Yo it’s me Zeus here, aka God, aka Mr. TYB, aka mr took yo bitch, and yes it’s ‘took’
- it’s past tense because it already happened and there’s nothing you can do about it.
I’ve been giving dating advice on YouTube for almost 5 years now and in that time I’ve
managed to become probably the biggest dating channel on YouTube…
I’ve put out hundreds of videos and covered everything from what to say, what to text,
and what to do in every dating scenario you can imagine!
Yet, i still get tons of messages from you guys who are having trouble and I’ve started
to notice a trend.
So in this video I’m going to be breaking down the 3 most common dating mistakes that
turn girls off.
If you do one of these things, your chances go straight out the window, so make sure you
pay attention and take notes.
#1 Poor logistics when planning dates
Asking a girl out on a date and having her actually show up without flaking is rare art.
The most common reason most girls flake or most girls don’t even agree to the date
in the first place is because of poor logistics.
When asking a girl out, you have to make sure the invitation, the activity, and the way
you ask her is as SIMPLE, SEAMLESS, AND EASY AS POSSIBLE.
If you complicate things by even 1%, you’re gonna trigger her hesitation and she’ll
just reject the date offer.
You have to take charge and steer the date invitation in a clear direction.
She shouldn’t have to think or do any work when it comes to planning the date or any
of it’s logistics.
Most guys fail by asking too much of the girl.
They ask her where she wants to go, what food she likes, and tons of other nonsense.
You’re the man, you decide, and you tell her what you guys are doing.
When planning a date you have 2 options 1) ask her when she’s free for you to take
her out then based on her response, offer an activity and time.
Option 2 is to simply suggest an activity and time from the start.
If she’s not free and needs to suggest a different time, that’s fine.
Figure it out but keep it simple.
The only thing you want to ask is for her to show up, if she’s hot and in demand,
that’s more than hard enough… when you’re talking about real beauty queens their options
are to either A) go party on a millionaire’s boat in miami for free and have everything
taken care of for them, or B)
hang out with you and have you complicate the logistics, ask her to choose the location,
and all the other headaches and hassle.
Which one you think she’s picking bro?
Remember, keep it simple stupid.
#2 Directionless small talk
I’ve done dozens of videos on texting and even made an entire course on it, and it still
blows my mind how much guys still struggle with this.
Guys, texting is simple.
Catch her interest, follow up on the interest to create an engaging conversation, then close
it by setting up a date.
That’s literally it.
Small talk, or anything else is useless.
You don’t need to talk to a girl for 2 weeks before meeting up with her.
If you run your text game right, 1-2 conversations is enough to get her on a date.
Most guys spend too much time asking questions or steering the conversation in a direction
they don’t care about just because they feel like they have to text the girl a lot
to make sure she likes them.
Let me show you an example from one of my private groups with my students from my program.
Our boy here got ghosted by a girl who opened HIM first on Tinder.
So this is off to a good start, the fact that she starts the convo shows tons of interest
from her.
This should be an easy slam dunk right?
WRONG.
He totally ruins it by taking her interest and turning it into directionless, small talk.
IN this example, you see the student asks a dumb question that he doesn’t give a fuck
about.
He doesn’t care how Tinder is treating her.
He’s just making conversation for the sake of it, with no clear goal in mind, and just
because he thinks he has to.
Don’t ask questions or steer the convo in a direction you don’t care about.
Be authentic and stay engaged in what you’re doing, otherwise you’ll just be going through
the motions and the convo won’t be fun for anyone
Remember: Text conversations must have purpose.
You don’t text your homies for no reason.
You’re either setting up plans, talking about something funny you wanted to share,
or following up on a convo you had prior.
It should be the same with women.
#3 Not letting the girl talk enough.
A rookie mistake I see often is guys talking too much because they’re rushing to fill
all the awkward gaps or silences in the conversation.
This may sound counterintuitive but you want to guide the conversation so that you let
the girl talk more than you, she needs to talk to feel comfortable, heard and connected.
If you talk the whole time she’s not gonna feel like you know her and she’s gonna think
to herself, OK this guy doesn’t even know me and hasn’t asked about me.
Women tend to be a lot more emotional than men, and emotionally she won’t feel like
she knows you until you emotionally connect, and the best way to emotionally connect is
to connect on things SHE talks about and brings up because it feels more personal to her.
Don’t try to tell her every single thing about you in rapid succession because it’s
going to remove mystery, you won’t be able to do yourself justice in a short time constraint
and it will make her feel like you’re just talking at her on the date.
That my friends is it.
In summary:
Avoid poor logistics when planning dates, avoid directionless small talk, and make sure
you guide the convo so the girl gets to talk a lot.
Girls love to talk about themselves, so give them what they want!
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