Matt: What the heck does it even mean to be high status and how can a normal guy
like you raise his status enough so that he can date some of the most gorgeous
high status women and is thatis really all about money Fame and looks and why
the heck am i wearing this crazy shirt well all these questions and more are
gonna be answered in this video because my name is mater twosome from the
attractive man and this is how to be high status
we've done all the testing you know what works the way I see it there are two
parts to status number one is the external which is money fame and looks
number two is the internal which I like to think of it as the three-piece which
our posture and body language presents and how grounded and calm and centered
you are and purpose having a direction in your life now ideally you have both
types of status you have the internal and you have the external but if you had
to choose one of the other choose the internal that's really what you should
focus on because it's gonna actually give you the most bang for your buck in
terms of status and being able to attract high quality women for example
in my 20s I used to play in a rock band and we weren't famous or anything but we
were pretty popular in LA we won a battle of bands again it's 135 other top
LA bands and we got to tour with Linkin Park we were on MTV too and we play big
shows with thousands and thousands of people and most people would say at
least when I was on stage I had a certain level of status and it was
fairly easy to meet beautiful women but when my band broke up that status was
gone basically overnight just like that and I felt really unconfident and
insecure and I felt like my cool factor was completely gone I felt like I had no
more status but as I started working on some of the things that I'm going to
talk about in this video and things that we talk about a lot on this channel I
became more confident my body language improved I had purpose again I became a
lot more confident and comfortable in social situations I became a lot more
present and grounded and comfortable around beautiful women I improved my
body language and I had purpose and direction again and guess what the
quality and amount of beautiful women that I was able to date as I worked on
the internal status indicators it increased significantly I date a lot
better-looking women nowadays than I did back in my
band glory days first let's talk about the internal aspects of high status and
then we'll talk about the external as well so first on our list is posture and
body language there's really just two main components of high-status body
language which are open and being comfortable open doesn't always have to
look like this a good rule of thumb is that your joints never touch means you
don't stand like this or like this this looks really insecure right my
wrists are touching or like this joints are touching even like this my elbows
are almost touching instead I have my hands maybe my back pocket which helps
to puff out my chest just a little bit don't overdo it like this or just keep
your hands down at your side and you just move them while you talk or just
have your thumbs hanging in your front pockets and when you stand you don't
stand with your legs together where your knees are touching and your feet are
touching you have about 10 inches or more of space because you gotta let
yourself breathe down there and same thing goes when you're sitting your
knees aren't touching you're taking up a little bit of space letting yourself
breathe a little bit and if there's a chair next to you that nobody's in maybe
put your arm around it or put your arm around both taking up space because a
high status person isn't afraid to be known he steps into the room and his
presence says hey Here I am it doesn't mean he has to be loud and
obnoxious it just means he's not afraid to take up a little bit more space to
draw attention to him and you also want to be very comfortable in your
environment that means slowing things down slowing down your movements a
little bit not all the time I don't mean go it's slow motion but it means you
don't fidget and you're not nervous and when you walk into a club you're not
like looking around where are the girls or where are the cool people or where
should I go you're just calm nothing seems to bother you and when you speak
you speak slowly sometimes you speak fast when you're really excited of
course but other times you take your time drawing people in to listen to you
because you know you have all the time in the world because your high status
and what you say matters and when you do this when you slow things down and
you're more deliberate about your movements in the way you speak and you
stand tall and confident you're gonna feel more confident and more high-status
inside because your physiology influences your psychology and
vice-versa if you're feeling kind of low status and insecure and you're just not
in a good mood but then you just start standing taller so I'm taking up some
space and start walking like you own the place it's gonna change your mood and
vice versa when you're feeling great and you're just in a good mood don't you
tend to just stand a little taller and draw more attention to yourself
next is presence which has to do with being in the present moment being fully
grounded and right there with whoever you're speaking to or whatever you're
doing that you're not in your head thinking about the future or thinking
about past failures you're right they're responding to the moment which means
you're fully aware of what's going on in your body and the emotions that you're
feeling which means you're not controlled by your emotions which is
actually really attractive because a man that is controlled by his emotions is a
scary and often dangerous man when he can't control the way he feels or he
can't rather can't control his actions based on his emotions he might end up
hurting her which is why women often testiment to see like are you easily
affected by a woman if she can affect you how attractive is that she wants to
know that you're not gonna hurt her and that when shit hits the fan you're not
gonna freak out and leave her that you're gonna be there to protect her
women still want a protector even though we live in a pretty safe environment her
instincts cause her to be attracted to a man who is a better protector and it
doesn't necessarily mean you have to be big and muscular it just means that you
can step into tension and tense situations without getting totally
frazzled and a great way to demonstrate this is when you're talking to a
beautiful woman that you're just calm your very ground
you're just enjoying the interaction you're being playful and you're loving
every moment of it and when you're comfortable in a
beautiful woman's presence she will assume and feel like you must have a lot
of beautiful women in your life because you're comfortable around them therefore
you must be high status if you have a lot of beautiful women in your life so
