in the summers it would get hot in mundy texas now when i say hot i mean you look out in the
backyard and your dog burst into flames that's what i'm talking about so we would be going to
the swimming pool or something barefooted and you get halfway across an asphalt road
and you look down and you're i mean like holy [ __ ] i mean your feet are just on fire so
what are you gonna do i mean that is painful you're gonna do one of two things you're either
going to make a u-turn and get your ass back over to the side of the road and get in the grass or
you're going to run to the other side and get off the road and get in the grass but you're not going
to stand there in the middle of the road and melt yourself down to the knees pain is a motivator
pain is not necessarily always bad if you're in pain it's going to motivate you to move to change
something and to mash that with drugs to dull that pain with drugs is not necessarily a good thing
there's a stigma attached to mental illness
and that really bothers me there should not be i mean having depression or anxiety
or whatever to me should have no more stigma than having a knee injury or kidney infection or
diabetes but there is yeah a stigma attached to it and i've tried to talk about this in a way where
it's okay to talk about it and not be ashamed of it it's okay if you've got anxiety you've got ptsd
whatever it's okay let's talk about it let's get help for it get it behind you and move on i mean
it's not it's not something you should be ashamed of i think you use medication
for biochemical replacement i mean if for some reason your body is not making enough
of something it needs then maybe you support it short term biochemically but you know i
i i look at depression there's a lot of ways you can break it up but i look at it like
is it exogenous depression or endogenous depression i mean is it coming from the inside out
or the outside in is it because you're reacting to something i see a lot of depressed people that
in a sense it makes sense right i mean you look at their life and you say well
if you're not down about this you should be i mean you've lost your job you've gotten the divorce
your health is in the [ __ ] you're i mean you should be down about this it's external things
so you don't need a pill i mean put somebody in a chemical straight jacket because their life's
falling apart what the hell's that gonna do yeah but that's just putting goggles on them where
they can't see it i would much rather get them to behave their way to success and say what are you
reacting to that you're depressed about let's put that on a to-do list and start like you said write
it down and start crossing those things off let's figure what's an action plan to change this action
plan to change the next thing actually and then when you start doing that then you generally see
their mood lift a lot of people that are depressed are just realistically reacting to a crummy
circumstance in their life it's not necessarily a a mental illness it's just a re realistic reaction
to a bad spot in their life if you've gotten a divorce lost your job your health's in bad shape
your kids are alienated from you and you're saying i'm fine then you're not in touch with reality
right you should be bothered by that and and i think to give somebody a pill to
mask your feelings about that just keeps you off task i don't you know payne's a good motivator um
you know i grew up in like texas and oklahoma and i don't know you've ever done this but
sometimes the solutions are very simple even though the problems are very complex it's very
simple in that somebody will have a complex thing that comes from childhood or maybe it's a drug
background or they've had trauma in their life but the solution is change your behavior i mean
stop rewarding bad behavior choose a different path in life just behave your way to success
because at some point you have to stop focusing on why and start focusing on what instead of why
it happened what am i going to do to change it so sometimes the solutions are pretty simple
and here's the mistake that young people make and i know this because i did it
you compare your personal truth to the kids sitting next to you social mask
they put their best foot forward they're all shiny faced and they look great
and that's their social mask you compare your personal truth to it
we all have a personal truth what we believe when nobody's looking and nobody's listening
now why is that important because we generate the results in life we believe we deserve
they took students into class where they put the steps of learning the information
so close together that there was never a failure experience and they would teach it to criteria
where you mastered the information you had it a hundred percent and he said wow this is great
everybody learned it so everybody made a hundred everybody got the information they truly did learn
it there was no question about it they learned the information and so they did great and they
took them out of that program and put them back in the regular classroom so they scrapped the
whole program because they said you can't do this because that's not the way life is i mean
the whole idea about school is you're supposed to be setting kids up for the future you're supposed
to be teaching them not just information but teaching them how to learn and how to improve
we're not teaching them how the real world works those kids were absolutely screwed up
when they got into a truly competitive environment it can't be successful
i'm a strong believer that a whole lot of mental illness comes living somebody
else's decision for who you're supposed to be from living an inauthentic life
the difference between winners and losers is winners do things losers do not want to do
they they will get up in the middle of the night they will do this they will do that
they just do things losers don't want to do they don't pay a price losers just don't
want to pay and losers say it's just not worth it and every winner has been a loser
if you go through life is in a success only journey god how boring would that be
so if you don't fix your personal truth then you'll spend the rest of your life
saying well you know those really good results those belong for somebody else
you'll settle for second best and you won't get what you might otherwise generate for yourself
you