In this video I want to give you one key mindset shift that has the power to help you avoid
self-sabotage forever, so you can powerfully move towards your goals and no longer hold
yourself back.
Stay tuned until the end of the video because I will also give you the three most toxic
mindset patterns that every entrepreneur has experienced before, how you might be sabotaging
yourself right now, and of course how to eliminate it.
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Over the last nine years I've experienced a lot of trial and error, and a lot of struggle,
and I self-sabotaged myself a lot.
Whenever things were going well and I was succeeding and thriving I thought, "I better
keep myself small.
Am I going too fast?
Am I growing too fast?
Is this becoming too much for me?"
And I was afraid of losing it all.
Whenever things became difficult and challenges presented themselves, I thought, "Oh, is this
not meant for me?
I'm not going in the right direction.
I'm making mistakes.
I should stay small."
So no matter what was happening, I self-sabotaged myself to stay small and stay safe.
Until this one day when I looked at my business and my decisions very differently, and it
all came down to just one mindset shift.
And I want to teach you this one mindset shift today.
Let's talk about self-sabotage and what it actually means.
From my experience, people self-sabotage in two ways.
First, they sabotage themselves when things go too well.
Yes, it's actually possible, and I've done it too.
The second way that people self-sabotage is when things don't go well.
Something happens, an issue comes up, you experience some sort of pain, it's scary,
you're doing something new or something makes you feel uncomfortable, and then you think,
"Maybe I'm doing something wrong.
Maybe I'm not meant for this.
Maybe I'm not strong enough.
Maybe this is not good for my self or my family or my friends," or whatever it might be, and
you start to pull back.
You start to keep yourself small, and you self-sabotage your success.
When I launched my business and I got my first coaching clients my friends said, "You better
be careful.
Do you really know what you're doing?
Can you handle them?
Do you really know how to get them results?"
And then people said, "You know what?
You're changing.
You're making more money.
You're different than us.
You don't have a corporate job anymore."
And I actually lost some of my best friends that way.
Then I had a choice.
Stay the same, keep the friendship, or move towards my goals and endure the pain of losing
some friends and making some new ones.
So in both scenarios, whether you're succeeding or you're not succeeding, you can self-sabotage
yourself to the point where you're keeping yourself from your biggest goals.
And here is this one simple mindset shift that literally changed everything for me.
Everything happens for a reason, and what can I learn from it?
So when you start to look at your challenges as lessons, and they're there for a reason
and they are there to teach you something, you can actually grow through them.
You can learn to embrace them and you will step through whatever presents itself to you
in your business and your life, and you will come out a better, stronger, more inspired
person.
At the same time, when you're flying high and you're at the top of it all, and you're
successful and you're thinking it's all going to crumble away, ask yourself, what can you
learn from those emotions?
So what do these emotions mean?
Maybe they mean that you're experiencing something new.
Maybe you haven't done it before.
Maybe you're insecure.
But those feelings and thoughts don't mean that you should be pulling back.
So when you're looking at your challenges and your successes in this way you can actually
step away from the emotion, the negative or the positive emotion, and you can look at
things a lot more neutrally and objectively, which will help you make the right decisions
and move forward powerfully.
Let's talk about the three most toxic mindset patterns, how you might be self-sabotaging
yourself right now, and how to eliminate it.
Toxic pattern number one is perfectionism and analysis paralysis.
I'm sure you've experienced perfectionism before.
Maybe you've built a website, maybe you've built a sales page, a program, you've designed
something, and you have agonized over it for days or weeks at a time.
You try to make it perfect, you try to test everything a thousand times, and you never
actually launched it, and you never actually rolled it out.
And that is fear of failure.
That is, "What if I put it out there and it all goes away?
What if nobody wants it?
What if I feel rejected?"
So instead of actually trying something we self-sabotage so much that we actually never
launch and never fully implement what we're meant to do.
And we're never putting ourselves out there.
And the solution to this is asking yourself, what can you learn from this?
Obviously, self-sabotaging yourself and making everything perfect is not realistic, right?
Everybody knows that.
And at some point you have to say, "Enough is enough.
I've worked on this hard, I've done my best, and now it's up to the market and a test to
see if it's actually going to work."
When I work with my clients and brand their passions I often give them permission to just
be who they are.
I tell them to be authentic.
