making stuff for the internet means I've
had to learn to deal with every kind of
feedback from the kind and supportive to
the death threats and hateful and this
is kind of what you sign up for when
anyone puts their creative work out
there whether it's in the form of movie
reviews in newspapers art teachers at
school or indeed Internet comments and
so the phrase haters gonna hate is
helpful now it came initially from a hip
hop as a way to brush off negativity and
the subtext seems to be that some people
are so insecure and weak that they have
nothing better to do and to bring other
people down I get it
when I read something horrible about me
I don't want to imagine whoever wrote it
as a normal well-adjusted human being
it's much nicer to think of them as a
loser in a basement with no friends just
wasting their time but that's not really
working for me anymore and his boy when
I was in school I remember leaning over
to my friend joking that the teacher was
speaking so much without actually saying
anything I imitated the teachers of
fluffy language and my friend was
laughing now I'm no comedy genius so I
was pretty happy to be making someone
laugh at the end of the lesson the class
emptied but the teacher had me stay
behind she tells me she'd heard
everything and that if I had a problem
with her teaching I should talk to her
directly suddenly I didn't feel so great
anymore that simple confrontation was
what it took for me to realize that she
was only there to help reserve to be
made fun of hand I didn't really believe
what I was saying I was mostly just
exaggerating to make my friend laugh so
when I hear haters gonna hate it sounds
like we're saying don't worry their
criticisms are not a reflection on you
but reflection on the person writing
them and how sad their life must be
whereas I think it's mostly a reflection
on their environment for me at school
ten feet of distance was all it took for
me to completely disregard a person's
feelings so now imagine what I might
have flippantly exaggerated about if I
was literally miles away behind a
keyboard and a username without ever
needing to face the person I was talking
about of course I'm not excusing the
horrible things that people say but I
just don't to be too quick to shout
hater whenever someone says something
that I don't want to hear they probably
aren't as bad as their words make them
sound and ignoring all of them would
mean missing out once and genuinely
constructive feedback or think of it
this way there are some people in this
world who have such a radically
different worldview to me that if they
want something I've made and all they
said was in a nice work I'd actually be
a little bit concerned because I don't
want to make stuff that everyone agrees
with and so thinking about all of this
has given me two rules about feedback
that I want to stick to and you're
welcome to call me out if you see me
doing these number one when someone says
something hateful
I won't retaliate no snarky reply trying
to hit them back or prove them wrong no
sharing it on Twitter to get a sympathy
number two I won't delete comments I
never have and so far you guys have been
great at marking spam as spam
I'm voting what you want to see and
downloading or reporting what you don't
want to see the comments are your space
not mine now at this point I do have to
acknowledge that I'm in a fortunate
position I didn't get attacked based on
the color of my skin and I know from
talking to women on YouTube that their
comment sections are almost always an
entirely different kind of place it's
very easy for me to say believe the
haters alone because the vast vast
majority of people that I come into
contact with focus on what I'm saying
rather than what I look like or my
gender religion etc and that of course
is where it gets to be a more complex
issue but if we're looking for a
simplification is this my advice that
I've been given about haters the more
you take to heart the positive remarks
the more you'll take to heart the
negative or to rephrase it in order to
not be so deflated by the bad feedback
you can't let yourself be too inflated
by the good feedback my name's simon
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