a funeral in the
backyard of my life and i was just bearing my dreams and my ambition i'm like well i guess
god's just called me to you know be content and i will choose to be content and grateful and that'll
be that and i will i guess all those dreams and desires and ambitions for more were just
maybe i don't know temptation or something maybe the lord is just testing my resolve
so i just kind of buried it because otherwise it was it's like window shopping when you don't
have money to buy yeah you're like i'm just torturing myself i might as well just move on
i guess this is my life you have such a way with words like i'm just gonna say that like
from an edification standpoint like the way that you describe things it's you've got a really
unique well perspective a but even what the way of being able to deliver those thoughts like my gosh
you're so fantastic at that um you know i think i know where it came from too because our uh kayla
had asked this morning what's one thing you wish your parents had known when you were little and
i was like i wish they knew that i didn't know how to speak french he threw us into pure french
school like a hundred percent nuns catholic french school and were english speaking and i didn't know
how to speak french for the first two years of my life so i i was trying so hard to communicate
that i think it actually honed me to communicate better now as an adult because i'm like
let's communicate let's communicate well because i was so frustrated and lost for two years
developmentally oh my gosh i love that and also i'm just going to say this because i know this
you have one of the courses that you have is going to be about communicating in your in your family
so like big family communication being able to communicate well with your kids and being able to
communicate with everybody and have everybody on the same page or as close to the same page as you
can be with 11 kids right yeah yeah that's awesome it was forged out of the fire right yeah that's
that's life man that's life right so a lot of people will go through those things and they'll
they'll feel like oh that happened to me what was me right and then they don't get to see the
other side of it of like here's the blessing that came out of that right like that's the
that's the coolest thing so whenever you took big think and you thought it was gonna be like
probably just this fluffy little mindset course right like how many of us pick up
a mindset book and we're like ah this is probably gonna be stuff i've heard before
this is probably gonna be you know like just fluffy and then whenever you went through it
hey what was the first thing that you thought whenever it first started going like yeah that
would be like module one i did it again like late at night eleven o'clock kids are asleep
i'm a night girl so i can go until about one am praise the lord i don't need that much sleep
so i yeah the first module i have i actually have my little notebook here i was reviewing
the notes because it's been like since may here we are almost october yeah
and i was like oh this is gonna be big it's gonna be good um might wanna get some kleenex
serious i think i was crying even doing it like that's even like delivering the module as i was
recording videos like i was getting teary-eyed because what we're doing is we're letting go
of every oof here here we go we're letting go of everything that isn't true about us
and we're letting go of everything we're only keeping what god would see in us what god does
see in us like who we really are to him right like that's that's the part we hang tight to
and then we just let everything else go which is i mean it's a methodical way of just doing that
instead of thinking i want to do that and then you can't really it's it's like a walk through
on that stuff so cool well what happened go ahead i'm sorry like as a mom when i started to ask
the question like here's the first question what are some things i believe about myself
that just they're not true so i started writing them down i got like 20 things here and this
isn't the first time in my life i had ever done something like in a prayerful kind of way maybe
in like a prayer ministry or at bible college or whatever so it wasn't like the first time but
you know there's always more so i started writing things down i'm thinking as a mom like if any of
my kids believe this stuff about themselves like my mama bear would come out so fast yeah so fast
where i would like i take a bullet to pull that out of their heart because i could see right away
man like it's the first one i don't like i'm gonna cry i'm a loser it's the first thing i wrote down
you're not my daughter's name is by me and i'm like can you give me kleenex
can't you give me one too please sorry so i was like oh oh
if we're gonna move forward in this new business this home-based resolution you know 10k a month
multiple streams of income five to ten hours a week which i'm all on board with
and and i'd seen people in my life my own sister was doing it very successfully very manageably so
i was all in with hbr and she's like tara you got to do big thing i was like okay boss like you said
it all do it i wasn't questioning i kind of joke and i say you know uh listen to the millionaire i
think she knows what she's talking about so when i started doing it my mama bear came out for myself
my friend myself and it was just really really intense and powerful and yeah if i started reading
to some of the other things yeah just keep the waterworks to a minimum yeah i hear you i hear you
that's i i don't have anything to add to that that's that's fantastic now what now
what has happened to you so that was in may is when you took it and and big think is a cool
thing because you can just take it and retake it and retake it and read it you have it for life
right so you can just as you feel like you need like a tune-up you can just take it again but
since may what are things that have changed in your life like it's probably from hbr and
big think but the two of them together what has really changed in your life
well i started just going through the hbr modules kind of like a college student and i was like
you're kind of like nerdy about it and i was just like okay step one step two i just kind of
you know took my calendar i'm like okay i'm these evenings of the week and uh my husband sat with me
because he was like oh this is cool we'll just sit together in the evening and do like an hour and a
half of studying and i just had my little spiral notebook so i just followed directions because you
