Okay, so, I know I said that I wasn't going to have a baby shower,
but a few things changed and, uh,
I decided I was going to.
So here is all the decorations.
It's gonna be good.
Hi.
Um, my baby shower.
Love you, bye. ( smooches )
( music playing )
Yes!
( overlapping chatter )
This is for you, baby!
Oh, these little bottles are wonderful.
Yes, do you have your bottle?
Yes! Whoo!
( all cheering )
Yes!
( cheering )
( phone chimes )
( screaming )
( cheering )
Oh, my God!
( indistinct chatter )
What?
( phone chimes )
- Holy. - Oh, my God.
Ladies up here, look out for Shay.
( music playing )
( indistinct chatter )
( phone chimes )
- Whoo-hoo! - I'm so excited you're here.
Babe, I can't believe you're a freaking mom.
You're about to be a mama.
- Oh, my gosh. - Are you nervous?
Yeah. I am terrified of giving birth.
It's just a lot.
Okay, so, look. Maybe--
I'm just putting it out there, maybe you should get a doula.
Maybe you should have a pregnancy coach.
Yes. And I've kinda been going back and forth,
so I feel like that might be something I should look into.
Yeah, I mean, when you prepare for an audition, do you have a coach?
- Yes. - When you train for a workout, do you have a coach?
- Yes, a trainer. - So, when you're about to get on this, like,
- this is about to be the biggest journey. - Right.
- I feel like maybe that's... - It makes sense.
But I will say, too, no one is gonna be able to take of you like your mom.
Yeah. I'm actually going to Vancouver,
so I'm gonna get the whole lowdown on her story.
- Yes. - And then just get ready for the countdown.
- ( squeals ) - And then bounce back.
I'm bouncing back just like you.
- I'm gonna come back. - Melissa: Babe, you are.
- Okay. - Yo, when I see the footage, though,
what's my reaction gonna be?
I think you're gonna be, like, that was a nice show that you guys went to.
Mm-hmm. Like artful performance.
Artful and creative and very artistic in their movements.
- Okay, great. Did you have fun? - Anyways, it was really fun.
Yeah, it was great.
I think more people should have a baby bachelorette there.
"Baby bachelorette"?
Shay:
'cause I feel like just seeing her will not only put me at ease,
but make me feel better about what I have coming for me.
Other women are just like, "Oh, what's your birth plan like?
How do you plan on going into this?" I don't know.
I have no plan.
I talk to my mom 50 times a day, and she has no idea that I'm here.
We're the worst surprisers ever.
My mom is right there sitting on the deck
and she can probably hear us right now.
But we're gonna try.
I'm definitely the prankster of the family.
Actually, I got that from my dad, so who am I kidding?
I don't think she thinks it's even possible for me to travel at this point,
so she really believes that I'm in L.A.
- ( dog barking ) - ( screaming )
- ( laughing ) - Oh!
( indistinct shouting ) What are you doing here?
( laughing )
( shouting )
What are you doing? Oh, my God!
Hi, puppies. Did I surprise you?
You know. But you're supposed to be working.
How about that, ey?
- So this is all planned? - Yeah.
I'm lucky I didn't pee in my pants.
May you need to wear a diaper, too.
What did you say to me when I asked you about labor?
You were 17 hours.
When your water broke or whatever for me, what happened?
Actually, no, my water didn't break.
It didn't break, and--
How can your water not break? Your water breaks.
- It's, like, in the movies. You're like this. - No, no, no, no.
And then all of a sudden, you're like, "Oh, my God!"
Sorry, it didn't. With Sean, yes.
- Then how do you get it to break? How do I come out? - Nothing.
So I went to the hospital. It's awful. I didn't want to tell you.
They used, like a, you know, like the knitting needle.
- They-- inside you and poke you and broke my water. - What?
- Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Why did I ask? - See, I told you.
That's exactly what happened. I'm not making it up.
It's awful.
I'm d-- honestly, I just heard the most disgusting story.
I don't want to talk about it, but I'm gonna tell you.
- Are you listening? - Matte:
I asked my mom how her labor was.
I said, "When was that moment that your water broke?"
She said, "My water didn't break."
So the doctor got a knitting needle.
They had to break the amniotic sac for it to break.
And she goes, "It was a knitting needle."
Like, what?
It wasn't actually a knitting needle.
It obviously was not a knitting needle, not that.
She's like, English is her second language, but still.
- It's like-- was it painful? -
- It's uncomfortable, that's all. - Mom.
Oh, my God. You guys are useless.
Okay, I am absolutely getting a doula.
I don't want to do this anymore, so--
Well, too late now. ( laughing )
( music playing )
Do you ever put ranch with your pasta or Caesar?
- No. - I don't think it's, like, a craving thing,
but all of a sudden, I've wanted to put, like,
- dressing in pasta. - Really?
When I was pregnant, and craving Haagen-Dazs ice cream.
- Believe me. I used to have the trucks deliver it. - Yeah.
- Mark. - Would you say that you had an easy pregnancy, Gram?
I did. Easy pregnancy. Easy delivery.
- Wow. - Which was a precursor of what was to come, clearly.
I was just telling her about Dr. Gehr
putting his foot on the bed.
Yes. And that's no exaggeration.
He pulls out these forceps
and I'm just looking at these things.
It's like, "Oh, God."
And he puts his foot on the frame of the bed.
Puts the forceps on your head,
and starts pulling using the lever-- pulling you, yeah.
