Session 246 Chapter 2
Verse 228 Divorced women keep themselves in waiting
for three menstrual cycles, and it is not lawful for them, if they believe in God and
the Last Day, to conceal what God has created in their wombs.
In such time their husbands have better right to take them back, if they desire a settlement.
According to customary good and honourable norms, women have rights similar to those
against them, but men have a degree above them.
God is All-Mighty, All-Wise.
(Chapter 2: Verse 228) Let’s start with the phrase: “Divorced
women keep themselves in waiting for three menstrual cycles.”
Take note that this ruling did not come in the form of a command, rather it was in the
form of a descriptive statement.
In other words, God did not say that ‘divorced women should wait for three menstrual cycles,’
but He –The -All-wise- said: “Divorced women keep themselves in waiting for three
menstrual cycles” as if the matter is already settled.
This style of speech delivers a powerful command and places more emphasis on what God wants.
How, you may ask?
We answer that an informative statement means that when the Almighty commands, the command
is accepted and implemented by the believers without any hesitation.
The command instantly becomes a reality that can be used to describe the believers.
Thus, instead of issuing an order for the newly divorced believing woman to wait 3 months
before remarrying, Allah described how a believing woman behaves.
We can also look at the same statement from another angle: When God informs us that “Divorced
women keep themselves in waiting for three menstrual cycles,” we have a choice to follow
God teachings and be faithful to God’s words; or to go against God’s description and suffer
tremendous loss.
Let’s take another example from the Quran where God issued a command in the form of
a descriptive statement.
He says: Corrupt women are for corrupt men, and corrupt
men are for corrupt women; good women are for good men and good men are for good women.
The good are absolved of what has been said against them; they will have forgiveness and
a generous provision.
(24:26) This verse, although delivered in an informative
form, is a command that can be obeyed or disobeyed.
So when God says “corrupt men are for corrupt women; good women are for good men,” it
does not imply that this is the way things are; instead it implies that this is the way
the believers ought to behave.
Here is another example from the Quran.
God says in the 97th verse of chapter 3: there are clear signs in it; it is the place
where Abraham stood to pray; whoever enters it is safe.
Here, God is instructing the believers to make the Sacred Mosque in Mecca a safe sanctuary
for people.
However, some people disobey God and harm those who enter the Sacred House; such people
are outside the realm of faith at that time.
This brings us back to the verse.
The descriptive statement: “Divorced women keep themselves in waiting for three menstrual
cycles” is a mandate which is obeyed by those who believe in God.
Take note that Allah did not say ‘Divorced women wait for three menstrual cycles’;
rather He used the phrase “Divorced women keep themselves in waiting.”
What is the difference?
We answer that the wording of “keep themselves in waiting” acknowledges an inner struggle
within the woman where a part of her wants to prove herself as a desirable woman, while
another part of her wants to follow God’s teachings.
In other words, a woman that ended a failed relationship or was rejected by her husband
often has a need to feel wanted by other men, yet she has to fight that urge and wait the
prescribed three months.
The phrase “for three menstrual cycles” is translated from the Arabic origin “thalathatu
quroo.”
“Quroo” is the plural of “qar” which could mean either menstruation or the time
between two menstrual cycles.
So which one is it?
We answer that the verse used the number ‘three’ ‘thalathatu’ which is a form only used
when the subject being counted is masculine.
Had the subject being counted been feminine, the proper number three to use would be ‘thalathu.’
In the Arabic language, menstruation ‘Hyda’ is grammatically feminine, while ‘Tuhr’
which is the period between menstruations is grammatically masculine.
Hence, “for three menstrual cycles” is referring to three consecutive ‘tuhr’
purities between menstruations.
The long wait of three months ensures that the woman is not bearing children in her womb
from the marriage; a three month-period also gives the couple time to rethink their situation.
They may want to return to each other.
That is why God immediately warns: “and it is not lawful for them, if they believe
in God and the Last Day, to conceal what God has created in their wombs.”
What is the meaning of creation?
Creation is to produce something new which was non-existent.
In the case of a woman’s womb, something new which was non-existent may either be a
pregnancy or menstruation.
The woman is obligated to tell her divorcing husband in either case.
God specified the waiting period for pregnant women in the 65th verse of chapter 4:
the waiting period of those who are pregnant will be until they deliver their burden: God
makes things easy for those who are mindful of Him.
So women who are in menopause and no longer have regular cycles must wait three months,
and the same will apply to women who are not menstruating.
“and it is not lawful for them, if they believe in God and the Last Day, to conceal
what God has created in their wombs” means that the woman is required to announce if
she is pregnant or menstruating to her divorcing husband.
Concealment of her status is a great sin especially in the case of pregnancy.
A woman may be tempted hide her pregnancy so she would not have to wait nine months
to marry another man.
In such case, the child may be wrongly attributed to the new husband.
Pregnancy typically lasts for nine months, but there are instances where a seven or even
a six-month pregnant woman delivers.
This variation gives the woman the opportunity to hide her pregnancy, get married and give
birth claiming a short pregnancy, thus, maliciously attributing the child to the wrong man.
Here a story comes to mind.
A woman was brought to the Caliph Othman (may God be pleased with him) because she gave
birth after only being married for six months.
Othman wanted to punish her for adultery.
Ali Ibn Abi Talib intervened and said: You punish her for adultery just because she gave
birth after six months?
Haven’t you heard what God has said?
Othman asked: What did God say?
Imam Ali recited: Mothers suckle their children for two whole
years, if they wish to complete the term, and clothing and maintenance must be borne
by the father in a fair manner.
No one should be burdened with more than they can bear: no mother shall be made to suffer
harm on account of her child, nor any father on account of his. (from 02:233)
That is, a mother can breastfeed her newborn for twenty-four months.
Then Imam Ali recited another verse: We have commanded man to be good to his parents:
his mother struggled to carry him and struggled to give birth to him- his bearing and weaning
took a full thirty months.
(from 46:15) If we take the twenty-four months, which is
the total duration of breast-feeding from the first verse, then we subtract them from
the thirty months that combine pregnancy and breastfeeding in the second verse, we understand
that pregnancy may be only six months.
After hearing these verses, Othman (may God be pleased with him) said: "By God, I did
not pay attention
to this.”