I'm back once again.
Welcome back to you as well my dear elegant ladies.
Today I have a video for you where we're going
to talk about things you should never ask someone,
things that are very inappropriate,
things that are pretty much rude to tell somebody.
We are going to cover the ones that I felt
was the most important, so that you don't make
any of these mistakes.
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and the purpose of my channel
is to educate women about elegance,
and prepare them for success in high society.
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So let's dig into these horrible things
that I personally don't understand
how people don't even think about this.
Well, okay, I've also made a few of these mistakes,
but you know what ladies?
We live and learn.
I have sometimes said most strangest things
to people when such incredible awkward silence have erupted,
and that's how you learn.
So at least I'm happy that's coming to use.
So inappropriate to ask somebody, "How old are you?"
It doesn't matter if you're asking a man this question,
it doesn't matter if you're asking a woman this question,
and you are woman yourself.
Anybody who's asking anyone how old they are,
well, I think actually asking a child is fine,
but everybody else is off-limits.
If the person is over the age of 18,
do not ask them their age
because some people have their reasons
not wanting to disclose their age,
but it can also create this awkwardness, even with men.
Believe it or not, but even many men actually feel
like they don't want to discuss their age,
even though for men, usually, you know,
age is not as sensitive as it is for a woman.
Okay, number two, and we're diving straight
into the hardcore ones.
"Have you gained weight?"
What do you mean?
I mean, who wants to hear that they look fat basically,
or they have gained weight?
I've heard this being said to myself,
I've heard this being said to other people.
It's horrible thing because nobody wants to,
unless you're very actively want to gain weight,
but majority of us, we don't like gaining weight.
And somebody pointing out that maybe we look
a little bit chubbier than we did before,
like do you think that's going to make my day any better?
And I just don't understand
how people can not think about that,
how that's going to make you feel.
Maybe some people just don't have the capacity
or the understanding to think one step ahead,
this is definitely an off-limits,
never point out weight gain to anybody.
Speaking of weight gain, number three,
"Are you pregnant?"
What?
What if I'm not?
And if I am, I will tell you, right?
So let's clear this one out first.
I understand that some women, you know,
they are very pregnant,
and pregnancy's a beautiful thing,
and you wanna talk about it right?
But, first of all, what if the person is not pregnant?
What if the person is just overweight?
How are you gonna deal with that awkwardness?
And how are you gonna make that person feel?
I mean, that's like one step worse than,
have you gained weight question.
The fact that you are so overweight
that you look pregnant, I mean, nobody wants to hear that.
So that's one, number two,
okay, they might be pregnant,
but what if they don't wanna talk about it?
I don't know, there are people who are maybe superstitious,
or who just want to be discussing their pregnancy,
perhaps with somebody they don't know well.
I don't know, people are very different.
For that reason you have to let people
bring things up themselves if they want to talk about it.
Like recently I met a woman who was,
she was probably eighth months pregnant,
I did not ask her if she's pregnant
because it was up to her, or up to her partner,
to mention that so that we can start talking about it.
Not me starting the conversation asking questions,
is it a boy or a girl? Is this or that?
No, that's, you know, it can be private,
it can be things that people don't want to discuss.
Number four, "Why are you still single?"
Actually let's go into number five at the same time,
"When are you getting married?"
"When are you having kids?"
"Why are you still single?".
All these stupid questions,
I cannot stand any of these questions.
So when I used to be single,
I kept getting the question all the time,
why I was single.
When I have a partner,
I kept getting the question all the time,
when are we having kids?
When are we getting married?
Why do people think that this is something
that is normal or appropriate to ask?
And this is something that is extremely common,
it's incredible, whether it's online from strangers,
or it is in person, or it's family, or it's friends,
it can be anybody.
People are just pushing these questions,
these agendas, and I think it's so incredibly unfair.
I think we all know exactly what I'm talking about
because this is like one of
the weirdest human behaviors out there, I would say.
We deeply want to know,
we deeply want to have access to this intimate information.
I mean, what if, like, if I was single
and I was single for long time,
what if my reasons were because I had
some psychological issues that are very private,
that means that I cannot trust men,
and for that reason have a hard time committing.
The person asking me, is this the answer you want to get?
Or if I'm, for instance, with a partner,
and you're wondering why we don't have kids yet,
what if I cannot have children,
and I'm devastated about it,
and I cry myself to sleep every day,
what if that was the reality
and you keep pushing your agenda?
It is so incredibly unfair
and I think it's a really good reminder
for everybody out there,
really be careful with that type of questions you ask
because you never know what keeps somebody awake at night,
what can be a something very burdensome for some.
You really have to be careful.
So what do you think about that?
Dot, dot, dot, controversial subject?
Yeah.
A lot of people want to start discussing
with you perhaps something related to politics,
something that is very controversial,
and this is not something that you just ask somebody
and put them in the spotlight.