- Me? - Yes.
I can't even breathe 'cause I'm expecting your head to pop off,
but miraculously it didn't.
( laughter )
You know, the other thing, of course,
that you have to be cognizant of, you and Matte,
you're bringing in another human being into the relationship itself.
Matte's a great guy. I think he's gonna be a great father.
I think he's gonna grow into it, as I did.
And, uh, I can't wait.
Gram, what's your advice for me?
Just do what you think is best for the two of you, that's it.
- Mm-hmm. That's it. - Oh, yeah.
And drink a lot of rum and Cokes.
( laughter )
( music playing )
Shay:
it didn't necessarily bring me the comfort I was looking for.
I know I'll have Matte there for moral support,
but I feel like having a doula who can give us advice
would be a really good idea.
Hi.
What's up, baby?
- You eat? - You're cooking now?
- Yeah. - Wow.
So, how was Vancouver? How's the fam?
Fam was good. Gram was great.
Everybody's really excited.
Um, I do have somebody that's gonna come over.
The doula.
I think it's good that we both talk to somebody who's unbiased,
who knows a lot, so we can ask her all of the questions.
- Yeah. - She's gonna be in the room with us while I give birth.
And I think she can handle you if you try to make any sudden movements
in the room that I'm not liking.
I don't want to see what's going on.
So are we making a pact right now that no matter what happens,
you are staying north of the shoulders?
I might want to peak during the crowning process.
No, I-- see, this is what I'm talking about.
I don't want that to happen.
- I don't want that to happen. - Okay.
So, swear right now that you're not gonna do it.
- I'm not gonna swear right now. - Why?
'Cause I can't do that.
I'm putting it in my birth plan,
and basically your birth plan is like the law.
And I'm telling my mom, too, that I don't want you in front, and you know she'll stop you.
She's not-- no one's gonna be thinking about me in that room. I hate to tell you.
- Matte, I don't want you in front and seeing anything. - I am the smallest piece
of the process. Okay, I just said okay.
Like, there's one thing that I think should be remained a mystery.
Honey, I just said okay. No problem. It's up to you.
A hundred percent, it's up to you.
- So them swear... - Okay.
- ...that it's not gonna happen. - I can't do that.
- What? - I can't swear.
Stop saying that you are not gonna do it and then you fucking do it.
Say that you swear you're not gonna do it.
I can't do that.
Okay.
both: Hi!
Oh, my gosh, it's so good to meet you in person.
Me, too.
- It is hot today. - Yes.
- Ice water. I need this all over. - Thank you.
Ice packs.
- Matte? - Hi.
- Hi, nice to meet you. - What's up? Nice to meet you.
- Let's hug it out. Let's hug it out. - Congratulations.
- Love it. - We're gonna get close.
Real close.
So, I don't really understand this.
'Cause I don't-- I don't actually have any information,
but I know she's, like, "Yo, a hundred percent, I want a doula."
My role as your doula is to help guide you.
- Mm-hmm. - So I thought, like, let's talk about
what type of birth experience you want to have.
We've been having a discussion recently
just about the idea of epidurals.
- To not epidural. - Yes.
- Or no epidurals. - Right.
I think sometimes you need an extra layer of support.
- Yeah. Yeah. - If you've been in labor for three to four days,
- the epidural is your friend. - Three or four days?
- Yeah. Oh, wow. - Yes.
Mm, how soon after can I have a drink?
- ( chuckles ) - Or do I go straight into breastfeeding?
Well, you do go into breastfeeding, right, so, um...
Okay. Maybe she deserves a little celebratory drink, too.
- You know what I mean? - Right. So, but there are people
who have a celebratory drink at birth, right?
- Okay, yeah. - Should she eat the placenta?
- That's a personal choice. - Yeah, I want to.
- Yeah. - But does that actually help?
It has shown to help with mood swings,
milk production.
How much does it help with mood swings, by the way?
What, you want me to take 'em right now?
- No, no. - Are you okay?
- No, I am. Just asking. - It depends.
- Oh, okay. - It depends.
So, shots?
- Like, shots after the baby's born. - Immunization.
- Immunizations? - Okay. Around the baby's third day,
you have to take the baby to a pediatrician.
Oh, we have-- so a pediatrician is different from my doctor that's delivering?
Yes. You need a pediatrician. Your baby needs a doctor.
- Oh, we gotta find a pediatrician? - Beforehand?
- I-- I suggest it. - No one said that.
- No one told us this. - Well, now you have a doula.
- Thank God. - See? What would we have done?
( music playing )
The birth part has been so scary to me,
however after meeting Andrey,
I'm finally feeling some clarity
on how I'm going to face it.
Okay, week 35, headed to the doctor's office.
I feel good. I feel great.
Now, let's see what the doctor says.
Well, the baby's healthy.
- Here's the baby's spine coming down here. - Okay.
There's the heart.
( heart beating )
Oh, the baby is not-- his head up.
- Oh, ( bleep ) - What about that?
- Oh, my God. - The baby's a breech.
Oh, my God.
Shit.
She's not in the right position, which means that if she stays like this...
( groans ) I could potentially be getting a C-section.
That's why you don't have a birth plan 'cause you can't plan.
You can't plan. They want to do what they want to do.
-
Okay, you're going to walk your hands down to the mat.
Okay. Oh, are you moving down yet?
Come on. ( exhales deeply )
You just gotta go like this. Dew, dew.