Why do you think that women want you to pay for first date?
And I know, that's a pretty bold statement, that all women want you to pay for the first
date.
Here's how I see the breakdown.
I think that a majority of women do want you to pay for a first date and out of that majority,
I believe some say that they don't want it, but secretly they do.
Here's the reason why.
It's not because they're trying to use you for free stuff.
Although there are exceptions.
There are some women who are using you.
And if you're a sucker and you're just buying women things to get them attracted to you,
it's not going to work because they're just there for your money and not for you.
You may think where am I getting this data from?
And isn't this false because now a lot of women are trying to be equal and look at equality
and believe that men and women should pay the same amount and all those things.
Here's the thing, we're not talking about the bigger concept of men paying for everything
and women paying for nothing.
We're just talking about the first date.
I want to be very specific here because this is something very specific in terms of why
women want this thing.
Again, it's not about everything so even if there are women out there who want gender
equality, I still think a lot of those women want men to pay on the first date.
Because eventually it does end up being equal, but we're just talking about this first date.
Gotta say that to be very specific.
Here's the deal.
This is what I want you to understand.
It's not about you paying and doing something for her.
It's not about her getting free stuff.
Look at it as the act.
The reason why I'm making this video is because this small topic really lends itself to something
bigger and it's the act of you being dominant into you taking care of a situation.
Also, it's you who's probably nine times out of 10, the one who's asking her on a date.
You are paying for because you're the one who asked.
Yes, she agreed.
But still, it's nice for you to have taken care of the fact that you propose that you
guys meet and so you're leading this interaction, so you take care of it.
This act in itself is very attractive.
Not because she gets something for free, but because you're acting in a dominant way and
dominance is a masculine trait that someone who is feminine is going to be attracted to.
Understand the polarities, masculine and feminine.
When they're in front of each other, there's a greater chance of attraction.
When a man is exhibiting masculine traits in front of a woman, who is again, heterosexual
in this case, she'll be attracted to that.
There's also some instances in which I've heard where if a woman who's more alpha and
a man who's a bit more submissive and more feminine can also be attracted to each other.
These masculine and feminine traits also show up in homosexual relationships as well.
Again, we're just talking about this act of you being dominant, which is a masculine trait
is attractive to the feminine.
Once you understand this concept, a lot of things start to really connect and click for
you.
When you're asking a woman out and you're the one who's taking the lead and you're the
one who says, you know what, don't worry about this, I got this.
This makes her more attracted to you.
It doesn't mean that you have to be the one to always be paying for first for multiple
dates.
It doesn't mean that you need to be buying her things.
It doesn't mean that you need to be proposing the dates all the time.
Really, it would be nice if she reciprocated later on.
Imagine her eventually proposing a date if you guys go into the dating process where
you're seeing each other a lot.
It'd be nice if she took care of that.
I know that in that sense you might be thinking well Tripp, you just said that the guy should
take care of the things and be dominant and all that stuff.
Yes, most of the time, but once in a while, it's okay if she does that too.
But again, if she's the one who is proposing it and she pays for it or maybe down the line,
you guys split, that's okay.
But in the very beginning, it says something about you.
On that very first date it says something.
It says okay she's gonna be with a guy who is dominant, who is taking the lead, who is
in charge, who's in charge of his life, who is effective, who makes things happen.
This turns a woman on.
You can do whatever you want.
I know there's going to be a lot of backlash on this video.
I know that a lot of guys are going to be like, women are feeling entitled, they're
entitled to this and that and we're living in a very fem-centric society and all this
stuff.
That's fine.
I'm just saying to you, if you want the best chances of being your most active attractive
and your most masculine and most dominant then paying for the first date (again just
talking about the first date) at least it's you taking care of this whole process.
Are you going to ruin your chances if you end up splitting the bill?
Are you going to ruin your chances if she is so keen on her being the one to pay for
it if that ever happens?
No, you won't, it still could be fine.
It's not going to be the end of the world if you don't do it.
But I believe that you should be putting all the best pieces in place to be more masculine
so you can be more attractive if that's what you want if you're looking for a woman to
be attracted to you.
Think about it on the other hand.
Think about you being attracted to a woman.
She needs to do the things that are more feminine that make you attracted.
All the different feminine traits and the way that she presents herself and the way
that she acts and the way that she's nurturing and open and all these different things.
There's all these reasons why you're attracted to her.
I don't want this to be a conversation on "men have to do it all, men have to do everything".
That's not what it's about.
It's just putting in the places and putting the pieces in the right places for you to
have an optimal chance at being attractive to a woman.