I've definitely also been in situations where people,
and sometimes men tend to have this bad manner
when they want to hear your comments about,
I don't know, some politics of some reason
because I guess they just want to test your intelligence.
But they're asking about something very controversial,
where you're starting to wonder,
okay, there is really no good way out of this question,
besides rejecting the person who asked it.
Because I personally refuse to go down that route,
and I think it's extremely ungracious of people
to put somebody in that position,
and I usually just decline.
But we will talk about ways
how to get out of conversations like this,
but in a different video.
Number seven, "Ah, how much did that cost?
"Was it expensive?".
This is something that I think is okay
to speak between close friends,
but definitely not if you're not a close friend.
If you are somebody who is acquaintances with somebody,
then you don't ask about how much things cost.
You don't talk about money in general,
like you wouldn't speak about, so how much do you earn?
How much money does your partner have?
How much money does your parents have?
Like, you don't speak about this, right?
At least in most cultures.
I don't think any culture allows any form of talk
about money, it's just too taboo.
So you have to stay away from the subject, like,
if you really, really want to know the cost of something,
just go to the bathroom, take our your phone and Google it.
That is much more elegant approach in life.
Do what you have to do to, but keep it behind closed doors.
Okay, this is a funny one, "Are those real?"
And it can be a diamond, a jewelry,
it can be a designer bag, it can be your hair color,
it can be your breasts.
I mean, people have the nerve to ask if something is real,
I don't know, what do you think about that?
Isn't that a little bit crazy?
First of all, if it was fake,
would you ever admit it?
I mean, who would openly say, "Yes, my diamond is fake",
or, "My hair color", well okay,
hair colors may be a little bit different,
I mean I can honestly say that I do highlights,
I don't think it's a big deal,
but I do understand,
some people keeping hair color very private,
it's a very big deal for some.
And same goes perhaps if they had surgery,
some people are very sensitive with this,
and you just have to accept it.
I will say that I'm somebody who is quite open
but obviously, I would never be able to have
the job that I have, and being on YouTube,
and talking about controversial things if I wasn't open.
But you have to understand that the majority of people,
they are not open at all,
they're actually quite reserved I would say.
So you just have to be,
don't ask if something is real,
plus it makes you look stupid.
I mean, is it real?
You can't stay that, no ladies.
Anybody who is an emotional eater
will definitely recognize themselves in this one,
"Are you going to eat all of that?"
I've definitely hears it because I've
had my share of emotional eating issues,
but this is really frustrating,
especially if you do have some form of, I don't know,
if you have an eating disorder,
if you are an emotional eater, maybe you're dieting,
and today is your cheat day,
and maybe you feel a little bit bad about it,
and somebody has to point out that you have,
you're eating a lot.
Now, one things is for sure though,
I would say elegant women,
they don't eat massive, big portions,
so it's good to maybe not go down that route.
But regardless of what you decide,
how much you decide to eat one day,
nobody should ever ask you about why you're eating so much,
or point it out.
It's extremely, extremely rude,
and I just don't think anybody would feel good
after such comments.
Okay, we have the last two ones,
ladies, number 10, "So where did you study?",
"What university or college did you go to?".
Again, sensitive subject.
There's a lot of people who did not have the opportunity
to go to go university or college.
It could be because of financial reasons,
it could be for other reasons.
And asking somebody where they studied,
what school they went to, if they have a degree,
you know, and all of that,
it can really be the wrong question to ask.
Now if you were asking somebody who was educated
in the finance schools and did loads of studying
that they're very proud of, then yes,
it's okay, this question can go by quite smoothly.
But you have to really take into account
that not everyone has had that opportunity,
not everybody did that journey.
Now lastly, number 11, "Do you believe in God?",
"What religion are you?".
Here we go, religion, politics, finances, what else,
education, what's your age?
I mean, all of this really, belong to the same category of group,
you just don't ask these questions, it's too sensitive.
Especially religion, it is such a private, personal thing.
Some people are not religious,
and they maybe feel judged for it.
Some people are very religious,
and maybe they feel judged for it as well.
Because there's a lot of like,
religion might just be some hoo-hoo haa-haa, you know,
and some people are just crazy if they have a religion.
Whilst if you don't have a religion,
you might be like this soulless stereotype,
kind of, so what do you believe in then?
You know, so this such a sensitive subject and I mean,
there will be lot of people who will be proud saying
that they're this, they're that,
but you cannot ask somebody, let them bring it up,
it's really important.
So let people do the talking,
they will share the information that they want you to know.
If they haven't shared it with you,
maybe they don't want you to know,
or maybe they're just fed up talking about it.
So always keep these things in mind,
always respect people, you know,
there are boundaries after all.
Now I do have another video called,
Things You Should Never Say To Rich People,
make sure to watch it now after this video.
Now I will see you there.