hey guys I just wanted to do this quick video I hope my arm isn't gonna like
completely fall off but I wanted to make this really quick for you guys because I
was just on a call to client and we were talking about a lot of stuff that I
think is really gonna be beneficial to you guys
so we were talking about her ego and negative self-talk where it all lives
you know when we have those fear thoughts stress thoughts worry thoughts
and where do they come from and we all know that they come from our ego they
come from that wounded part of ourselves right that's scared our ego wants to
keep us stuck and that's where all these thoughts live my arm is falling apart I
apologize so when we have those thoughts those fear thoughts obsessive thoughts
how do we get out of that place and she said you know a lot of the times I'm
self parenting and it's working really well and but there are times where the
thoughts just so convincing that it's really hard for me to like get out of it
it's so believable and I get entangled in it and then I get anxiety and then I
get panic and like all that stuff and what do I do and I said you know one of
the things is once we've realized like once you realize you are not your
thoughts you have to really accept that that you are not your thoughts and you
can't attach to your thoughts so when you have a negative thought or worry
thought any kind of a thought and you start attaching to it and you start
giving an emotional charge then it's gonna grow and it's gonna manifest into
anxiety and panic and things like that but if you just notice like oh look
there's a fear thought there's a stress thought and you don't attach and engage
with that bully that ego that fear thought then it just the fear subsides
but when we look at it head-on and we engage in it then it's gonna grow and
grow and grow so what happens once it's growing right how do we kind of like
make it go away at that point when it becomes a really big bully one of the
things is look at the thought so look at your ego and I for some reason I always
think my egos like sitting on the left of me for some reason I always want to
say my egos over here and like my good angels like over here but turn and look
at that part of yourself and really lovingly say to that part of yourself
why would you say that why would you say that why would you
want to scare me like that why would you want to keep me in fear you know why why
are you saying things that are so hurtful why do you want to keep me stuck
you know telling yourself like why would you say that to me that's so huge
because if you ask yourself a question you're gonna get an answer no matter
what the question is and no matter what part of yourself you're talking to so if
you ask yourself why would you say that to me why are you trying to hurt me why
would you say things that scare me like that if you're very honest with yourself
something's gonna come up from your ego that sounds something like I'm scared
I'm nervous I don't know what's gonna happen and I'm really scared about it
and your ego will start to be a little bit vulnerable with you it'll start to
like show you like okay where are my wounds really and that's your
opportunity to love that part of yourself
so when we when your ego starts becoming vulnerable and you instead of fighting
the ego and challenging it and saying why would you say that we're judging it
oh my god I can't believe look at you you're saying these things like or not
validating something right and just really sitting in that space of judgment
and or engaging in it right engaging in the self the negative self-talk that
you're having when those things happen again you're feeding into that but when
you look at it with love and you say why would you say that why would you want to
keep me stuck why would you want to be so hurtful to me that part of you so
when you start saying these things to your ego and subsides and it starts to
become real with you and vulnerable with you then you're able to really get to
like the point where you can parent yourself and when you have that ego that
wounded child and it's being honest with you it's saying I'm scared I'm really
scared like I don't I don't know why I'm saying these things I'm just really
nervous and scared that's when you really love yourself that's when you
become the adult and you take charge of the situation and you let that inner
child or that ego know that you're running the show and that's your
opportunity to look at that part of your self that's scared and that's being
vulnerable with you to tell you that it's scared and that's when you offer it
love and you look at that part of you like you would anyone that you love in
your life whether that's a friend a mother sister brother child it doesn't
matter someone that you really love can tune was honest and vulnerable and real
with you and said look I'm I'm scared like I'm really nervous like I'm scared
of what the future is gonna be and all of those things what would you say to
your friend would you say yeah I know I'd be pretty
scared too or would you be loving and kind and nurturing to your friend or
your child or mother or whatever and say I know you're scared
and I understand you know but right now in this moment we don't have anything to
be scared of right and that you are so capable of creating such an amazing life
that don't allow fear to take over and that you're a great human being and you
would start really saying all of these things to help boost this person up
that's what you need to start doing for yourself
as being your own cheerleader your own motivational speaker your own life coach
and saying those things to yourself and when the ego kind of like starts
breaking down and says I'm scared and this is why I'm saying these things to
just terrify you and worry you then that's your opportunity to say oh I got
him he's being vulnerable if she's being vulnerable and I'm about to take over
I'm about to be the adult and take over this situation so I hope that that helps
you guys just understand like the ego a little bit better so if you have any
questions comments don't forget to leave them down below don't forgive this don't
forget to give this video a thumbs up so I hope that helps you guys understand
the ego and how it works a little bit better sorry for the shaky cam this was
so random that I just wanted to make this so I'm I don't have my production
studio ready for you guys but I hope you enjoyed it and I hope you got some good
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