your ability to step into tension and be grounded in those situations and
interactions will determine whether you are high status or not just think of
arguments that you've seen the person who's more in control enjoying it and
doesn't get all emotionally affected is the person who is generally more
attractive and high status in that interaction you know what your problem
is I only have one you've met too many people like you I'm with Terry now
did you Mickey laughs and the third key is for purpose and it doesn't mean you
just have some goals or some dreams that are way out there in the future
it means you live on purpose you have a clear direction for your life and
nothing is gonna get in the way of that and no woman is gonna get in the way of
that or come first in your life I know that sounds harsh and women that watch
this are probably gonna hate me for saying this but a woman doesn't want to
be your number one purpose because that puts her on a pedestal that makes you so
needy and clingy and yeah it makes you want to give everything for her and I'm
just living for her and on paper that sounds really nice to a woman hey he's
gonna give me so many gifts and do everything that I want him to do but in
the long run she will lose respect for you she doesn't want to be your purpose
she wants to be there with you and help you succeed on your purpose she might
even test you by trying to detract you from your purpose she's not doing that
to be mean she's doing that to feel your masculine strength to feel that she
can't control you that you're not afraid to stand up for what you believe and
stand up for what you're working so hard to achieve it also means you walk and
talk with purpose you speak very deliberately and you're not afraid again
to step into tension for example you see a beautiful woman that might be your
purpose in that moment of course you have your biggest bigger purpose and
that woman is never gonna become that purpose but in that moment you're not
afraid to go for her you're not afraid to step into tension and risk
embarrassment and she can feel that you have the attitude that yes you want to
talk to this beautiful woman and you hope she's into you
but if not it's no big deal because you have your higher purpose that's much
more important than any one particular interaction now let's talk about the
external high status factors because I know that's what you really want to talk
about how to have money fame and good looks well the thing about money is it
doesn't always equal high status I was in a social circle one time when I lived
in Newport Beach a very wealthy area and there was this guy named John and he was
very very wealthy and in his circle of
friends he was picked on and people used him for his money because he did not
have the other attributes he did not have the confidence the confident body
language the purpose and the presence he was very ungrounded and so people took
advantage of him so money doesn't automatically equal
high status but at the same time when you work on the internal factors
especially being grounded and present and being able to handle tense
situations and having a clear purpose man when you have that purpose and
you're aimed for that and you're working towards that you become dedicated you
become determined and guess what if your purpose is something that is going to
also bring financial wealth then you'll probably become very well-off
financially so money is just a byproduct of becoming high status and what about
fame do you really need to become world famous are you gonna go everywhere in
the world at all times you can't you're probably just in one city and you
probably don't even go everywhere in that city you only go to certain
neighborhoods certain restaurants certain bars and clubs and it's actually
pretty easy to become famous or popular in those venues by becoming a regular
meeting other regulars and getting in with all the staff there especially the
owner and managers in fact I have a friend in New York City his name is
Mario he goes to clubs he doesn't buy a single drink he's literally the worst
customer yet they treat him like royalty like VIP because he just knows everybody
that works there by just going there once a week and being friendly to
everybody giving them value and of course they want to reciprocate by
giving him value by opening up the Rope letting him and all his friends in
giving him access to free drinks even though he only drinks water and giving
them access to the VIP area now that goes beyond the scope of this video and
yes it does take some effort you do have to go to those places regularly but it's
not that hard and I show you exactly how to do it in my total 10 mentorship
program where I show you how to dominate your entire city and become like a local
celebrity in your town so if you're interested in being mint
by me and some of my teammates in that program there's a link down in the
description for a free breakthrough strategy session where we'll see if you
qualify for that program but we'll also give you a lot of value we'll assess
your situation and show you a road map and help you get to the next level where
you want to be so that you can become more high status and then last but not
least is looks which is really one of the easiest ways to boost your perceived
status people will see you a lot higher status if you're wearing really nice
clothes like a nice well tailored suit versus sweatpants and a wife beater
which gives me an idea for a video we take a bomb we clean them up we put them
in a well tailored suit and then we have them approach beautiful women I think
you would do pretty well and by the way if you have ideas for videos that you
would like to see leave a comment down below let us know what you think and
while you there hit the subscribe button and if you liked this video hit the like
button too but style really is the easiest quick fix for attraction and
status when you're looking more high-status
you're gonna feel more high status haven't you ever worn a well tailored
suit how did that make you feel because like I said earlier your psychology also
affects your physiology so when you feel really high status and you feel
attractive and you feel confident you start acting like it
so make sure your clothes complement you and make you look as good as possible as
well as stand out a little bit because when people notice you when you walk
into a room and all eyes are on you because you have proper body language
and your style is a little bit interesting it conveys that you must be
high status because you're okay with the pressure of everybody looking at you
you're just used to it because you're a badass everybody's always looking at you
whether it's true or not that's the way you'll be perceived when you're dressed
really well or dress a little edgy and we have a lot of videos on our channel
on how to dress and how to get your style in your fashion in order so if
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