hello sweetest potatoes do you ever sit
there and suddenly remember all the
quotes you set for yourself in the
beginning of the year
sometimes we simply forget but if we're
being very honest with ourselves if I'm
being very honest with myself maybe we
slash I are just scared and afraid to
face the truth that we did not do any of
the things we promise ourselves we're
gonna do but it's okay because we're
gonna unpack that today well the New
Year is filled with hope endless
possibilities and Big Dreams we fast
forward a couple months six months to be
exact if you're watching this video as
it's going up a lot of us may be feeling
like we're falling behind all the while
asking ourselves how come we can never
stick with our habits today I feel it's
a good time to review our goals together
that we set in the beginning of the year
and talk about three ways to be more
consistent and actually make our habit
stick huge shout out to Shopify for
sponsoring today's video more on this in
a little
let's get started
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or wide so if you guys did do the
reflect and plan for your best year yet
challenge you would want to click the
very last page my 2022 plan hopefully
you added it to your favorites I just
left it as my 2022 plan here it is
and let's get started
with the first point let's get real
with ourselves your audacious life goals
are fabulous we're proud of you for
having them but it's possible that those
goals are designed to distract you from
the things that's really frightening you
the shift in Daily habits that would
mean a reinvention of how you see
yourself
is just really being brutally honest
with ourselves and asking ourselves why
if we can get clear on this big why it
really stops us from distracting
ourselves because we're so clear and so
intentional and so mindful about what
we're doing that it won't ever turn to
this thing where we're using
productivity or we're using achievement
or we're using any of these things to
distract us from what is truly important
which is why in our near research
challenge we started off with three
words we want to embody for this year
took some time over the weekend to sit
down and really think about how my year
has actually played out versus what I
want it to be and the three words that
came up and I'm just gonna do half year
check in and I would say full
sweet and slow this is the first time
in a long time slash ever in my life
where I actually feel I feel full I feel
full of love I feel full of gratitude I
feel full of I don't know like
excitement to create again to make
videos again and I just haven't felt
this way in such a long time now that we
have how we want a year to go how the
year actually went we can create one
last column for now of how do we want
the rest of 2020 to go I have a little
suggestion instead of filling this out
right away let's go through the rest I
don't know why I have a comb right here
let's go through the rest of the
worksheet slash video first and then
revisit this because I promise you your
mind would shift in a little bit before
we actually get into the reflection I
think it's important to there's a few
things to call that first remember that
systems are flexible systems can be
changed systems are aren't shackles that
are holding us down to make us feel bad
about ourselves systems that we create
for ourselves are here to help us not to
hinder us so I think that's just
something really important to keep in
mind instead of going into details of
how I've been doing and how I'd like to
improve I'll just put all my system
check-in and updated systems in this
column I think we'll be more helpful is
to quickly review how to set proper
systems I think one of the most
important things is being super super
crystal clear about when you're doing
it's like the who what when where why
who is mostly just you what is the thing
that you're trying to work on when is
are you gonna do it first thing in the
morning are you gonna do it after lunch
for how long are we gonna do it where is
where exactly in your apartment are you
going to do this activity why I think if
we did all of these previous exercises
the why you don't need in this section
because you already have another thing
I'm gonna share a nice thing this is the
thing that completely expanded my mind
when I was working on outlining this
video there's a very big difference
between deciding and doing
quoting James clear the dreams that you
have are very different from the actions
that will get you there the dream that
you have is the deciding part you need
to want to meditate before you actually
start meditating but the difference
between wanting to meditate and actually
meditating that my friends is where the
cookie usually crumbles a lot of my
videos are quite abstract which is why I
think systems are so important because
systems is what ties what's in our heart
the dreams our desires our intentions
turning this decision of why we want to
do anything that we do into the doing
like the actionable system breaking down
how can we implement this into our day
today I really feel like deciding versus
doing is one of the most important
takeaways in this video let's give
another example so let's say beginning
of the year you've decided for yourself
that you're going to start your own
business you're going to start your own
side hustle and made some extra income
for yourself that is great dreaming is
great having a decision to do this thing
for yourself is great but how do you
even get started where do you even start
it's super overwhelming and you're like
okay but like how do I even get that
done and you end up not doing anything
because it's super daunting which is why
I think Shopify is fantastic like
actually fantastic and amazing for
creating this free business blueprint
that quite literally breaks down every
single step from planning framing
building and growing for you and I and
anyone to use think of it like a
workbook filled with exercises tailored
to help early stage entrepreneurs go
from ideation to execution and Beyond I
think this is an amazing resource to
have even though I went to business
school had I had this before starting my
YouTube channel I feel like this would
have been so helpful and if you guys are
like this is great Ro but what is
Shopify Shopify is the e-commerce
platform this is what beauty within a
skincare and Lifestyle Channel that I'm
also on uses for our online shop where
we sell a lot of our favorite skincare
products all my Founders friends you
shop buy a lot of your favorite Brands
probably also use Shopify they offer an
easy to use all-in-one Commerce platform
to start grow and manage your business
it's truly created for anyone regardless
of your technical abilities Shopify also
lets you sell online in person and on
all major social platforms again this is
taking your decision for wanting to
start a business into the actually doing
actionable steps so if you guys want to
