- Heya playa, have you ever been put on the spot
and asked the question either online
or in person, do you like me?
And you didn't know what to say? Don't worry.
In this video, I'm gonna tell you exactly
how to respond step by step. So stay tuned.
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Being caught off guard with the question like this
is always scary, no matter how close you are
with that person, because there's always the chance that
once you reveal your feelings they're gonna reject you.
So you might find yourself stumbling and giving half answer
like, well, yeah, I mean, I kind of think you're cool,
but, you know, if you don't like me, that's okay.
But maybe if you do like me then there's a chance,
but I don't really know, what do you think?
If you want to avoid something like that from happening
let's take it back a few steps and really start with
how you're interacting with them to begin with.
Every single time you talk to your crush
do you joke with them? Do you flirt with them?
Do you work on building that romantic chemistry?
Or are you just working on the friendship portion?
Just being cool, being kind,
not really stepping out of your grounds
and just kind of letting that crush do all the work
in terms of building anything with you?
A lot of times before feelings are even out there
you might be struggling to figure out
where you stand with them? Are you guys just close friends?
Are you working towards something more?
If things aren't clear and defined for you,
then of course, when they ask that question
you're not gonna know how to respond.
In your mind, you might be thinking,
well, yeah, we talk every single day,
she looks at me sometimes, she smiles,
she playfully punches me on the arm,
so that's obviously working toward
something romantic, right?
Honestly, I don't know, this is something I get asked a lot.
You'll tell me about the different signs
you feel like you're receiving from your crush
and you want to know if that's a clear indicator
that they like you. But my answer is always the same,
you won't really know until you ask them out,
until you pursue them on that level.
Before you even get to the point
where feelings are out there you should be asking that
person to hang out whether in a group setting, one on one.
The point is you want to spend time with them
to really get to know them, to build that bond,
because that's how you're gonna see
if the two of you connect as well as you want to.
And you might also be thinking why are they asking you this?
Are they asking me if I have feelings for them
because they have feelings for me?
What's the power play here? Sometimes there is none.
Your crush might be reading signs just like you are,
the little looks you give them, every time you smile,
every time you approach and start a conversation
that may lead them to think does this person like me?
And they just may be more confident enough
to just straight up ask you.
Personally, I don't think it's a very productive
question to ask, whether you're asking it
or someone is asking you because it creates
a yes or no type of scenario.
Do you like me? Yes, I do. No, I don't.
It doesn't leave a lot of wiggle room for you to figure out
what your feelings are in that moment.
Feelings are not an on and off switch, they're gradual,
they take time to build.
So as you get to know a person better
your feelings may intensify.
So asking them at some random point in the middle,
do you like me? Might be the wrong question to start with.
But we're talking about when you get asked,
when someone walks up to you and says,
"Hey, do you have a crush on me?"
Here's what you should say.
I think you're pretty cool person
and I really want to get to know you better.
So what are you doing this Friday or this Saturday?
Let's hang out, let's spend time together
and see where it goes from there?
In that same, you've done a few different things,
you've led them on a path of a yes answer,
letting them know that you're interested
in getting to know them better.
You want to build something there,
which means that you may eventually have feelings for them
as you get to know them better.
And second, you've created the bridge for your answer
towards actively hanging out with them,
making plans with them one on one.
That way, if it is a yes answer, you've segued perfectly
into the next step, which is spending more time together.
Now look, feel free to change around the words
based on your personality.
You may be the kind of person to be
a little bit more forward and say, yeah, I like you
so what do you do on a Friday? Let's hang out?
Or you might be a little bit more shy and timid and say,
I'm not really sure yet, but I do want
to get to know you better, so how about we hang out?
The point here is express some level of interest
and set up some type of plan.
But whatever you do, don't tell them no,
don't leave them on a path thinking that
you don't like them at all,
because it's gonna be so much harder to recover from that
when you do want to ask them out,
when you do want to act on your feelings,
so just don't do it.
I know the situation is scary, but trust me,
this is the perfect opportunity for you
to actually take a step forward.
A lot of times people hold themselves back
from even getting to the stage
where they have to act on their feelings.
If your crush is putting you up to it
and asking you do you like me?
This is your chance to stand up, be confident and go for it.
What do you think though? Given where you are in life,
if your crush asked you whether or not you like them,
how would you honestly respond?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
The learning doesn't end there though.
I've put together a playlist on dating tips for beginners
so that when you are ready to start
hanging out with your crush, you know exactly what to do.
So check that out.
And also check out my 20 icebreakers conversation
starters guide which is gonna give you different things
to talk to them about.
It's free guide, I've put together for you to download.
The link is right above that playlist.
Check those resources out guys.
And I will catch you next time. As always love and peace.