okay so when it comes to dating women that we're really interested in that
whole process of getting to know them sometimes we do incredibly stupid things
because we are so keen on them that we completely forget the cool relaxed usual
selves that we normally are and instead turn into these bumbling idiots that
tell really stupid stories about ourselves in order to have a certain
reaction from the girl so in this video I want to talk about quite a number of
different types of stories to never tell on a date or when you're in the process
of dating somebody or getting to know somebody that you're interested in all
right so my name is Stephan Erdman and if you hear from me for the first time then make
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stories to never tell on a date number one and I'm gonna go with some obvious
ones straight away okay any story where you've failed at something and that's
the main point of the story if you fail at something and then you learn from it
and something amazing happen afterwards that's a fun story to tell
it seems pretty self-explanatory because you don't want us to see you as a
failure or somebody that fails a lot secondly don't tell her a story about
when you were a victim of somebody else or someone oh those are the worst
because you know they just don't work on so many levels because on the one hand
you show that you're negative on the other hand you show that you don't have
resource 1s on the third hand it shows that you're not really are there three
hands here anyway that you're not confident and dealing with the situation
because as soon as you see yourself as a victim you're basically saying that you
cannot handle something and then something is stronger than you she wants
you to be stronger than anything else okay if she wants to get attracted to
you so no victims stories please third type of story not to tell us
basically when you were an asshole to somebody sort of like the opposite of
the victims story guys still think that sometimes that women are into assholes
who were mean to other people but that's a bit of a myth or a big
girls are into guys who are independent to cancel things out who have a bit of
an edge about them but that's not being an asshole but anyway so don't tell
stories where you're just an asshole to people because frankly women generally
don't want to be with an asshole who is an asshole to people in the truest sense
of the word asshole fourth type of story never to tell it basically stories where
you criticize others or other cultures even if you have a good reason to
criticize others like let's say you're criticizing neo-nazis okay I know there
are lots of reasons to criticize neo-nazis but it's just not necessary to
get a date conversation to be about neo-nazis or how you don't like them
because subconsciously she will pick up that you're trying to tell her that
you're a good person that there's neo-nazis on you know evil and that
you're different and that doesn't work as a you know as a way to get a girl
attracted to you and the fifth type of story that you want to avoid if you can
when you're trying to get a girl to get attracted to you when you're on a date
and so forth are any stories that are basically
clearly designed to make you look good to make you look smart in her mind to
make you look a good person that make you look rich or any other type of show
off story that is clearly designed to show off to show yourself in a positive
light to highlight a very positive aspect of yourself why you may ask isn't
that the whole point of impressing a girl well the truth is as soon as you
show that you are trying to impress her she knows that you feel you need to
impress her and that means she knows that beat she basically has so higher
social value than you in that interaction and it means that
she's probably going to be less attracted to you because there is no win
here for her in terms of social value one aspect of attraction is that a girl
wants to be with a guy that she perceives as having higher social value
than herself or who is somehow cooler or more more smarter more interactive more
interesting than her and you know that's a win right for a girl but you can't
give her that win if you're showing that you basically trying to impress her
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