Of all of the signs of a toxic manager. I find thi
is the one that has had the highest impact on m
clients and the people that I've worked with
Hello, welcome back to my channel where I help you
slay your career and cultivate the successful life
you deserve. For the best career advice in
cyberspace, make sure you tap that subscription
button and the notification bell I released two
new videos each week. Let's talk about your toxic
AF boss, shall we? If you haven't already seen it,
about a year ago, I made a signs that your
workplace is toxic video. And one of the most
consistent themes that I found coming up in the
comments was about toxic bosses. And really, in my
opinion, toxic bosses are the ultimate driver for
a toxic work environment. The rest of the company
can be absolutely awesome and incredible. But if
you have a toxic manager, it's not going to go
down well. So in today's video, I'm sharing with
you 9 signs that your boss is toxic. And they're
not only doing this to make you potentially look
bad, they're also doing this to make them look
good and probably very necessary. If you are ready
to figure out if your boss meets that criteria,
tap the like button. And let's jump into it. The
first sign that your boss is toxic is that they
skew towards micromanagement. And not just
occasionally. They're micromanaging you all the
time about all of the things. I have an entire
video on micromanagement, and sometimes
micromanagement is just because they don't really
know what they're doing. But toxic managers
actually use micromanagement as one of the ways to
let's just say it drive you crazy and they're
micromanagement isn't just annoying, it is
actually something that does get in the way of you
being able to do your job. And to do your job
effectively. Your micromanaging boss also probably
likes to send those micromanaging emails at
11:30am on a Saturday morning, and maybe even
wants to hop on a call to just walk you through
things and how they should be done. This toxic
boss behavior also coincides with the next sign of
a toxic manager. And that is being overly
critical, your manager should absolutely be giving
you constructive feedback on a regular basis. One
part of their job, after all is to help you become
better at what you do and more successful in your
career. And they can't do that without delivering
feedback. And sometimes that feedback is going to
be critical. Where the toxic manager ranges though
is all of their feedback is critical. And it's
overwhelmingly and sometimes even necessarily
critical. Let me ask you a question. When was the
last time that your boss actually acknowledged
that you did something well, and when you do do
something that is really exceptional? And you are
getting praise? and accolades? Does your boss
still find something that you did wrong with it?
Or do you find the critical feedback that they
give you really benign in actionable or really
just something that is a matter of their opinion?
Or is it something that best practices and
industry experts would actually disagree with,
these are signs that your boss is being critical
just to be critical. And there's a reason for
this, your critical boss wants to undermine your
confidence in your work on the successes that you
are actually accomplishing at your job. And they
have all of their toxic reason, which I am not
going to invest time in this video talking about.
But that constant criticism is a big red flag that
you have a toxic boss on your hands. And this
actually leads me directly into my next sign of a
toxic manager. And that is when they are
undermining you, the toxic manager, especially
through their unfair criticism will actually begin
to undermine you, they might do this privately in
your one on ones and through that unfair
criticism, but they actually may even take
additional steps and start undermining you in
front of other people, whether it's in front of
your team, in team meetings, or even in front of
customers and partners who you work with your
toxic manager is doing this as a power play. And
what ends up happening is that your toxic manager
now has an excuse to micromanage you even more,
because they have just corroded the confidence
that other people actually have in you. And in my
opinion, this is one of the most dangerous
Behaviors of a toxic manager because it can
seriously impede your ability to do your job and
for you to really thrive at what you do. The
reason for that is when they undermine you enough,
you are not going to be given the opportunities
that you need in order to grow in your career. And
one of the ways that they undermine you is
actually going to lead directly into the next sign
of a toxic manager. And of all of the signs of a
toxic manager I find this is the one that has had
the highest impact on my clients. And the people
that I've worked with the fourth sign of a toxic
manager is they refuse to acknowledge your
accomplishments. Now, I touched on this a little
bit when we talked about criticism, but a toxic
boss or toxic manager is not going to be able to
acknowledge anything that you have done well, this
not only is going to be something that can have a
very high impact on your confidence. But this is
also going to have a direct impact in your
compensation and your opportunity to advance in
your work. Because if they refuse to acknowledge
the great things that you're doing, that is going
to show up on things like your performance review,
and if you're applying for a job internally This
is even something that could actually impact you.
Plus, let's just be really honest here. Most
people, at least occasionally need a little bit of
external validation to let them know that they're
doing good things. After all, if we don't know the
things that we're doing at work that are going
really, really well that are making an actual mark
for our company, and for our team, it's going to
inhibit our ability to actually focus there and do
more of those things to amplify our awesomeness to
make a bigger impact overall. So really, this
toxic manager behavior is hurting everyone,
including your toxic boss themselves. And as if
they wouldn't be bad enough, if they just did
those things. They're not going to leave it there.
