One of the things that you cannot simply avoid in life are insults.
I mean, it starts from the moment you start understanding the language and it gets absolutely
worst when you make friends.
For some reason we humans are created in such a away that if we are friends, we must insult
each other, we have to make fun of each other!
Its so embedded in us that its hard to imagine life without insults.
Even if you try to be the most righteous human being on earth and never hurt anyone, there
will still be that one friend who will insult you.
Or it might be a random person you meet somewhere in the street.
As a little kid, I actually suffered a lot, because whenever i would be insulted, I didn't
know how to react.
Of course i would feel bad and get angry and simply would want to hurt him as well.
But it wasn’t always the best strategy.
In fact, its the worst strategy because if you fight with everyone who insults you, you
will not have a LIFE!
And the whole point of an insult is to hurt you, to make you feel bad, to make you feel
inferior.
So if someone walks in and makes fun of your height for example, you are taller than a
giraffe, or are there even pants for your size!
If you even get slightly angry and insult him back, it means the insult has worked out!
You got offended!
The person who insulted will feel good!
Actually the reason why people insult in the first place is to feel good about themselves!
They are insecure, they are not confident about themselves, so they try to put someone
else down to make themselves feel superior.
You probably came across people who constantly insult everyone around them, I really had
hard times understanding these kind of people in the beginning.
Because when I look at my life, its filled with work, projects, and my brain is filled
with millions of things that i have to figure out and I wonder why would someone fills his
brain with so much Bullshit!
It turns out thats how they fill their insecurity.
They try to assert themselves at the expense of others.
But you know whats even worse than that, responding with absolute silence!
A lot of people get angry but do not reveal that and keep it within themselves, and then
worry about it for days to come if not weeks.
Why did he say that to me!
its unfair!
I do not deserve that!
You will keep repeating that inside your head over and over and will fill yourself with
anger and hatred! and thats the worst way to respond, because you will simply end up
only hurting yourself!
I guess the question you have in your mind is, if reacting to the insults is wrong, if
staying quite is wrong, then what should I do?!
well, you have to show to the other person that you absolutely don't care about what
he says by accepting it and exaggerating it!
So if someone would tell you, you are taller than a giraffe.
you can respond with something like: Yes of course, be careful because I might step on
you without noticing that!
You are accepting the fact that you are very tall and exaggerating it to the point that
you might step on him like you are some kind of a giant!
You turned the insult around and that puts you automatically above him!
His attempt to put you down didn't work because now he denies the insult by agreeing with
you!
As Epictetus once said, It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it is what matters!
You cant control people, you will always come across people who will insult you, but what
you can do is to control how you react to it!
They key is to never take anything personally!
And now its your turn, what do you think?
How do you respond to insults!
Lets me know in the comments below!
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