it was a book written called nexrad meeting intelligent unleashed and the
researchers in the book focused on um... something that they were for to
establish enhancement overspending it's become a real problem in the u_s_
because when you are trying to attract a female
the focus specifically on mails which is a little unfortunate because you know
with the changing dynamic of women in the workplace i'd like to see if women
do the same thing but they do focus mostly on men and they find that men
what a lot of their way to over sensible charge things on their credit card
they'll take the girl at dinners that they can afford umpire against it
they can afford milky way dot nasa manhunt of debt
before they actually getting daisa before they actually get married and
then when they are married it's like
bruna this is really hard at busy aaaaaaa
saga right also there is that you know this
i think a lot of women do you expect like the overpriced wedding ring
joan duit dad
for a wedding ring that's the worst possible for you can do start up a
marriage with a massive amount of deborah but i know i was at our wedding
at all are inexpensive wedding and i know it was a gift is that it gives you
something that we have been there's a commercial that i heard on the radio the
other day
for some jeweler some local jeweler and it was like
if you have to spend more than you can afford honoring for her she's not the
one you should think marianna until they were saying that academic budget kind of
joachim payal yeah
unethical
hollering
i love this so my new favorite thing now and then the old had talks with a lot a
lot of about this but my new favorite thing is waves of the brain is not
caught up to modern technology and like
things like credit like no caveman was giving loans sunday that we're going to
get here twelve on credit you have that and so it's so interesting to see like
our social structures and our behaviors in all of that
come up against like digital distractions and
the drugs that we have free access to and things like credit cards
i think that is awesome
the worst part about this all this shit did a little about my delight but part
of our customers
we all i think we all understand is that everybody growing up in america knows
that we've got this huge problem personal credit uh...
with the credit like our own death from credit cards are still in bed everything
but that is so hard to lower your spending in the get into that have been
this it lead to peace
because that your spending is in a lot of ways correlated with the spending of
your social group and they don't want you to spend less just because you think
you're being responsible like they still expect to chip in and go out and all
that stuff
and so it's easy to identify probably this and say look this could be disagree
doing long-term harm your relationship and yourself
from it's really hard to to do anything about constraints it's hard to find a
solution to a because you're absolutely right i think
especially in american culture a lot of stuff is uh... you know tied to your
status so not only you know your relationship in and love all that it is
suddenly clipped off out of the equation focused solely on other relationships
whether it's friendships whether it's family
he won impress your family so you wanna buy the nice clothes you wanna buy the
nice car and guitars for the longest for that exactly it's a great example and i
mean
i'd always think about you know we jake says about how do still hang out in
beverly hills you know he can afford to stay at those expensive babbar beverly
hills hotels
but you know instead of wearing reviews it usually wears which is like a pair of
shorts and oversight shirt
well-guarded so
and they did not have happened
hats
had an unusual and i can tell now
my first calloway reelected carl and not called it's likely she held a rare
it's like a status symbol and see all the time i feel good about you know i
live in hollywood on that in like the hollywood leaky solid
but a veteran of the west hollywood you go to a nice dinner and maybe a work
dinner are you there because you're talking business about something which
is really tough in this industry
and you're waiting for your
the ballet in on the people here meeting with get there
lexus and the and then that i might get your s
michael and i know it
minutes i mean idle
care enough to do anything about it but a lot of people do you know you know in
a lot of people
kind of find their self-esteem comes from those places
really sad i have a friend who when he was kind of in between jobs he ended up
doing something in work which is a pain very well
and anybody has ever been a piano and and and on
and i remember him actually saying out loud there's some girl he met yet a
crush on her
and that has problems that they can't yet
i have to wait until i can afford to take her somewhere young really wouldn't
pursue our relationship because he didn't feel like he was going to be able
to bring to the table
what unmanned
should bring to the table it was a big private issue for him and i think a lot
about struggle with that and i think the reason is my last ramble
this is probably more mail center is because of what you said this
evolutionary biology evolution
evolutionary psychology view that historically men brought status and
security to the relationship and i did not beauty and um... for totalitarianism
jet exactly and so that's why we see maybe some more women
over strategically exaggerate their reproductive fitness as their articles
and
away a lot of makeup or getting plastic surgery and then the men to the realize
it until too late and maybe the manuel overspend and and we won't realize until
too late
yet but still it is it's so
over the course of the use of this i think many different thought about it
like the expectation that you should spend money and all that that
i'd just very briefly the last relationship i wasn't like he can keep
people been giving my notice yet
doubt that life after the show aa think since i've been in l_a_ as you know now
for myself and the best for you can't have been commuting and justice to it
i don't motorcycles on the other hand but here's the and i thought that i had
had a car that had been here so while i was dating her i like about the
possibility cuz i think i want to see that the motorcycle
so do you think i should get a car issues and i was like it should of
course is unwanted
and she said no
and efforts of like the story
because we expect you're supposed to spend
and acknowledges genuine
and it's doubly so does that mean out yeah yeah yeah i did not get in the car
it wasn't about the cars maneuver psychological problem but also a really
really fast to creep up my tips
so one that was a talk to the swatched showed that there have been numerous
studies on this the money he spent in yourself does not generate nearly as
much happiness is the most of the people so if you've been away for your money
spin on friends and family and all that age and
high i think the muppets you know every once in awhile back
month and also she talked about the the people of the car and they get their
self-esteem from indore looking for other people those people or
fooling themselves into but because they'd via thinking okay other people
gonna see a committee to be jealous of me and they don't actually defined that
word to use that word jealous as if that's a good thing yahoo if you
generate any feelings which u what most people will not give a fuck what you
know i mean i it's late notice
it'll be a negative emotions transit sent someone and i wanna say about this
isn't the only way to combat this issue is in the lakers
i want to social movement where people
say it's on cool to spend more than you have threat like it's unholy implied
that insanely expensive car that's like putting u_n_ tactician come out and come
out about how to do that right now
out aunty lexi i do not have student loan debt but i a m twelve thousand
dollars in credit card debt
hamburg
testimony now lives in london up a dot and my credit card is out of four
percent npr which is not a robot subs kari nixon's i've lived in new york when
i was a graduate student and and how to live beyond my means that i wasn't going
in as much as i had to pay in rent
and on
i brought it down actually think i'm gonna be on paid off this year with my
financial planning
well
but and that is my financial situation
anybody who wants to date he knows that now dave ramsey would be proud to have
an impact
i like and i like it dot no i have ordered record that but i have a lot of
them all right well that was a fun conversation and i think that group