-Hi. In this video, I'm going to share with you
how to revive your relationship if it's on life support.
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-Hi there. I'm Mat Shaffer, your connection,
empowerment, and relationship coach,
to talk to you about a subject that comes up a lot of times
in my calls with my clients.
What to do, if a relationship is starting to fade,
if you've entered a cycle in your connection with your partner
where you two are just feeling distant, things have gotten heavy,
maybe you've pushed him away, you're starting to feel unsafe
in the connection so you've started to press him,
and he's checking out and he's disconnecting?
There's so many different reasons that this could happen,
and we're not going to pick apart why.
What we're here to do is explore how to hit the reset button
on your connection with your partner
to give it the best chance to reactivate him
and bring you two closer together again
so you can give the relationship a new life.
I'm looking forward to exploring this with you.
Take a second, hit that subscribe button, and let's dive in.
Let's start by looking at where you're at.
You and your partner have gotten distant.
For whatever reason,
the communication between you hasn't really been working the same way.
Maybe he's triggering you, maybe you're triggering him.
You're feeling unsafe. You're pressing.
It can be a thousand different things,
but the bottom line is there's space between you.
How do we bridge that space,
and how do we bring you two back into the deep connection
that existed when you two started dating?
There's one powerful thing you can do.
It's invite him to have an adventure with you,
because here's the thing, men are experiential.
At the end of the day,
if you can invite him- and I'm not saying to tell him to have an adventure with you,
but if you can invite him and help him understand that it would mean
a lot to you to go on an adventure with you,
then you're going to give him the space to create an experience with you.
That's going to give you guys a chance to reconnect,
because once it gets to a point where there's a ton of space
and a ton of issues between the two of you,
a lot of times, talking it out for a man can feel heavy, can feel intimidating,
and can sometimes make the divide worse.
What would an adventure look like that you and your partner can go on
that would be fun, that would be engaging,
and that would give you guys a chance to connect in a different container
than maybe the shared living space that you have or the traditional dates
that you've both gotten bored of?
Look at this, and what would be an unusual and adventure,
a pattern interrupt that would give you two a shared experience
to hit the reset button in your relationship?
Maybe it's going to some game lounge and playing video games
and doing something that's totally uncharacteristic that you would ever do,
something that allows you two to play.
Maybe it's going camping.
You could go to a music festival together or a street fair.
It doesn't have to be a traditional date.
In fact, sometimes the less traditional
and the less of the standard experience you can have, the better.
Make it something that gives you guys both a chance to get out of your heads,
into your bodies, connect.
Maybe team up with each other.
Something where you guys can work together.
An escape room is a fun thing to do.
Be creative, and knowing what he's into and what you're into,
come up with a fun,
exciting interruptive experience that you two can share together,
because at the end of the day,
while women are very verbal in their feelings
and in talking about connection and relationship and communication,
a lot of times for men, that can be very overwhelming to them,
especially if they're feeling a lot of distance.
Maybe they've got some guilt or they're carrying
a lot of heavy emotions towards you.
Hit the reset button by inviting him to plan an experience with you.
Come up with something together and get out there and play,
and have an adventure,
and hit the reset button on your connection with him,
and then see how things feel after that.
After that, he might be in a better space to reconnect with you
in a dialogue about whatever had come up
and whatever had created that space between you.
I hope that landed with you.
If it did, take a second and hit that little subscribe button,
hit the like button,
and I will see you next time on my YouTube channel.
Bye-bye.