laid it out so simply and you really said like don't next flicks and chill kind of thing like
really which i could have with my husband right there but i was like just you know do the things
yeah and that's what i joke i said i call them do the things so i i developed a um like a clear what
am i who am i here for and without kind of like getting too much into it i now have a personally
branded website i have a growing facebook group that's devoted to helping other big family moms
overcome struggles and growing grace and it's growing you know every week i have little daily
tasks that i've built into my busy big family mom life that are very sustainable i have a book
coming out in two weeks and seven courses dropping in two weeks as well that are all focused on that
heart i never knew that my big family mom life had any value to anyone else other than my children
you know you just live your life you're quiet you're private i'm super introverted
like the pandemic for me has been a mixed blessing so i'm like oh great
see anybody i have the perfect excuse yeah sorry mom i come over i'm the same way though like for
real it's when they were like we all have to stay home i'm like cool i'm already here so
like business as usual yeah so this has given me um not just something to do but it's almost
been like like a like a new river channel where all this ambition and dream and desire that yeah
there's a money piece because of course there's a there's a money piece and this isn't a charity
uh but at the same time i'm like happy to serve in this way because 15 years ago as a brand new
mom i don't even know how to change a diaper no idea was doing i wasn't prepared for motherhood
as a prayer for career so being able to help other moms in that way in a way i was so bad i
had someone to talk to when i was scared to have a big family or like literally didn't even know how
to handle temper tantrums yeah to have someone i can connect with especially like locally it's
so hard right now i'm in canada we still have tons of restrictions and just like it's hard to connect
at all as a stay-at-home mom but virtually we can connect and now it doesn't feel so weird because
we have like voice we have visual we have zoom it's really it's real this is real people talking
to real people and really serving and helping each other it's beautiful i used to hate facebook i've
been off it for five years it just became like this party i wanted to leave but being back and
finding there's beauty and joy and opportunity to to love and to be loved i mean it's risky too
because i'm being seen and i might get some mud flung at me but the big thing that that peace
has just helped me kind of reinforce like who i am and who i'm serving and who i belong to
and you know stand up taller and be like yeah i'm here to glorify god in a way that is unique
drawing from my own life in a way i wish so bad 15 years ago somebody could talk to me like this
because i didn't have a big family mom mentor like where are they where do they hang out can i meet
them yes oh my gosh and i see you even moving into events and stuff like that where you have
like big family you know how there's homeschooling events and stuff i almost feel like there's a big
family event coming up where it's just like you all can get together and and and really just be
amongst each other um and i mean that'd be a real big family like that's like the biggest family
oh man i love it like my mind is already like you could do this um well
first of all you mentioned your group and i want i want people that are watching if you're in a big
family if you have a big family if you're thinking about having a big family and maybe you're scared
of what that looks like i i would totally suggest you join tara's group so you can get the support
that you need tara what's the name of that group again big family moms so you just like facebook
search big family moms it's probably going to come up right away you'll see my pretty face
and overcoming struggles and growing in grace so i speak from a distinctly christian perspective
like this is me you're gonna get it like it or not so that's the group and big family
moms it's kind of like three plus in today's culture but by no means are we exclusive like
you know where's your papers do you have three children i wanna say birth certificate
you know there's even some women in the group that have no children yet at all aren't even
married because they're just like i want to hear from you as an older christian woman and i'm like
really thank you for allowing me to speak into your life that way because i go live three times
a week and i'm very active in that group far more active than i am on my personal profile i
always have to remember to post family pictures now because i love the group of women so much
i love it i love it um and then if you guys if if you wanted to jump into big think you're
more than welcome to do that i believe that the link is in the description of this video
and then also if you are not in hbr yet i would be remiss and say in not saying uh how to be able to
get in there it's going up in price significantly uh so it goes up to 10k pretty soon and it's
deservedly it goes up to 10k there's a lot of stuff being added it's very very cool but
um right now it's 1497. so all you have to do is go over to live in the dream with martha
it is my facebook business page message me the words let to do this rainbows and unicorns
whatever you want we're going to have a short chat i'll give you the details of the program
you're in or out in either way i'm not gonna be weird with you i'm not gonna chase you around the
internet i'm not gonna like send you a bunch of emails i'm not gonna do anything like that
this is and i don't teach you to do that either i think that's the most important thing
i'm not gonna teach you to be weird but excuse me what i'm teaching you essentially is how i
grew multiple income streams from home without ads okay you're not spending money on ads too
and it's in about five to ten hours a week once all your stuff is set up so it's very feasible
it's very sustainable this is what every family on the planet needs so i thank you so much tara
for coming live with me today i appreciate your insights um i appreciate your truth i appreciate
your surrender and everything and just thanks for showing up in the world the way that you do
thank you for giving me a place to show up i appreciate you so much
i love you hey everybody you have a good day and we will see you tomorrow bye