And of course, a woman being attractive to you.
Because if she's not, then you're going to say bye, bye.
And the same with her.
I'm not going to go as far to say that she'll completely disregard you if you guys split
the bill on the first date.
But again, like I'm saying here, let's put all the pieces into place and optimize this
whole process for you.
Also, I believe that if you act dominant in one area of your life, even if it's something
this small, it can hopefully translate to you building the habit of being dominant in
all the other places in your life.
When I say dominant, I just mean taking control, taking charge, leading what's going on in
your life and leading the interactions.
I have good news for you.
This doesn't have to be something that's going to completely empty your wallet especially
if you're a guy who's going on a lot of dates and you're taking the advice on these videos
or in my Hooked program (which by the way, you can check out in the description below
if you want to learn how to get more dates.
I have a module in that program that teaches you all about how to get the first date) but
my point is you don't have to go broke doing this.
In fact, I highly recommend that you don't do anything expensive on the first date because
you have no idea if you're going to see this person again.
I have a lot of friends, guys who go out and get first dates and if they're not that interested
in the girl they'll do a cheap date and if they're really interested in a girl, they'll
want to go somewhere really nice to dinner.
And I think that's ridiculous.
You shouldn't be treating women differently based on how interested you are in them because
it's still a chance that even if you're really interested in and you go on a fancy first
date like a fancy dinner and it ends up being nothing and you never see the girl again.
What I recommend is that every first date you ever do should either be a drink if you
like to drink alcohol or getting a coffee or a tea.
Something to sip on or something very light to eat, but not about having a full meal.
More about you two just getting together and sharing something that you can do.
Because obviously, it's a little weird if you're just sitting across from each other,
just talking and not doing anything.
That's a little strange.
So just going out, getting coffee, getting a drink and if you feel that you guys have
really connected and it feels good, maybe you can go do something else and maybe it
will lend itself to more food or an activity.
But normally the first date is a couple hours long as you just go out and get something
simple that's not going to break the bank.
Even at that point, going on multiple dates if it doesn't work out, you haven't really
broke the bank.
And you paying for that first date, paying for the drink, paying for the coffee really
does go a long way.
You might have a situation if they are like I want to split this please let me split it.
Like they're begging you to split it.
What you can do is this say hey, I'll tell you what, I got this one and when we do a
next one, you'll grab that one.
Sound good?
And that's the whole idea too.
It's going to switch off a little bit between you getting it, her grabbing it, so on and
so forth if you guys keep on dating and seeing each other, but you just say to her, hey listen,
I'll grab this one, you grab the next one.
And if she's still insistent, then fine, split the bill at this point.
Probably sounds like she's not interested and she just really wants to split it and
be on her way and not feel like she owes you anything.
Which brings me to my next point.
Understand and it pains me to have to say this, but I feel like I have to get through
to some guys watching this video.
Just because you're paying for a drink, maybe it ends up in something more like an activity
or a meal.
Just because you're paying for it, doesn't mean you are entitled to receiving something
in return.
What I mean specifically is something sexually.
Just because you're doing that that's not the trade here.
Don't think the trade here is well, I paid for it now I should get my thing.
Because again, it's not about a transaction as much as it is about the act of doing it.
We're coming full circle here to what I talked about earlier.
It's the act in itself, not the end result of her getting something for free, but the
act itself that makes it so you are appearing more attractive.
Maybe you'll see her again, maybe you won't, who knows?
It doesn't matter.
At the end of the day, it's about you being dominant, which is you asking her out, setting
up the date, finding a place, suggesting the "me time", finding the place to sit down,
you at the end of it, paying for it, if she offers to split I already told you what to
do there, and then moving forward.
This is the act of dominance.
I go deep into this concept in my Hooked program, which you can find in the description below.
Just go to www.getherhooked.com.
That is a program that's going to teach you how to get lots of these first dates.
If you're a guy who's struggling to get any date with any woman, especially if you're
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the whole process of getting to the point where you're getting multiple dates, how to
do the approach, where to meet women, what to say to them to get them interested.
And also diving deeper into this masculine feminine dynamic, like I said before, it's
about you portraying and depicting your masculine traits so it gives the feminine a higher chance
at being attracted to you.
We're going to be working on that stuff in the program.
We're also going to be working on some lifestyle stuff.
I teach you about some of the inner qualities, which is the masculine traits and the outer
qualities, which is how to present yourself in the best light, how to groom, how to look
and things like that.
We throw it all together in the program so you are a rock star at being able to meet,
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Let me know what you think.
I'm sure there'll be some haters but bring it on.
See you soon.