Do you want to know the truth about
It's a real lesson in narcissistic red flags
and I'm going to break it all down
for you right here in this video.
Hey, so I'm Rebecca Zung.
I've been recognized as a top attorney
and I've written a couple of bestselling books.
And what I do is I teach people
how to negotiate especially with narcissists
or high conflict difficult toxic personalities.
And if you are dealing with one or ten,
make sure that you subscribe to my channel
and hit that notification bell,
so that you don't miss one single tip
or trick in having to deal with these heinous people.
I've been there,
I've had to deal with a few of them myself
and that's why I have quite the passion for it.
I've dealt with them in my law practice
but also in my personal life
and so I know that they suck on every level.
So that's why I'm here
that's why I'm on a mission, a crusade
to help all people who are dealing with narcissists be saved
and be able to move on and create new lives
and new futures and all that good stuff.
So, let's talk about Kim and Kanye and their marriage
because obviously Kim has now filed for divorce.
It's something that seems like it was a long time in coming.
Kanye has been sort of coming unglued in the public eye
and she has been pretty much taking it for a long time
but there were a lot of things that she had to kind of take
and hey I'm sure she's no saint either, no pun intended.
I know one of their kid's name is Saint.
Obviously whenever you're dealing with two people
who are trying to keep a marriage going,
there is a lot involved,
especially with four little children,
especially under the scrutiny of the public eye.
In any kind of a marriage it's hard
but when you add all of those other layers onto it
it's super difficult for sure.
And I did break down more about Kim and Kanye' divorce
in another video and you can definitely check that out
as far as what I think might actually happen,
what I think they might actually be ending up fighting over
and all that sort of thing.
They probably did have a prenup,
but even if they had a prenup,
there's certain things that'll end up potentially being
something to talk about.
I'm going to talk more about that here coming up as well.
So in the show, "Keeping up with the Kardashians,"
you obviously saw a lot of things going on
and you saw the Kim was definitely very smitten with him.
Always talking about how he was her one true love,
but one of the things that she said
which I thought was really interesting
is that she said, "He's my biggest believer."
And I think that's one of the things that he did initially.
One of the narcissistic red flags, by the way is the
And he really idolized her, she was his perfect specimen
of a woman and all that sort of thing.
And I want you to remember that narcissists don't go
after you because you have so little value.
They target you because you have so much
because in a lot of ways, they actually idolize you
because they think that you're so perfect and wonderful.
And then it actually gives them narcissistic supply
to control this thing that they think has so much value.
And I say thing,
because they don't necessarily look at you as a person.
You're more like a possession to them.
And so that's really one of the first red flags
that there were in this relationship is that love bomb,
that idealization phase that they went through themselves.
So another one is that they both
She seems to be more needing like to be adored.
He actually just wants attention and he'll say
and do whatever he needs to in order to get attention
even if it's not necessarily in his own best interest
which is highly narcissistic, by the way.
They do make mistakes.
As much as they try to tell you
that they're perfect in every way
and have you believing that,
they definitely do make mistakes.
And so some of the ways that he tries
to get attention isn't necessarily so smart,
like going after a beloved star like Taylor Swift,
things like that.
And Kim has like a little bit more going for her
in the sense that she's just confident in herself
and in her ability to connect with the people who love her.
Whereas he's kind of more like coming
at it from almost like a desperation
and people can sense that.
I mean he's not as stable and set in his confidence
and one of the things that I want all of you to know
if you are negotiating with anyone,
but especially with narcissists is to remember
that people will think what you tell them to think.
So you need a come with a sense of confidence.
You need to come with that sense that you can get it done,
that you're not going to be disrespected
really, really important.
So that was another one of the red flags that you could see
with the Kim and Kanye situation
and how you could definitely see that it was coming.
Another one is obviously
there were constant cheating rumors.
Which I would say there's three deadly sins of marriage.
The three things that if you have any of these present,
it's really, really hard to repair a marriage
which I call the three A's,
which are abuse, addiction or adultery.
