Heya playa, have you ever wanted to reconnect with someone that you've fallen out of touch
with?
A crush?
A friend?
A family member?
But first, you've wanted to show them that you've grown and changed over time?
Don't worry, in this video, I'm going to explain the importance of picking up a hobby and growing,
so stay tuned because I'm going to teach you how to do that right after this.
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Now when it comes to picking up a hobby, I always recommend taking on something that's
going to push your boundaries and make you work a little bit harder but you're really
going to enjoy doing it.
For example, let's say everyone around you plays a sport.
There's really no purpose in picking up that sport if you're not going to enjoy doing it.
Even if it helps you get closer to those people because in the end, you're going to look at
that time and say "Wow, it really wasn't worth it for me".
And the same can be said about any hobby.
If you don't enjoy doing it, it really doesn't matter how close it gets you to other people.
Now you might be thinking, I don't really know what I want to do or what I'm going to
enjoy.
Well, that's where trial and error comes in.
It's ok to jump into things to try them out for a while to see if they work for you.
If you don't, don't feel like you need to stick with them until you like them because
that's now really how you find a hobby you love.
I go more in-depth in finding your path and your purpose in this video over here so let's
skip ahead a few steps and look at the benefits of finding a hobby that you love and allowing
yourself to grow with it.
You see, when it comes to reconnecting with a person they're going to assume that you're
different and you've grown from the last time you've interacted with them so you want to
showcase that growth.
You want them to see that you've learned things.
That you're experienced now and you're not the same person that you used to be.
One of the traps that people fall into is comparing themselves to other people.
This person's more successful, this person's more skilled, this person's smarter.
But instead, you should compare yourself to where you were back then.
See how much you personally have grown.
If you look at your old self and say "Wow, I've really become a different and more mature
person then that's a plus".
That way, when the person you're trying to reconnect see's you, they're not gonna say
"Yeah, you're still just the same awkward, creepy, silly weird, immature kind of person
you used to be".
Also, having a hobby lets you shape your identity a lot better.
Let's say you're taking karate, or going to Boy Scouts or joining a writing club or anything
of that nature, it helps sharpen your skills and makes you a more focused and determined
person unlike before where you spent a lot of your time playing video games, watching
TV and not really doing anything spectacular.
One of the major pitfalls that a lot of people fall into is a routine of boredom.
They don't really do anything extravagent, or fun, or exciting, or envigorating or any
of these adjectives with their lives so they just end up falling into this day to day,
every single day routine and then in the end they realize I haven't really accomplished
anything for myself.
And the person you're trying to reconnect with is definitely gonna pick up on that.
Let's say for example there's a girl that you asked out a long time ago but when you
did it you were shy and awkward and nervous about it and because of that she didn't really
want to go out with you.
Well, how have things changed exactly?
You might say that because you've taken on a new hobby, you've grown and learned new
things.
That's helped you become more mature, experienced and confident in yourself.
So when you do ask out that girl again, you want to showcase those elements of yourself
to her.
You want her to see that wow, he's not shy, he's not awkward, he's not nervous anymore.
He's really a different person, this is a different person that's approaching me to
talk.
Plus having a hobby that you're passionate about makes you sharper around the edges.
It gives you something to talk to them about and helps make you stand out more.
So whether you're trying to reconnect with a crush that you no longer talk to because
maybe they blocked you or old friends that you just kind of fell out of touch with, having
a hobby, finding your path and your purpose in life, working towards something and building
that sense of confidence in what you can accomplish is always going to help you reconnect better
with people.
But now I want to know, what do you think, what's one of your hobbies that you're super
passionate about or if you don't have a hobby, what's something you want to try doing?
Leave it down in the comments section below and we'll talk about it.
Otherwise thank you so much for watching.
I hope you enjoyed this video.
Hit the thumbs up button if you found it helpful and remember guys, my new book Embracing The
Awkward is available, you can check it out on Amazon.
Alot of these themes and topics about growing and learning are things I mention in this
book so if that's something you feel you want to do with your life, definitely check it
out.
The link is down there in the description below and on that note, I'll catch you guys
next week.
As always, love and peace.