are you comfortable in your own company could you spend an entire day completely alone and
be at one with your own thoughts and feelings i believe one of the greatest gifts in the entire
world is the gift of your own company the gift of self-love and self-worth and i think that for any
aspirational person it's key to focus on success internally first before you seek it externally
through starting a new business or starting a new career path now for years i couldn't be alone i
struggled to be with my own company and i had to be surrounded with other people all the time and
i was struggling with this identity crisis and this lack of self-awareness and instead
of working on it it was easier for me to just do [ __ ] with people but it's not until i asked myself
the question jordan why are you uncomfortable on your own that i realized how much of an impact it
would have on my life and i sit here in front of you the owner of two successful businesses
5 000 miles away from home completely alone and yesterday was one of the greatest days of my
entire life so today i'm going to be talking to you guys about some of the things that helped me
get a greater sense of self-worth self-awareness and inner peace things that enabled me and will
enable you to achieve more and reach euphoric levels of happiness within your life so the
first thing i would say is stop seeking validation from other people you do not need to do this when
i was in university i was studying a subject that i lost love with ironically the reason i went to
university is because society told me that's what i had to do if i wanted to be successful and the
subject i studied was based on the validation i got from somebody else when i asked what on
earth should i study i want to make money i like creative you should do architecture i didn't
validate that myself and that's why it didn't work out so when i was at university i started
a side business i actually started promoting in local nightclubs okay i was selling tickets on
the street getting people into the club now that escalated and grew into me actually owning this
promotions business and i started being the person responsible for putting on the event and hiring
the promoters and this took a lot of my time and so i built this reputation in my city i built this
sense of ego the sense of poise that i was the club's guy right i knew all the guys that i needed
to get in get lists i knew all the girls that i wanted to pull into the club i had the contacts
if you messaged me i'd get you in and this gave me some false sense of importance based on validation
from all these people that actually didn't give a [ __ ] about me and that was really dangerous for
me because i started putting all of my time into it and i started fueling it and then i got kicked
out of university because i stopped attending when i stopped attending at this point the nightclub's
event business was not doing very well i was losing an awful lot of money but i still had this
person who i thought i had to be in my local area and i was just kicked out of university
with no revenue source and i needed to figure it out and so i got myself in an awful lot of debt
i got myself in five to eight thousand credit card debt and this for me was an awful a lot
of money at the time right and i was completely depressed and completely burnt out and i needed
to do something to get myself out of that position so i got my first sales job now at this moment in
time sales was just the most terrifying thing to me and i had to do 100 cold calls a day talk
about jump in the deep end right so i had just started in a sales job and i was terrified i used
to walk to the edge of the office with trembling like literally trembling holding my scripts like
absolutely terrified i was useless at sales when i first started and i was completely alone i had
nobody around me validating my success it was a doggy d dogger eat dog environment if i wasn't
making those sales and i wasn't actually getting sales and i was gonna get the sack there was a
massive high turnover business but i needed to get myself out of this position i was forced into
a corner a corner that i was in completely alone because i had too much pride and arrogance and ego
to tell people that i was in a bad position or even my family knew that i was in this position
nobody knew how low i was so for the first time in my life i was completely internalizing everything
okay and validating my own thoughts and in this sales job i thought jordan what can i do what can
i do to get at least i need to i'm bad at sales how can i do this right and i thought to myself
let me learn this sales script everyone around me i see is like a robot they're walking around with
these scripts but they're reading from the same word but as human beings we speak differently we
have different dialects okay i don't speak in the way that this script speaks and that's why i'm not
resonating with it and so i went home one evening and i learned the script off by heart as if i was
going to in a drama class in school i learned it i read it through repetition and then i had it in my
mind and i understood the reasons why what i was saying so when i went into the office the next day
i started cold calling i had way more confidence i had way more poise right and within three months
i was in the top three performers in that entire company because i validated my own thoughts for
the first time in my life because i was forced into a corner and i had to internalize and i had
to get out of it myself and from that moment on i realized that i don't need validation from other
people i just need to trust my own intuition i need to trust myself and lean into myself more
and so i encourage all of you to do this one thing number one bring consciousness to the validation
you get from other people already and think about how much happiness that really brings to your
life and how much purpose that serves and number two master something learn a skill like i did in
sales on your own not with somebody else and gain confidence within yourself this could be skiing
this could be golf this could be sales right just master something completely alone trust yourself
and start validating yourself seek validation from yourself do not seek it from other people
cool another thing i want to talk about is detaching your sense of self-worth
from everything and i mean everything because your self-worth is not about what you have
or what you can do it's about who you are and how you feel so going back to that sales job and that
period within my life i had just learned and mastered a new skill and i was earning
really decent money but my sense of self-worth was still attached to how much money i was making
because i thought the more money you make the happier you will be the more worthy i will feel
of happiness and therefore the happier i will be and i had this from before i went to university
my motivator for going to university in the first place was earning money i thought that's what gave
you a heightened sense of self-worth and therefore happiness but i remember about a year later when i
was in a new job a pivotal moment i was sat in the office and i just come back from a holiday with my
girlfriend and we were talking about being back to reality and it just didn't sit right with me
do you know that term when we go on holiday and that the the week before you come back home you