No, no, your toxic manager is going to just don't
waste the knife while they're at it. And this
brings me to my next sign of a toxic manager. And
that is they are going to create obstacles for
you, they are going to get in the way of the work
that you do. And yes, they might be using tools
like micromanagement and unfair criticism in order
to create obstacles for you. But they might be
doing other more nuanced things like refusing to
support the work that you do, or just refusing you
to give you actual opportunities to flex and grow
your skills at work. And actually drawing from my
personal experience here, and the most toxic
manager that I worked with had this phenomenal
ability of taking a task that should have taken 30
minutes and turning it into three weeks of work
and disorganization. And just chaos, your toxic
manager is going to create a lot of hoops for you
to jump through a lot of checkpoints and a lot of
really strange nine rules in order for you to
actually accomplish your goals. Now, the next sign
of a toxic manager is one that can be a little bit
more nuanced, but it's one that is very, very
dangerous. And that is that toxic bosses tend to
speak poorly about other people. Let me guarantee
just one thing for you. If you hear your manager
talking poorly about other people, especially if
they're talking poorly about your coworkers,
they're talking poorly about you to other people
as well. And if you've been hanging out with me
here on my channel for a while, you know my
opinions on gossip and exactly how useless and
toxic it is. The toxic people just can't help but
drag other people down to their level. And because
they at their core, it feels so much ugliness and
awfulness about themselves. They need to create a
reality for themselves where everyone is as awful
and incompetent and negative and miserable as they
are. And that's why they're gossiping about your
coworkers about other people in the company. And
yes, probably about you, when this is a toxic
manager behavior, this can actually become a very
easy trap for you to fall down along with them. Do
not fall into that trap. No matter what you do.
The most important thing that you can do in this
circumstance is making sure that you are giving
them an opportunity to rise up to your level
instead of stooping down to there's like the
wonderful and glorious Michelle Obama sad when
they go low, we go high. And that brings me into
one of the more extreme but also not entirely
infrequent signs of a toxic manager. Your toxic
manager may exhibit some unethical behavior and
unethical decision making you know that boss who's
telling you that it's okay for you to just act now
and ask for forgiveness later. I know that what
they're asking you to do, or what they're
encouraging you to do is bending but really
breaking all of the rules. If not the law, this
toxic manager behavior is going to bring you to
lows that you never even knew existed. If your
toxic boss is exhibiting this behavior, you need
to find a way out as quickly as possible. But I
want to be clear here as well as doesn't always
show up as things that are obviously wrong. This
also shows up as things that are completely
enough. But things that are unfortunately still
commonplace in today's work environment things
like discrimination that are still happening day
to day, these types of behaviors are not just
creating a toxic environment, they are creating a
very hostile work environment for you and for
others on your team at your company. Now, of
course, when you're a toxic boss does any of those
things they are going to display sign number eight
of a toxic manager, and then there's going to be
that they completely lack accountability. Of
course, this also happens to be a treat of our
Narcissus and psychopaths. I do have videos on
both of those types of people as well. If you want
to check them out after this one, when your toxic
boss makes a mistake, when they completely mess
things up. They're going to hold zero
accountability and guess what they're going to
find a way to make it your fault. Maybe if you're
lucky, they're going to blame it all on one of
your co workers. Well you kind of I least add by
and maybe are just happy that it didn't fall on to
you. And I think that this is the worst part about
the toxic manager because their lack of
accountability is going to completely stunt their
professional development. They're going to stay
the toxic boss because they are not going to take
anything Accountability or responsibility for the
bad work environment that they're creating and the
negative results that they're achieving as a
direct result of their toxic boss behavior, and
now leads me directly to sign nine, that your boss
is toxic. And that is that they're just in general
and asshole. And yeah, that is basically the only
way that I can sum this up when you're working
with a jerk. And they're creating a bad
environment. And they are not just a bad manager,
but they are a toxic boss who's doing one or more
of the above listed things. This is a toxic
manager. And the sad reality is because especially
when it's paired with things like their lack of
accountability, it's not going to get fixed, which
leads me now into the bonus tip that I have for
you. And that is that you need to take action,
whether it's finding a way to transfer into a team
that doesn't have a toxic boss, or if you're in a
toxic company, actually finding an exit strategy
into a new company, you need to take action,
things are not going to improve and staying in a
toxic workplace or working for a toxic manager has
real implications and is a real risk to your
mental health and your well being. I do have
videos on job search strategies and everything
like that, which you absolutely do need to check
out. But if you haven't already, make sure and
click subscribe because my next few videos are
going to help you figure out how to survive while
you're still in that environment and how to
actually recover when you escape from it. But
there is one thing right now that you need to do
if you are working with a toxic manager and this
is the most important thing that you can do in a
toxic work environment in general and that is to
start cultivating positivity in your life. When
you have a toxic boss when you're in a toxic work
environment you're spending a lot of time every
single work day in a negative space. And this is
not good for you my friends. So finding ways to
intentionally cultivate positivity into your life
on a daily basis. And to you know have that after
work refresh are really really important. You can
get started right here with this video that I want
you to go and watch after this one if this video
helps you figure out if your boss is actually
toxic AF give it a like let me know if it helped
down in the comments below. And as always, thank
you so much for watching. I will see you in the
next video. Bye for now.