7 Simple Habits To Build YOUR Confidence In 7 Days
[0:00:00] So, the first step to build up your confidence,
let’s get rid of the confidence killers on your phone. We’re talking Instagram,
Facebook, Netflix. Have you ever heard the quote, “Comparison
is the death of happiness.”? Guys that’s the issue with Instagram and Facebook, you
go on there and you’re comparing yourself to this guy with six pack abs. You’re looking
at these family pictures on Facebook and say, “Gosh, why can’t my family be like that?”
Now, Netflix, what’s wrong with that? I mean who doesn’t like to have a Friday night
date in which they’re just going to watch Netflix and chill, right?
Now, don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing wrong with watching movie, the issue is spending
more than six to seven hours a week watching movies on your phones, spending time on social
media, and apps make it incredibly addictive and too easy to actually spend time doing
this. And when you spend time watching movie, binge watching your favorite shows, this is
doing nothing to help your confidence. In fact, studies have clearly shown that spending
more than ten hours a week entertaining yourself with apps, social media, television, negatively
affects your self-confidence. I’m not saying you got to quit, I’m saying make it a little
bit more difficult. When I want to access Facebook, I have to
go through my computer at home. Whenever I want to watch a movie, guess what? I’ve
actually got to set up a screen. So, maybe you want to unplug your television, maybe
you want to disconnect the cables, so you just make it a little bit more difficult.
That little bit of difficulty can actually prevent you from just sitting and vegging
out. In today’s video, gents, I’m giving you
seven simple steps that you can build off of to grow your confidence over the next week.
Now, this next step is really powerful. I want you to change the way that you see yourself.
And guess what? You don’t have to do it, instead reach out to ten people. Ten people
that you trust, ten people that won’t lie to you, ten people that you know pretty well
and ask them what makes you unique. What – what is it about me that is good? What is something
about me that you admire? And, all you need to do is get a few people
to respond back to you, and you may found, wow, these are things I never thought about.
I’m a great listener. I’m someone that can be counted on. I’m someone that pays
attention to the numbers. I’m someone that’s well-spoken. These are all things that you
may have taken for granted, but these people point this out.
And when you see it again and again and again -- and, that’s why I want you to ask ten,
all of a sudden you’re going to say this actually is a strength, this is a skill. We’ve
all got these special skills and ask other people to point it out to you and all of a
sudden you’ve got something to build your confidence on.
The next step for building your confidence, create a micro to-do list. Notice, I didn’t
say regular to-do list. A micro to-do list, everything listed here is going to be done
within just a few minutes. So, you don’t want to put anything big, anything that would
take an hour, anything that would take thirty minutes. So, don’t put on there, I’m going
to go to the gym. Put on there that I’m going to get ready to go to the gym.
Clothing, I’m going to get ready to go to the gym, my bag. Next up, I’m going to drive
to the gym. And you’re going to break up all your workout into parts as you make your
way through it and you’re more likely to continue to do the things that need to happen.
So, the power of the micro to-do list is you put things on here and you get started. You
look at these big things that you’ve been putting off and you break them into micro
parts. Getting started is one of the hardest things. Yeah, there are so many things you
got to do like go to the doctor. You’re embarrassed, you don’t want to go. You just
don’t like going to doctors. I get it, guys are like this.
So, you put on there, okay, I’m going to call and make an appointment. That right there
takes less than five minutes. You schedule it for the future. The point is you got started,
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clear off your desk. Yes, something that simple. Why does that work? Because if you’re in
a cluttered situation if you are overwhelmed with what’s going on, it’s hard to be
confident when you don’t even know what’s going on. But guess what? If you’ve got
a clean desk, it may be your desktop. Clean off your computer desktop, but find a way
to actually feel a bit in control. The next tip to build your confidence, be
a Boy Scout. No, you don’t need the uniform, but you do need their motto, “Be Prepared.”
So, when it comes to life, you cannot predict it and if you can, what do you do watching
my video? You should be out winning the lottery, being a multimillionaire.
[0:04:54] No, most of us cannot see the future, but
what we can do is take steps to actually be prepared for incidents which we know are going
to happen that you know that you’re going to run into disaster.
As a dad, I know I’m going to get kids with cuts with burns with scrapes and so what?
I’ve got first aid kits in all of my vehicles, on the bottom part of my house, the top part
of my house. And again and again those first aid kits have served us when somebody burns
themselves, when somebody gets stung by a wasp. You can do this in every part of your
life. If you’re a traveler, you’re prepared
because you’ve got your documents, you got multiple copies, you got them scanned, you’ve
got them up to date because disaster strikes those that are unprepared. Go to the gym and
train and things like that, guys, you’re going to feel better because you know that
you’re ready for the unexpected. And, speaking of going to the gym, you’ve
got to make time to exercise. And, I know maybe you’re a busy entrepreneur like me,
I get it. I have actually gone awhile without going to the gym or maybe it’s just someone
you don’t like the gym, you don’t like to exercise.
Well, I challenge you to do this. One pushup because if you can do one pushup, you’ll
be able to do two and then you’ll be able to do three, ten, and you can go from there.
The point is you’ve got to get that heart going. You’ve got to actually get the endorphins
running through your body, so that all of a sudden you feel better.
Because if you think that you can think your way into being more confident alone, you’re
wrong. Our body is connected to our mind. There is so much here going on. You can just
drop and knock out some pushups, you know get a pull bar. I know I’ve got one in my
office. Go just for a walk around your town. I know tons of people do that. Getting yourself
in nature, getting a little bit of an elevated heart rate, all of a sudden the endorphins,
the chemicals going through your body, they change and you start to feel better about
yourself. Now, this next one is probably my favorite,
and that is being grateful and don’t keep it to yourself. I want you to pass that on.
Be grateful for everything you’ve got and thank others for helping you succeed.
Call up your mom, call up – you know I’ve got a tailor in town that she’s really helped
me a lot with my business when it was first – my first business getting started. And
to this day, every time I’m around, I try to bring her flowers. I try to, you know,
just warm her up because I know she doesn’t really have a family. She doesn’t have a
whole lot going on. But, this feels good to me to warm her up,
for her to feel great. This is something you can do with anyone. You can send them a quick
email saying, hey, I haven’t talked to you for a year, ma’am. But, I want to thank
you for that bit of advice you gave me and how it has transformed the way that I made
it through school. There is somebody out there that would appreciate
you reaching out, but you feel good when you give and they feel good when they receive.
So, I mean, come on, be grateful and pass it on.
Now, this next one is a little bit out there, but stick with me. So, imagine you’re an
animal. Whatever animal, choose an animal, your favorite animal, and imagine that you’re
that. For me, it’s the tiger. So, Tony the Tiger of Kellogg’s Frosted
Flakes as a kid I – it was Tony. I was known as Tony. It was like we had this connection.
He even had that little Tony right there on his bandana. Point being is a tiger has confidence.
And if you’re Tony the Tiger, you’ve got to have confidence.
So, you may think you’re clumsy, but you’re not an elephant. You think of yourself as
a panther, then how does a panther move? How does a panther feel? And, an elephant, even
if you are a bit clumsy, is an elephant confident? Of course it is. It’s huge. It runs through,
it’s not scared of anything. Whatever animal you want to connect with.
The point is everything is right up here, guys. Understand that confidence is it’s
a buildup of everything that we’ve done, everything that we can be. It’s a muscle
that you’ve got to flex because if you’re not practicing if you’re not building it
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