Julian: Hello again! Participant 1: Hello!
P2: Hello! Julian: How was that? Was that enjoyable?
P1: It was, it was pretty nice. Julian: What was it like to sit there and
just have to accept the compliments? P1: It was uncomfortable, but also relieving
to just be able to hear someone say how they feel about you and how you make them feel
and just to accept it. Julian: Is she successful at giving you compliments
or do you tend to deflect. How do you take them?
P3: Initially when she does it I obviously don't believe her and she gives me reasons,
explains to me why and it does help because I mean her opinion matters most.
Julian: When you were responding to Oscar, the first one you even deflected still and
as you went on you started accepting more. Did it become easier to let down your defenses?
What happened there? P1: It did become easier, like I said it's
kind of like an exercise, like a muscle, if you don't practice it then it's not there,
it's not fully formed. As you were going deeper into detail, instead of just responding "thank
you" how did that change how you felt? P4: I feel like it definitely made me appreciate
more what she had to say and just take to heart the fact that she notices little things
about me. P1: I felt not just more confident but more
able to be or do anything I want to do because I had someone that believed in me so much,
and saw what I had and valued it so very much!
Julian: Why do you have a harder time receiving compliments than you do giving them.
P5: I think it's because you judge yourself. You don't think you yourself are worthy of
a compliment. P3: I feel like everyones their worst critic
and so therefore that's why it's so hard to accept compliments because no one really compliments
themselves, I don't think at least. P1: I think when we're younger, somehow it's
reinforced in us to be receptive to positive things that are show to us or positive words,
at least for me that's how I always felt. Like I always felt if I completely accepted
it without returning something, the favor, it might look egotistical or just a little
overconfident and in my eyes I always felt like that was unappealing to people. I guess
I think it's something that we should all practice, being able to accept compliments
without having to feel we should say something back.
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