By the end of this video,
you're gonna have with the 6 unspoken rules are of a narcissist,
so you will know what they are and be in on the secret.
So that you'll be ready for them and
be able to pounce on them if need be.
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So, by the end of this video,
you're gonna have 6 unspoken rules of a narcissist.
You wanna make sure you watch all the way to the end,
because I'm saving the best one for last.
It's a one way street here,
I said all the rules, right?
“You have to listen to me”,
“You have to respect me”,
but, it doesn't have to go the other way around and
they'll tell you that I'm listening to you and
I will tell you that I'm respecting you and
I will tell you that I'm not gonna interrupt you,
but, as soon as you start speaking, I will interrupt you,
then when you say, “Hey, you interrupted me”,
they'll say, “Yeah, I had to, what you're saying is just ridiculous”,
or “I can't listen to this anymore”,
or “This is just crazy what you're saying”,
They'll have some reason to just come in and interrupt you,
it had to be done,
I don't have to listen to you or respect you,
but you have to listen to me and respect me,
that's how it goes, alright?
So, that's one of the unspoken rules of a narcissist.
I'll say that I'm gonna do things for you,
but, I really don't wanna have to, it's definitely an obligation,
I will do the bare minimum.
I'm gonna try to make it look like I'm doing everything for you,
But it's definitely gonna be every single thing
from every piece of my body to have to do something for you and
you definitely have to pay for it, it's gonna be a huge deal and
I'm gonna make you work for it.
By the time I finally do it,
you're gonna know that it was a big favor,
but then, when I finally do something for you,
then I'm gonna make it like I did that for you and
I did it willingly and I loved to do it,
look at that thing that I did for you,
I'm gonna hold it over you for the rest of your life.
But you have to do everything for me and
if you bring it up, then, “Why are you berating me?”
“Why are you bringing that up?”
“That was just expected,
that was just the bare minimum you were supposed to do”,
“That's just what you need to do,
just to remain in my space,
that's just payment for being in my space”.
So that's how that goes.
So that's number 2 unspoke unspoken rule of a narcissist.
No matter how I treat you,
you have to be loyal to me, period.
No matter what,
I expect you to be with me, love me,
love everybody that I love and
whoever it is I wanna be with,
also root for whatever teams I root for, whatever it is,
you have to be unblindingly loyal to me,
even if I am horrible to you.
By the way, if this is all like making you crazy and
you're trying to figure out how to keep your cool against narcissists,
I have a video on how to keep your cool against narcissists,
definitely check that out,
this is a good time to think about that.
You definitely cannot even think about liking anybody that I hate,
or even show one shred of anything to anybody I hate,
because that goes to that unblinding loyal thing,
I mean, narcissists definitely see things in black and white,
you are either for me or against me and
if you are not a hundred percent for me,
then you are definitely against me.
It is very very black and white and
they've got that narcissistic injury thing going on and
when that narcissistic rage comes flying out,
it comes flying out, they're very, very easily slighted.
So, it has to be either for me or against me.
No matter what they are, no matter how bad,
no matter what it is, you're not allowed to guilt trip me and
you're not allowed to remind me and
you're not allowed to bring it up,
because if you do, you're berating me,
you're making me feel bad, all of that stuff and
you're not allowed to remind me
of anything that you've ever done for me in the past,
I don't wanna hear about any of that,
or how bad I've ever treated you in the past,
I don't wanna hear about any of that either and
you're supposed to just deal with that.
So, that's number 5 unspoken rule of a narcissist,
you're supposed to just deal with it.
When you're going to negotiate with them,
all of this is in play,
this is all part of the conditioning,
this is all part of the destabilization and
they expect that this is who you're gonna remain and
this is who you still are by the way,
this is why they think you're never gonna leave them.
I do have a whole video on,
why a narcissist thinks you'll never leave,
you should definitely check that out as well.
So with all of this, you're gonna adulate me at all times,
shower me with affection constantly,
but don't expect it in return.
I will love bomb you if I need to,
if I need to future fake you,
or I love bomb you if I need to,
just enough to keep those strings rolling,
I will do that, but only when I need to.
So, I will sometimes do that if necessary,
but you are to adulate me and
shower me with affection at all times.
So, those are the 6 unspoken rules of a narcissist.
If you've seen any of these,
give me an a “Amen” in the comments,
or if you've seen others,
go ahead and put those in the comments as well.
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Today's a great day to start negotiating your best life,
they only win if you give in, alright?
Thanks you so much for joining me today,
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