Hello! This is Cynthia Sue Larson
with RealityShifters.com Today I am talking with you
about quantum jump starts
into good relationships, improved relationships, and true love... all those things!
So you might be wondering how can all those things
be possible with quantum jumps? You may be familiar
by now with my book, "Quantum Jumps: An Extraordinary Science
of Happiness and Prosperity," and if you're not,
then I'd like to introduce you to some of the ideas in it today.
One of them has to do with a true-life experience that I share
about finding true love in a telepathy experiment. This has to do
with a couple of participants who were engaged in studying telepathy.
It had to do with noticing whether or not
anything would change when they're being stared at by someone who's not in the
same room.
So one of the participants
was gazing intently on a closed-circuit screen that was
intermittently showing another person in another room. In this case,
the person doing the viewing is Mark Boccuzzi,
and the person he was viewing was Julie
Beischel. I hope I'm pronouncing that correctly.
What happened that is so interesting is
that every time Mark could see Julie,
there were noticeable spikes at the exact same moment
that her image was taken away. It was almost as if her body was saying,
"Where did he go?!" and that's what Julie said afterward. At the time, Julie couldn't
immediately
tell anything when she talked to Mark
about the powerful connections that she was feeling, because after all, they were strangers
who just met in this experiment. But now, Julia and Mark are married,
and they do credit telepathy for helping meet and fall in love. Julie says, "It was
like nothing I had ever encountered." One of the things I love to do in this
book, "Quantum Jumps" is that I go through
some of the different things you can do to get a quantum jump start
in life. The whole idea here springs from
psychologist William James's idea that one of the best things you can do
is to take action. When you act as if you have a quality,
then you definitely are much further along toward having
that quality. Often, that's all it takes, is to start doing things in accordance
with that new belief, that new idea. So you can improve your relationships
by acting close. I've got some wonderful descriptions of that,
based on some science that's being conducted. One of the researchers who is doing this work is at the
University of Hertfordshire
He is psychology professor, Richard Wiseman,
and he started off in life as a professional magician,
but now the kind of magic that he's doing has to do with working with speed daters
such as the ones that he worked with recently in Edinburgh, Scotland.
What he did is he separated the speed daters into a couple different
groups.
One group just ran like the usual speed dating
where at the end of every minute or two, people get up and
move to the next station, and it's just snap, snap, snap--
meeting new people all the time. The other group had something different
going on.
They had an assignment to do. And so what the assignment was
was special instructions for
these other couples to pretend they were already intimately acquainted.
These couples were instructed to hold hands, share secrets, and gaze into each others' eyes.
At the end of this study
when all the speed daters were asked how close they felt to their partners,
and how many of them would like to see their partners again, whereas only 20 percent
of the regular speed daters
wanted to pursue this relationship any further,
those who had done the special activities
basically voted 45 percent of the time that, "Yes!" They'd like to see
that person again. And this is what leads
Wiseman to say, "Actions are the quickest, easiest, and most powerful way
to instantly change how you think and feel."
This was backed up by University of California at San Diego
psychology professor Dr. Robert
Epstein, who conducted similar exercises,
this time with some things that he called "soul gazing" where two people just gaze into
each others eyes.
He found that there was a 7 percent increase
in loving, an 11 percent increase in liking,
and a 45 percent increase in closeness
with eighty-nine percent of the participants reporting
tremendous increased feelings of intimacy.
He had some other exercise as well, such as embracing each other gently,
sensing and synchronizing breathing, placing the palms of the hands as close as possible to
your partners' palm,
without actually touching. What's amazing about that is not only can you feel
the closeness, but sometimes
participants would notice sparks actually happening!
There was real chemistry and real electricity going on!
Furthermore, when they took actions to become closer to loved ones--
the main point that Dr. Epstein wanted
to make is that this is not inauthenticity,
because the students in his course were doing something new.
He said what they were doing is taking control over their love lives.
I think that this is an important thing to make note of. You can do this in
existing relationships that you have right now.
And so this idea that we can increase closeness just by what we do,
is one of the most powerful ideas
that I think could bring peace to this whole planet. So if you think about relationships
where
you might already have an idea in mind of who someone is or what they are
thinking, instead of getting fixated on what you think
they're thinking or that they're like, have in mind the idea instead that
you can access another possible reality. You can get to the reality
where instead of being that person that you find so difficult
to be around or that there are problems with, instead you are feeling
closer. This is one big way that you can start
asking that question I love so much, "How good can it get?!"
So until next time, this is Cynthia sue Larson with RealityShifters.com