say oh we've got to go back to reality and that to me is just an f'd up statement when your reality
is a negative thing so you dread having to go back to it when actually that's your normal life
that's where you're spending 99 of your time you shouldn't ever dread that period didn't sit right
and so i was having this conversation in the office and i was looking around me and i was
thinking to myself wow i'm earning more money than the majority of people who are twice as old as me
but i feel so much more awake to the world and i realized in that moment that it wasn't money that
i was seeking right because money wasn't ever going to make me happy money was never going
to make me feel fulfilled it was overall freedom and freedom not just to enjoy my money and my time
and be able to do whatever i want whenever i want but freedom internally free them so that i am not
confined or i do not attach my self-worth to any one thing the freedom for if i'm not making money
i'm still happy the freedom for if i'm really busy i'm still happy the freedom for if i lose
everything tomorrow and my business drops to zero i am still happy because my sense of self-worth
is not attached to one thing and in that moment i denounced my attachment to finances
and i said to myself that i was never going to attach it to anything else again
because self-worth is about how i feel self-worth is about who i am self-worth is about
being alone like this and being comfortable in your own skin and being a success yourself
so detach self-worth from everything and make your life's purpose about learning about yourself
and what makes you click and what makes you happy and make your life purpose about helping other
people which is the place i ultimately transition to in my business man i realize i can talk about
this topic for hours and hours and we can dive into each of these these topics in a lot more
detail and each of them deserve their own videos so if you would like that guys please do drop
me down a comment below if this content is is useful to you this is me just talking my mind
and externalizing my thoughts because i have these thoughts a lot alone but i maybe don't feel
confident enough to put them on youtube because i don't know if you guys will want to hear them
so let me know anyway uh moving on and i suppose where i'm getting to from this this self-worth
thing is you should allocate time within your life regularly to learning about who you are and what
makes you click time on your own and you can do this through a hobby or multiple hobbies you could
do this through business you can do this just by going out for a walk get comfortable with being in
your own skin i was shocked that i actually put an instagram story out yesterday asking people
if they are comfortable on their own completely by their own in their own thoughts right and 45
percent of people said that they weren't which to me is shocking because i attach so much of
my success to the fact that i am so comfortable being in my own skin and i don't need validation
from anybody and i'm so confident in who i am and what i'm going to achieve that nobody is
ever going to get in the way and nothing can stop me achieving what i want to achieve and if i can
help you guys get that level of self-confidence because i didn't come from this place i was an
introvert and i turned into an extrovert and it's okay still to be an introvert but i was
i struggled with my own company a lot and if i can help you get to the place i am today and feel
how liberated i feel today then i will do that in any way that i can so what i did was i started
allocating time to myself right when i first started the company you noticed you've probably
seen on instagram in the summertime i like to go out kayaking right i get out on the water i
live close to a river and sometimes i go alone and i spend like 12 hours completely in my own
forts just paddling along the river thinking about myself and when you are on your own you are forced
to think about uncomfortable situations you are forced to face your demons and your insecurities
and you actually begin to love those things about you i used to criticize myself so heavily right
and now i love my flaws and i lean into my flaws and i lean into my strengths in the same light
so understand yourself and one thing i'd like you all to do is there's a website 16 personalities
i'll put a link in the description take that and and and learn your myers-briggs stores
your myers-briggs code right or your personality type it's going to teach you a lot about yourself
and you'll be shocked when you start to start reading about yourself and the kind of person
you are understand your strengths and weaknesses and do not try and change them right we can work
on ourselves as human beings but fundamentally who we are i don't think you should mess with that
i think you should lean into who you are and learn how to manipulate that within the world
and how to get what you want through who you are i think that's all i want to get at today guys
but allocate time i tell you one thing i do and i do this this is these are almost uncontrollable
moments uh every now and then in my life i have check-ins with myself and they're hard to explain
to people because what i do is i stand and i say to myself okay this is one of those moments and
maybe i'm just gonna be looking over something i had one of these yesterday and i was standing
on top of this canyon and i had this thought okay jordan you're checking in with yourself right now
and i say jordan this is where i am in life right now this is how i feel this is how happy i am
these are the things i want to work on and let's see where we are next time we check in with
ourselves and it's like goal posts throughout my life maybe i do this once twice a year sometimes
even more than that but realistically it's probably like once or twice a year and i
check in and i use them as mental goal posts it's my personal development time it's my time to say
okay jordan how woke are we to ourself and how much inner peace do we have to try that as well
yesterday i i've been at a business mastermind in l.a i'm in los angeles right now i'm actually in
the malibu hills and over the past few days i've been in a business mastermind and now i have adhd
my mind is always racing and i'm always trying to think about hence why on video sometimes i
i'm not even speaking fluent sentences very well because i'm always thinking about what i'm going
to say next and so over those three days of the mastermind i had so many thoughts and i
needed to internalize them i needed to get in my own skin right and so i now crave my own company
i crave being by myself and so i booked this incredible airbnb it's in the malibu hills it's
in the canyon it's nested and i love nature i feel like one at nature i feel spiritual within nature
and i just early morning went out walking and i walked for like eight hours by myself exploring
and the landscape here is so rugged and harsh and it's exhilarating and i felt alive and i
screamed at the top of my voice and i had a smile on my face the entire day and i feel so
grateful to be in my own company and i wish that all of you guys could experience that so i hope
the things today help you to do that i'll throw up some b-roll this place is absolutely beautiful i'm
actually flying home today to get home to crack on with work but yeah that's it see you soon bye