so why is self-esteem a sham and why
might high self-esteem actually get in
the way of your success you're probably
even hearing that question and wondering
how could that be most of us who have
been born between 1950 and now have
grown up in a world where self-esteem is
a prized and valued quality it's the
idea that we are good enough smart
enough and doggone it people like us
however the research on this has been
very interesting in terms of how it
actually impacts our success and our
behavior people who have high
self-esteem regardless of their
objective level of performance tend to
be less successful in life now there's
there's a different way to look at
self-esteem and that is as a result of
excellent performance so instead of
puffing yourself up and saying you're
great and you're perfect and that should
help you be successful
what's even better is to work hard to be
successful to see those improvements and
those successes and use that as a way to
drive you positively in the future so
another way I like to think about the
self-esteem idea is instead thinking
about self-acceptance and what
self-acceptance means is I see myself
clearly
I see the good I see the bad and I might
even see the ugly but in spite of that
knowledge
I appreciate Who I am I know that I'm in
charge and in control of what I want to
work on and I like the person that I am
so self-esteem versus self-acceptance is
another very small change that can have
a big impact
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