It can take a while to feel confident on a new job
You know, think about it, it can take up to 6-8 months
to really get in the groove but during that period
what do you do? You may not feel 100%
comfortable with what you're doing,
how you're doing it or if you even understand everything. Don't fret!
In this video I'm going to share with you how to be
confident even when you're not feeling it
Hi, I'm Adriana Girdler, president of CornerStone Dynamics and a
productivity expert and in this video
I'm going to teach you how to fake it till you make it,
how to be confident even though you may not be
feeling it
Tip #1: Pay attention to your body language
Part of confidence is not about what we say
It's about how we present ourselves
Think about it, people who are really confident, how
are their bodies? Are they closed off, hands in the
pocket, eyes down? No
They're looking at people, they have a big
swagger when they're walking, they probably take up more space, you probably see
confident people have their hands on their hips
they are out there and that's really important
If you want to show that you're confident maybe when you're not even
feeling it, your body language is the first
signal that's gonna tell people whether you're confident or not
I also highly recommend that you pick up some books on
body language cuz there's some additional insights there that are
just huge to bring about your confidence
Tip #2: Give a really good handshake
Think back to when you didn't have a good handshake
or if you can't even remember, start really analyzing
handshakes now that you get them, if there's a wimpy handshake or
a very soft one you'll notice subconsciously
you kind of take that in, that doesn't portray confidence
so if you're not feeling confident and you really want to feel more confident
Give a good solid handshake, even
practice it, you don't want to be crushing someone's hand
but it has to be firm and that can portray the confidence
whether or not you're feeling it so give a really good
solid, friendly handshake
Tip #3: Pay attention to your word choices
When you're trying to exude confidence, what you
say has a big impact so really think
about what is it that you want to say, so if you're in a meeting
and you're trying to exude that confidence, and particularly maybe you're
in a meeting with a whole bunch of important people
I would highly recommend you bullet point and write things down so you can be very
specific with what you wanna say
but also videotape yourself when you speak
because you'll be surprised, we have key phrases all the time like
"mmm" and "like" that we interject into
our sentences which actually takes
away from our credibility and can bring down our confidence
for ourselves, let alone people around us who are looking at us and going,
what?
Every second word is an "um!" So really think
about the words you say, your word choices are really important to help you
with your confidence but also to have people more confident in you
Tip #4: Be an encourager
Okay, why am I encouraging other people when I'm trying to be more
confident, Adriana? Could be your question, well, let me tell you
this: what comes around goes around, I'm a big believer in that.
So if we're encouraging others and giving them what
they need to feel good about themselves, guess what?
People will reciprocate and give it back to
you
So you're going to hear more about the great things you're doing
and people will be encouraging you, and what happens when
we feel good? Our confidence goes up!
Bonus! So be an encourager
not only for people around you, but also sometimes
give yourself a pat on the back like, what a great job, Adriana!
Obviously do that in private, you don't want people to think that you're
nuts talking to yourself! But definitely
encourage people around you, it has a huge impact and it will come back to you
and will boost everyone's confidence
Tip #5: Keep your space tidy
Huh? Why are we talking about a tidy space when we're talking about confidence?
Well, I've had subsequent videos about impressions
and that is part and parcel why I'm even bringing this up
If you want to feel confident, guess what?
Knowing where everything is,
also people people walking by your
office or cubicle they can see that you're on top of things,
increases confidence!
Particularly when people ask you for something and you can find it right away
so keeping a tidy space allows you
to be more effective and efficient, portrays you
as being on top of things
and overall just improves confidence, it's really cool when someone says
to you, hey, I've been trying to find this, can you
help me look for it? Wait one minute! It's right here on my desk
and you pull out a folder or you go into a file on a computer and you
give it right away, I'm telling you, people say, wow!
They're on top of it. That small little planting of
the seed, just because your space was tidy,
really brings about a higher level of confidence
for the people around you regarding you
So keep your space tidy, it actually does have an indirect
impact on confidence.
Let me know what you think of these tips and if you have any to add
I'm always intrigued to see what people do in order to
feel more confident when they don't feel that confident
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