check out the Shopify blueprint you can
download it into your notion to start
your entrepreneur Journey today if you
love your idea you can get a 14-day free
trial to Shopify just by downloading the
template with the link in my description
box so now that we're very honest with
ourselves the second section is Let's Be
time
I had something very magical happen when
I was filming the rust video the process
and the way I approached filming that
day I was just so
nice to myself usually when I'm filming
it's like I'm at war with myself like
I'm just so hard on myself Rowena what
is wrong with you your last minute
you're not doing it right you sound dumb
you sound silly I'm just so hard on
myself that I'm not having fun when I'm
filming I get joy out of creating
content that helps you guys us me you
know I'm helping myself as I'm going
through the process of creating it but
the filming part I'm always like oh like
if I can just not film that'll be great
well last week and even today as I'm
filming because I feel like I really
reached an inflection point and I just
can't ever go back to where I was I was
so nice to myself in between takes I was
like Rowena you're doing great I love
you these were I would never tell myself
especially when I'm filming and for me
to say this out loud I just feel like
it's kind of like the deciding and the
doing I've known for a long time that
whatever state you're in when you're
creating something or when you're doing
something it'll affect the work that
you're doing but it still took me
six years to have fun and be kind to
myself when I film this just is a great
example that working on ourselves isn't
like an overnight thing it's an
accumulation of having slowed down
really slow down the past couple of
months it also is an accumulation of
letting go of a lot of things number one
being perfectionism number two being not
taking myself at my work as seriously as
I did yes it's important to do good work
but it's even more important to take
good care of ourselves as I said in the
rest video what is the last thing that I
Let Go ah yes validation why do I want
to do good work why do I want to look
perfect it's all rooted in this external
validation that I've realized about
myself for
also many years now and it's taken me
these many years to slowly start undoing
some of these mindset habits fixed
mindsets that I've had about myself the
very last thing is let's celebrate
celebrate ourselves celebrate the small
win celebrate our friends and their
achievements one thing that I saw
earlier this year I was at my
girlfriend's baby shower and I saw this
meme after which is the business shower
celebrating your friends wins as much as
you celebrate their babies this is just
a meme so don't take it too seriously I
just feel like yeah it's like we should
celebrate each other more especially if
you're bad at celebrating yourself and
you maybe don't feel comfortable yet
celebrating yourself to celebrate other
people and to see how happy and moved
they are more often than not because
they feel amazing they'll also
eventually start celebrating your wins
if you're surrounded by the bright
people I don't like using the word right
but you guys know what I mean oh just be
this positive cycle of Celebration
amongst you and your closest cheers
friends that I think it's a very
beautiful thing being the positive
influence the positive Domino of your
group of friends you're setting the
culture or your friendship a lot of
times we sit back and wait for these
things to happen to us or we wait for
our friends to be good to us then we'd
be good to them but I feel like nothing
but positive things will happen if
you're just the first person to initiate
and I think the most important thing is
to not
be attached the results because I think
that's what I did before which makes it
conditional I'm gonna be good to you and
then you're going to be good to me if
you're not good to me then I push you
aside I'm in a negative spiral and like
not do these things for you anymore so
this is me in my early 20s early to mid
20s now that I didn't really have a
social life for five years and I'm
opening up again the friendships
uh I think I'm in a much better mind
space in that if I'm going to be a kind
person if I'm going to celebrate you
it's unconditional I'm doing it because
I love you I'm doing it because I care
about you and I'm celebrating you
because I want to celebrate you period
and to tie it all back to the purpose of
this video which is being more
consistent and sticking with her habits
I really believe that if you're real
with yourself if you're kind to yourself
and if you celebrate yourself
unconditionally not just when you're
winning not just when you're achieving
things but celebrating yourself for the
big things the little things if we're
able to truly do that and love ourselves
for who we are and know that we're
trying our best at all times and
actually try to try our best living out
this part of you
I think this is how we truly are able to
be far more consistent and stick to our
habits because it becomes like a fun and
exciting thing like now that I'm filming
more than this thing that you're
dreading or this thing that you feel
guilty for not doing and when you
finally do it you're just like in this
funky weird space we can all be a little
bit more honest with ourselves be a lot
kinder to ourselves and be a lot more
celebratory of literally anything you
can literally celebrate anything you
want you woke up this morning
celebration I made myself a matcha
celebrate this my battery's about to die
celebrate that
now that we have this renewed thinking
and framework we now know why sometimes
we put off doing things that are
important to us because it's gonna
change our daily habits and we're gonna
have to reinvent ourselves which is not
an easy thing but it will be something
that we'll never regret
putting in the time to work on ourselves
to better ourselves not in like an
incessant obsessive misguided way but in
a genuine kind celebratory way with that
here's a hug
we're all doing great you're all doing
great I hope you guys are having a
wonderful year thus far know that if
you've been having a great year
fantastic keep going godspeed if you
feel like you've been having a Mech here
so far or a very slow year so far that's
also fine take things at your own pace
know that you're currently in this
season but you won't always be in the
season and you can always reflect back
on any of your values and systems and
change them to fit where you currently
are maybe scale down
though instead of doing five you can
maybe just pick three of your values to
focus on prioritize which of those
threes or you can even do two you can
even do one again all of these things
exist to help us not to stress us out
and yeah hope you guys enjoy the rest of
your day your morning your afternoons
your evenings are to give you guys a hug
but I'll give you another hug and a clap
bye