By the end of this video, you're going to know
the five signs that you have hurt the narcissist.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung
and I'm an attorney and I'm also a narcissist
negotiation expert and on this channel,
in these videos, I actually give you
tips and tricks and resources on the ways
that you can successfully navigate
and negotiate with narcissists,
and what I want to do is I want to help you
actually shift the dynamic
so that you can actually become more powerful
when you are dealing with narcissists.
So I have actually dealt with them myself
in my personal life and that's why
I'm on this mission. I'm on this crusade
to help you so that you can deal
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Okay. So the signs that you've actually hurt the narcissists.
I know a lot of you are thinking, “Do they even get hurt?”
Well, they do. They're actually in pain
all the time and they don't want you to know it.
They're constantly trying to cover up the fact that
they’re in pain. Their layering on this
false sense of confidence.
They try to make it look like they're confident.
They want you to believe that they're confident all the time
and a lot of ways, they've kind of fooled themselves.
They've got this tiny little scared thing going on
inside of themselves and they don't want anyone to see it.
And they're really, really afraid of being exposed at all times.
And so how you really hurt them is by exposing them.
And that's really when you're going to negotiate with them.
the biggest way that you can gain leverage with them in,
In a lot of ways, how you build your case for
negotiating with that.
You're sort of ethically manipulating the manipulator.
Okay. So when you go to hurt them or you know,
you're not trying to hurt them really in a lot of ways,
but the signs that you have hurt them is really
going to be all built around that
and have you expose them in some way.
Okay, so that's kind of what you're going to be looking
at because they've got this narcissistic injury
that is within them.
They've got these false self that they show the world
at all times. That the real self is scared little child.
And I tell people all the time, but they really are way more
afraid of you than you are of them,
and that is the truth. Okay?
I'm going to give you five signs, of course,
the worst sign I'm going to save for last.
So you got to stay till the end.
So, they become cold and distant and
they probably ghost you. The reason why they do that,
of course, it's because they want to regain control back
over you again.
So, you've hurt them in some way. They want to get
control back over you again,
so, they may ghost you, they may become cold
and distant. They’re looking to get control back over you again.
They want you to go, “Oh, come on,
come back, come back,”
you know, so they may withdraw from you.
They may become cold and distant. They're looking to
manipulate you back into the fold.
So they may become cold and distant.
That's number one.
So you may see them, you know, start
pushing off their bad behavior
on someone else. Now lying, denying.
That's their MO. You always see them,
you know, projecting and deflecting, lying and denying.
That's what I always say, you know, it's never their fault.
So you might start seeing them do some of that because if you
start to expose them in some way,
you start to actually hurt them in some way
and you start to kind of get at them.
They're almost like caged animals in some way.
You can kind of got them, you see, to corner them.
They're going to start to fight back a little bit.
So that's a good sign that you hurt them in some way.
You know, you're starting to get them when you start to see them
fight back like that. Okay, and number three
is kind of similar,
you know, instead of putting the blame on other people or
making excuses for their bad behavior,
Now, they're going to start going after you.
When you start to see them, kind of become unglued like that,
and now they're starting to put the blame on you,
you know, that you're starting to hurt them in some way,
you know that they're getting hurt in some way.
And so now they're putting the blame on you
because what's happened is they've been conditioning you
honestly since the very first moment
that you've been in a relationship with them,
whether it's a business relationship or
a personal relationship.
Believe me. I know because I was in a business relationship
with a narcissist and I had it too
and they put you in these situations where they do condition you
and so you have to stop the retreat.
If you're going to start to shift that dynamic,
they're not going to like it, so they're going to start to have
a little bit of a tantrum at least early o.,
Maybe a lot of a tantrum at least early on.
Okay, so that's number three. When they start to
have that narcissistic iinjury gets inflicted,
you know, you might start to see that narcissistic rage
come flying out.
When you start to see that rage come flying out,
you gotta stand your ground.
That's when you really start to want to go
“Oh God. No, I'm not going to do this,”
but you got to stand your ground,
and so I want you to put in the comments right now,
that in the comments right now because I want you to
remember to do that. “I Will Stand My Ground.”
They know how to trigger you.
They know how to get at you.
So they're going to start to say things like
“You are unsupportive.”
They want to make you feel guilty.
They know how to get under your skin,
a lot of times. So they may start trying to manipulate
you back into the fold.
They may start to devalue you, criticize you.
They're starting to become unglued.
So this is number four and you can check out my video
They're becoming unglued, they're starting to collapse
and that may be what happens when you really start
to hurt that narcissist.
Okay, so that's number four.
when the discard phase is in full form.
What happens with narcissist is you're either for them
or against them and if you are against them,
then you become Public Enemy Number One
and then you know, they will try to isolate you
from your friends and family.
They may discard you completely without any explanation
or if they don't want you to discard them,
then they start maybe stalking you or you know,
they go into full-on meltdown mode
or they still trying to get you while they move on to
some other form of supply.
Maybe it's smear campaign, flying monkeys,
new form of supply. There in desperation mode
at that point, trying to take you down,
Full-on war. I mean, it's all sorts of things.
But this is where you really got to stand your ground,
because at the end of the day, they will move on
to a different form of supply
because that is what they have to do.
That's how they survive, and there would be some form of supply
other than you eventually. Believe me.
I know. I've seen it, thousands of times.
So those are the five signs that you have hurt the narcissist.
If you agree with me or disagree with me,
I would love to see your comments and believe me,
you will stand your ground and you have written
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