When it comes to parenting,
my wife and are are very different.
I would describe Robert's parenting style
as a no-nonsense disciplinarian.
When I say no, I mean no.
Cindy will say no and eventually say yes.
I just give in to her.
My wife thinks I'm too tough on my daughter.
Robert loses it and demands that our daughter
acts appropriate all the time.
I will call Sadara on her stuff,
but Cindy just wants to coddle her.
She lets Sadara do what she wants.
It drives me nuts.
The way he parents, I sometimes think that
it affects her self esteem
and it makes her act out even more.
Nothing scares her.
We put motion sensors in the house.
And she takes out the batteries.
We've screwed the windows shut
and she'll find a screwdriver and unscrew the window.
We even put loose chains around her ankles
so she couldn't take her pajamas off
and get her jeans on to go out.
My little girl needs to straighten up her act,
and if it's getting her but kicked,
that's what she needs.
I don't wanna mess around.
I'm done arguing with a child.
I want Sadara to answer for what she's done wrong.
Robert got so fed up, he moved out of the house
about four months ago.
'Cause I did not wanna deal with
the issues with my daughter.
I have to admit, it's very difficult to parent Sadara,
but if it comes down to it and I have to choose
between my marriage and my daughter,
I'm gonna choose my daughter.
Alright, I'm glad you guys are here,
because this situation is spiraling out of control, right?
Correct. Absolutely.
How many times have the police been called?
Over 150 times. Yeah.
You have very different attitudes
about parenting, correct?
Yes, absolutely. Yes.
And you think he is way too harsh.
Yes, definitely.
And you think she is way too...
Lenient.
I made a list of the things you told us
that you thought crossed the line here.
One, you say that he's chained her ankles together
with a padlock.
Did you shackle this child?
Her ankles?
Yeah.
She could walk around,
but it made her limited for her running away at night
so we could sleep.
I put a chain on her that was about 10 foot long,
and she had to drag this chain around.
It wasn't chained to anything but to her,
but it would make noise so we could hear it
going across the tile floor.
Well, she found a way to pull it up through her pants,
and Mom caught her going down the road
at two in the morning.
She's heading down to Taco Bell to see her friends,
and the police told us to do whatever we can
to keep her there, so we've locked her window.
We've locked her doors.
I've done everything I can to keep her from leaving.
I did not like it from the get-go.
I did not want it to happen.
Well, that's moronic.
The police told you that.
That's moronic. Yeah.
They need to police
and not parent, okay?
Looking back.
(applause)
So, when you say cut her hair as punishment,
what do you mean, cut her hair as punishment?
Yeah, she wouldn't tell us where she was,
and she says, "Well, you can't take nothing else from me."
You know?
And I says, "Well, I'll take your hair,"
and I cut a little piece
off the back of her hair underneath.
I didn't cut her hair off.
You couldn't even notice it with her hair.
It was a chunk off, off the back side.
Yeah, a little.
For a girl, that's very traumatic,
and that's what he's not understanding,
and he was willing to cut. Yeah, and I was wrong.
Continue to cut until he got the answer he wanted.
Does he call her names?
He does.
What?
He's called her a bitch,
he's called her a whore,
he's called her a tramp.
He just tells her she's a piece of (bleep).
He has chipped away at her
self-esteem, and that's why my daughter is where she's at.
What is your objective in calling her these names?
I will tell her to get off her fat ass.
I've never called her fat.
She comes home, she lays around,
she doesn't want to contribute,
she doesn't wanna help around the house.
Have you called her a bitch?
Yes. Have you called her a whore?
I said, "You're out whoring at night."
I never called her a whore.
What's your objective in
labeling her in this way?
Frustration.
So it's not meant to change her.
It's your venting.
Yeah, I would say so.
You try to compensate for this?
I do, because I, as a girl and as a mom,
know emotionally what this is doing to my daughter.
And what is that?
It's tearing her apart.
It's making her feel like her life is worthless
and not worth living,
and that she's looking for a father figure.
She's lost every male figure in her life,
and this is not what she needs.
She needs somebody to help comfort her and guide her.