In my most recent video I talk about how Prince Harry seems extremely sad, and look into exactly
why that is the case.
But the piece I don’t touch on is one very important aspect about Meghan Markle - and
that’s the fact that she is a narcissist.
Now, dating a narcissist can be extremely painful.
I myself have date 3 narcissists in the past, and those are definitely the relationships
I regret the most.
The reason those relationships are so painful is because narcissists are most concerned
with their own personal needs, and they prioritize that so intensely that it comes at the utter
devastation of the other person.
And yet those relationships can be the hardest to leave, because when things are good, they’re
so good, but when they’re bad, they are awful.
But the memory of the good times, and the possibility of the return of the good times,
keeps us glued to the relationship, and to the narcissist.
Which just utterly sucks.
Im sure many people have struggled with this and continue to struggle with being in a relationship
with a narcissist.
So in this video, I want to talk about how to identify a narcissist, that way we can
all steer so damn clear of them!
So let’s talk about the six most common traits found in a narcissist, and let’s
use my current favorite topic, Meghan Markle, as the example!
1.
The first and most prevalent quality in a narcissist, is the fact that they care deeply
about what people think of them.
They are very image obsessed, which is why they are very careful about what they put
out into the world, and are comfortable with going as far as lying about their life and
about their work, if it means they’ll get the desired effect.
In Meghan’s case, she wanted to be perceived by Harry as a victim, a victim of a broken
family, victim of racism, sexism so Harry’s protective instincts would kick in, making
it possible for Meghan to get away with everything she wanted - which is a title, and a prince
on her arm.
She even lied about paying for her own college, which her father really paid for.
And she super embellished her impact on a sexist TV ad for detergent, when she wrote
a letter asking for it to be changed.
When in fact the company changed it before she had even written the letter.
CLIP
Narcissists feel like they are special, so they often spin up tales that feed that perception
- that they are absolutely perfect.
Now when you meet someone who might seem like a narcissist, you might have your guard up.
2.
But this brings us to the second narcissistic trait and that is the tendency to love bomb
- overwhelm a person with love, attention, kind
words, the works with the singular goal to lower you guard.
Narcissists want to be loved, so if they see someone who is resistant to their charm, they
will work on them even more to reel them in, to get them to fall in love.
We saw Meghan do this often with Harry, where she would stare adoringly at him, defer to
him getting attention or answering questions, hang out to him protectively, even keep her
hand on his back constantly.
In Harry’s case, I don’t think he was very resistant to falling for Meghan’s charms
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CLIP
But I have experienced instances where I was a little weary of the person, and that made
them pull off all the stops even more to make me “fall for them”.
But what happens when you let your guard down, and you’re completely in love with a narcissist?
3.
Well, this is the point that you’ll see the third narcissistic trait - manipulation.
As quickly and as willingly they can give you all their love and attention, narcissists
can take it away.
And boy does that feel cold.
This is probably the most difficult aspect of a relationship with a narcissist, because
while they maintain their cool, they make the other person feel crazy for thinking that
something has changed, when it clearly has.
The reason for this shift in affection, is actually to maintain stronger control.
When we’re in love, an important aspect of a healthy relationship is consistency.
Make that love and attention inconsistent, and that will drive any reasonable person
crazy.
We see this happening with Prince Harry when he rises and falls to Meghan’s tune.
There are instances where Meghan is clearly goading him, while maintaining her perfect
composure.
And let’s talk about the mental games that narcissist play, like suddenly pulling out
and wearing a present from her previous husband Trevor on their wedding day.
Or randomly stepping out and getting photographed without her ring on.
Or better yet, publicly flirting with her friend, Sarina William’s husband, while
watching her friend play at Wimbledon.
Narcissists use many tactics to maintain the power in their relationships.
So gone now are all those looks of adoration, instead Meghan is often caught looking at
Harry with annoyance and agitation, practically trying to squeeze him out of frame.
4.
And speaking of squeezing out of frame - let’s talk about the next narcissistic quality - Love
for attention.
Dear god do narcissists love attention!
Now if you’re marrying royalty, it pretty much goes that you will be playing second
fiddle.
Add that to the fact that Harry is never going to reach the throne, he and Meghan are constantly
sidelined and playing a role in the background.
Yeah, that’s not going to work for Meghan, who has to be the center of attention.
We see this every time she rushes in front of Harry so she can hob knob first, or looks
at him angrily if he’s getting too much attention.
We also see that Meghan is not above taking away a bride’s glory on her wedding day
by inciting pregnancy rumors, or the fact that all of her announcements and releases
compete with important royal events.
Meghan needs attention!
For someone who absolutely cries about privacy, here she is on an engagement repeatedly pushing
back her coat so that her bump is more obvious for all those photographs.
Now if any of her behavior is ever called out as inappropriate or strange, that’s
unacceptable.
5.
This is the next narcissistic trait - they can’t take any criticism.
Narcissists feel like they’re better than everyone around them, so naturally, if they
ever called out for their behavior, they go immediately into the defensive by either fighting
back with manipulation or more commonly tossing people out of their lives.
Meghan is well versed in both of these strategies.
She adeptly weaponized her vulnerability, making it seem that reasonable criticism that
the press or the public had for her was race or gender driven.
Effectively redirecting the attention from her behavior to a national conversation about
how racist the British society is.
But Meghan also tosses people out when she needs to - from her entire family, including
her father, to many many friends, to forcing Harry to break with his friends and family
if they ever criticized her.
Which they did!
Narcissists have no room in their life for anyone who doesn’t think they’re perfect.
6.
Now let’s talk about the last trait - and that is that Narcissists use people.
This has been one of the more common criticisms levied against Meghan, where many people feel
badly used and then discarded by Meghan once she no longer needed them.
Like I mentioned in my previous video about Meghan, from Piers Morgan and Lizzie Cundi,
to her childhood best friend, to her father and uncle.
Meghan has left a wake of many angry people in her rise to
the top.
And there’s no denying that Meghan is also using Prince Harry.
Her engagement and marriage to him raised her profile, something she couldn’t wait
for.
Which is why before their relationship went public, Meghan made extremely strong hints
about it in the hopes that people would put it together.
And yet she keeps talking about how she just wants privacy.
Yeah, sure you do!
Well there you have it, the six traits commonly found in a narcissist!
Hope you found this video helpful, so the next time you come across a narcissist, you
can spot them for what they are and keep your distance!
Because they are bad news!
Also, make sure to check out the two other videos that I’ve made on Prince Harry and
Meghan Markle where I go into more detail about Meghan’s relationship with the press
as well as why Prince Harry looks so damn sad.
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I’ll see you next time!