I tell them it's okay to be yourself, and it's okay to put something out there that
you might feel is not perfect or not good enough.
Let's let the market tell us if they like it.
Let's test it, because then we have data and we can actually improve upon what you created.
We can make better slides.
We can change the copy.
We can change whatever we have in front of us.
We can do it better, we can learn from it, and then we can go out there and have even
better results.
Toxic pattern number two is victim mode.
That's when we think, "Oh, poor me, nobody supports us."
Trust me, I've been there myself.
I've been in places where I thought my husband's not supporting me, my kids don't like me anymore,
my friends, my family, nobody's there for me, and nobody understands me.
And nobody wants to help me.
But that's usually not true.
People do support you, people do want the best for you, but they're not you and they're
not supposed to take the action for you.
You're the only one who can make things happen in your business, and therefore you have to
take the responsibility to say yes I'll do it, yes I'll take the action, yes I'm committed,
yes I'm determined, and yes, I'll do it.
So instead of looking for blame and pointing the finger at other people, and they don't
do this, and she did this to me, and he didn't do that, point the finger at yourself and
ask yourself, what can I learn from this?
What can I do, what can I control right now to help myself move through this and have
the success I want to have?
Toxic pattern number three is not giving yourself permission.
This is a big one, and many people don't realize how they're self-sabotaging with this.
Think about it.
Right now, you might be thinking, "I'm just not a good public speaker."
Or you might be thinking, "I'm never going to be good on video.
I don't look good, I don't sound good, I don't like the way I act or behave."
"I'm not a good designer."
"I'm not a good writer."
"I'm not good at math."
"I'm not good at creating websites."
"I'm not a good mom."
"I'm not a good partner."
Whatever it is that you're telling yourself right now, stop it.
Because you're holding yourself back from what you could be.
What if instead you said, "I can become a good speaker."
"I can be a better mom."
"I can learn how to be great on video."
That's a much more positive way of looking at things, because guess what?
If all you're telling yourself in your mind is, "I can't be a good speaker.
I will never be able to talk well," then you won't be.
You won't be a good speaker, because when you're telling yourself that you can't do
something you won't be able to just do it.
But instead if you ask yourself, what can I learn from this?
Right?
Everything happens for a reason, and what can I learn from this?
When I first launched my channel I thought, "I'm horrible on video.
I can't even speak this language.
I can't pronounce things.
I don't look good enough."
I was full of ideas and reasons why I should not be launching a channel.
But then I thought, "What if I could be good?
What if I could learn how to do it?
What if I could study, and try, and try, and try again, I could be good on YouTube, and
I could grow, and I could actually have a really good impact."
And here I am.
And I think this video is pretty good.
So give yourself permission.
Your thoughts that you can't do something is a major, major way of self-sabotage that
you need to be stopping right now.
So if you think you can't do something or you're not good enough for something, change
that mindset right now.
Shift it to say, "I am allowing myself to be this amazing person I know I am meant to
be."
And now I want to hear from you.
What would be possible for your life, your business, your career, your relationships,
and your health right now if you started to say, "Everything happens to me for a reason,
and what can I learn from it?"
I am excited for you, because guess what?
I believe that you're meant to bring your passions to the world.
I believe so much in you.
I believe you're watching this video right now because there is a message that you need
to be hearing to free yourself from self-sabotage so that you can skyrocket your business and
you can finally fulfill your big purpose.
And if you now feel ready to finally let go of those chains, I have a free class.
It's a 60 minute training class, and in that class I'm going to show you my three simple
secrets and steps to get all the coaching clients you could ever want.
In the class we're going to talk about why selling high-end programs is much more profitable
for you and better for your coaching clients.
We will also talk about how to build a multi-million dollar coaching business by attracting quality
leads over a high quantity of leads.
And I'll show you why marketing does not have to be complicated at all, and the marketing
strategy I use in my own business to get coaching clients for my programs every single day.
I hope this video has served you, I hope that you feel inspired to let go of some of those
toxic patterns that might have been holding you back.
I hope you can adopt this one mindset shift I've given you today, and I hope this propels
you to new levels in your business, your personal life, your personal development in everything
you want and deserve.
I want to see you succeed so badly.
I'm on your side.
Thank you so much for watching, and I can't wait to see you next week.
Take care.
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