today's video is all about the enneagram wings i know i have a bunch of videos already out there
on this i'll link those you know all up there but i want to kind of get them all into one
video in case you're just looking for a really quick teaching on wings and an understanding of
what those are within the enneagram but before we start i'm gonna go get some coffee
let's go get started
all right so i got my coffee i'm ready to go i'm ready to teach you guys today
a little housekeeping i'm hillary i run any grandma coaching i'm a certified enneagram
life coach and i am a nine on the enneagram so the first thing that we have to cover before
we actually dive into enneagram wings is that you have to know your enneagram type in order
to figure out your wing because enneagram wings are directly on either side of your enneagram
type and so for example if you are a type four then your wings can only be a type three or a five
so the three and the five that are beside your main type ends up being your wings and what does
this mean well it means that that type 4 could be influenced by the three and the five so we have
a two wing theory a one wing theory and the two wing theory also can be known as a balanced wing
theory so you've got the tubing theory the one wing theory or the knowing theory and so those are
your options and the two wing theory just means you're balanced to use both of them equally that's
actually pretty rare as is the knowing theory so to use both of them and be balanced is a rare
type and to and to use both equally is what i'm trying to say because you can use both for sure
and i'm going to explain that in more detail but to use both equally means you're balanced in your
rings or if you don't use either of your wings then you have knowing but both of those are really
rare the most common is the one wing theory which means you lean heavily on one of the types on
either side of your number which means that's your wing that doesn't mean you can't use the other one
um i'm a nine wing eight and i lean heavily on the eight but i definitely use the one wing in
certain circumstances in my life so wings really are dependent on your environment and what you've
went through um and also the stage of your life i heard a teaching from ian morgan cron who wrote
the road back to you he said a lot of times in life um you'll go the first like half of your
life or not even half but like the first you know whatever part of your life as one wing and then
sometimes you'll flip over to the other wing which is what happened to me i was a nine wing
one for all the way up into my 30s and then i kind of walked through some really deep heavy
um sometimes tragic things and i really ended up using my eight-wing way more and i've stayed there
and so i consider myself a nine-wing eight at this point but i've definitely been a nine wing one at
times in my life and so hopefully that makes sense what we're trying to figure out today is which
wing you mostly lean on right which one you do you mostly use and that's going to be used to identify
your type and so like i said if you're type 4 and you have a re you really lean on heavily on the
on the five then you're gonna be a four wing five so what i'm trying to say is generally the person
is more influenced by one wing over the other although you can have traits from both like i said
so moving on to how do you find your wing i will say there's a couple different ways the first
way being there are tests out there designed to help you figure out your wing and if you
want to go ahead and take a test and figure out that way go ahead but i would say the easier way
is to research it you know if you know your type like i said uh the example earlier if you're
type four you know your type will research the three and the five and just research those wing
descriptions in depth and see which one do you lean more on and which one have you seen
earlier on in your life and now and just do your research that would be the best way for you to
figure out your wing and so this leads me right into me teaching you guys the wings very briefly i
don't have time to go over all the wings in depth today and i've already covered all nine types in
great depth on the wings and so i will link all nine videos down in the description box so
go down there find your type and if you want to learn uh more in depth but today's video is just
a quick overview and so i'm gonna start with a one i'm gonna end with a nine we're gonna go over
every types wings and a little brief description of each so let's get started okay so we're gonna
go ahead and start with the type one like i said and the type one's wings are a nine wing and a two
wing so starting with the one wing nine that nine is going to help the one be a little bit more calm
a little bit more relaxed in situations and this combination will be a little bit more detached
in their emotions and so that's the one wing nine moving right on to the one wing two the two wing
helps that one be a little bit more generous and helpful more warm towards others and a bit louder
than that other type one this one is gonna be a little bit more um willing to debate and things
like that and so that's the one wing nine and the one wing two moving right along to the type
two so the two wing one the one helps the two set boundaries it helps the two be more rational and
logical and more willing to do the hard work for the greater good two wing three the three helps
the two tap into their social side this too more charming more competitive more ambitious so moving
right along to that type three the three wing two so what does the two bring the three well the two
helps the three access their emotions that's what that two does for the three they have more empathy
and they prioritize their relationships a bit more than the other type three which that one
is the type three wing four this type is a little bit more work oriented more career focused more
serious more focused on accomplishing tasks but super creative type four the wings of the four
the three and the five i think i said that a ton at the beginning of this video so that four wing
three what does the three do for the four well it helps them tap into their ambitious side
they become more sociable more able to turn their dreams into successes the three really helps that
four just be productive and move forward and so that four wing five the five helps the four be
more simple live more simple a bit more introverted more quiet private and logical and so
that's um the four wing five all right so moving right along to the type five the wings of the five
the four and the six and so starting with the five wing four that four wing helps the five tap into
their emotions they are a bit more independent a little bit more whimsical than the other type five
and more in tune with their imagination and so flipping right over to the five wing six
the sixth wing helps the five um in becoming more detail-oriented more organized super good at
problem-solving and more sociable than the other type five so moving along to the six what are your
wings well your wings are the five or the seven and starting with the six wing five six swing
fives they have a greater need for time alone this one tends to be more intellectual and is a little
bit more analytical than the six wing seven and that six wing seven well the seven brings the six
adventure and fun and they have more energy and this type combination ha tends to have a little
bit more lightness um in their life so moving right along to the seven the wings of the seven
seven wing six seven wing eight starting with the seven wing six the six helps the seven think
things through before the seven just jumps into things if they have a strong six wing it's gonna
help them stop and think before jumping and this type combination ends up being a little bit more
responsible of the two and it's the most outgoing of all nine types the seven wing six most outgoing
from what i've seen seven wing eight well this one is a little bit more aggressive
it's a little bit more direct and assertive it go this type combination goes after what it wants in
life asks for what they need and accomplishes goals easier and then which brings us to
the type eight which the wings of the eight eight wing seven eight wing nine eight wing
seven is more uh a little bit more outgoing and extroverted and really enjoys life to the fullest
and so moving over to the eight wing nine um this combination is more open to other people's
opinions they're a little bit more calm they're more family oriented less aggressive and um just i
don't know they have this like steady presence to them and that's what the nine brings the eight if
you have that nine wing um if you lean towards the nine wings so moving on to the last one type nine
their wings are a nine wing eight nine wing one the nine wing eight which happens to be my type
combination is a bit more direct more energetic confident that eight wing helps the nine set and
keep boundaries which i've always had a hard time doing but i really lean heavily into that
eight in order to have that happen and then the nine wing one is a little bit quieter calmer more
reserved more disciplined and structured and has a greater sense of right or wrong so that is all
nine types and their wing combinations guys i hope this helped you i hope you you know were able to
figure out your wing but if not like i said go dig deeper and or go dive deeper into those other uh
wing videos i think they're over a year old though but go watch those to get a uh in-depth teaching
on your type uh wing combination so anyways but i just wanted this to be fast and quick and easy
in order for you guys to just understand enneagram wings and what they are and what they're not
they are definitely not your type seven with a two wing that's what comes to me all the time
and so that's why this video was so important to make because i really wanted to help you guys
understand that your wings have to be on either side of your type it cannot be just any other
number on the enneagram or you know if you took a test and it gave you a seven and a five and
a four so you thought you were a seven with a five and a four wing no that is not how it works
again either side of your type those are your wings you can use both you can use one you can
maybe use none but i hope this helped you today guys and so i think that's all i have for today um
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you were able to figure out your wing or if you know your wing your type and your wing
i love hearing from you guys but that's all i have for today until next time bye guys
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