And adultery being one of them
because all three of those things they kind of rip away
at the integrity of the foundation of a relationship.
And if you want to know more about that,
definitely check out my video
on "The Three Deadly Sins of Marriage."
And another one of the red flags was the bipolar disorder.
Obviously many people stay happily married
when mental illness is involved
and I would never, ever, ever, slam anybody
who has a mental illness of course, I mean.
But on the other hand,
there were reports where Kim actually said things,
that he wasn't taking his medication,
that he was choosing not to be treated for it.
And when that happens, there's going to be
all kinds of stuff that's going on in the relationship.
Obviously his inability to be stable
and have these manic episodes and things like that,
where maybe he does things that are impulsive
or hard to take.
And you saw things where he was actually coming out saying
he was going to run for president.
And there were reports that was like one
of the last straws for her, was like that whole craziness.
And they're up and down, they have euphoria
and then they're depressed.
And it's hard to live with somebody
when they are not allowing themselves to be treated,
when they have a mental disorder
especially when you're trying to raise four children
in the midst of all of that, right?
And untreated bipolar disorder can sometimes lead
to narcissistic behavior,
which also is really hard to live with.
And really kind of one of the deadly sins of marriage
I would say as well too, because now you're having to deal
with drama, trauma, and chaos,
and all of this excessive need for admiration
and grandiose delusions and God complexes
and a lack of empathy and paranoid delusions,
no sense of care, compassion, or empathy
for you as the other person in the marriage,
and that makes it extremely difficult as well.
So there were a lot of red flags leading up
to Kim and Kanye's relationship and how that's going to end up
affecting the divorce will remain to be seen.
But obviously if there's some kind
of fight over the children
and he has untreated mental disorder
that could affect his ability
to get custody of the children.
If there's not a prenuptial agreement,
then there could be some kind of conversation
around support.
In general, I would definitely say
it's kind of a double-edged sword
when you have one party who might have a mental disorder
and you want to use it against them
for custody of the children.
But then you have to be careful
because if they have a mental disorder
they might turn around and say, well, then I can't work.
And now you might be on the hook
for some sort of spousal support,
which may not be something that you want to pay.
So you have to kind of be careful
when you're making these kinds of allegations
against the other party, where are you going with that?
And that's kind of part of your overall strategy.
So, when you are looking at any kind of a negotiation
making sure that you have an overall strategy
and you figure out where it is that you actually want to go
before you start slinging things around,
just making sure that every single thing that you do
in your negotiation is actually furthering you
toward the goal of wherever it is that you want to go, right?
I think that that would make perfect sense.
So just thinking about that when you are negotiating
and taking a look at Kim
and Kanye is relationships sort of as a lesson.
If you are seeing any of those red flags,
if you're seeing these kinds of things happening
then maybe it's going to be time for you
to at least seek counseling on your own.
Start to educate yourself, start to create a plan,
start to figure out what it is that you're going to do.
If you are in a relationship like this,
definitely speak to a lawyer,
figure out what your options are.
I have courses on stage one which is when you're thinking
about divorce, the things that you should be looking at.
If you're interested in that, just go to
and look at stage one.
That's the course that I offer
for people who are just thinking about divorce
and making sure that you have
all your ducks in a row so that when you go to file
you've done everything that you needed to do
in order to protect yourself.
So check that out as well.
And if you are getting ready to negotiate,
you're there, you're like, okay, I know it's coming up
definitely check out my free
crush my negotiation prep worksheet at
and come join me in my free private Facebook group as well.
I mean, there's thousands of people
in there supporting each other
and lifting each other up 'cause together we rise, right?
So if you like this video, give it a like,
give it a share, drop me a comment.
I would love to know what you think
about Kim and Kanye and the red flags that I mentioned.
Just give me a shout below
and if you haven't subscribed to my channel
now's a good time to do that.
Subscribe, hit the notification bell.
And remember, today is a great day
to start negotiating your best life wherever you are,
that's the jumping off point.
And I will see you in the next video.