Sadhguru: The secretions of the pineal in the yogic terminology
is referred to as Amruta, because once it begins its secretion,
everything about you becomes sweet and beautiful.
It is not the sexuality which limits it,
but it is the excessive identity with the physicality which limits it.
If you make it too big, you will become perverted in your head.
If you try to obliterate it, you will become even more perverted in your mind.
A 92-year-old man went to his doctor for a full medical checkup.
The doctor checked him up and he said,
"Hey, old boy. For your age, you're doing great, everything is just fine with you."
But the man asked, "But doctor, what about my sex life?"
So, the doctor asked, "Thinking about it, or dreaming about it?"
[Laughter]
The more you try not to think about something,
the more you will think about it – this is the nature of the mind.
So, there are many reasons why one indulges in sex.
For some it is just pleasure.
For some it is a way of building this bond and companionship,
otherwise people feel they're going away from each other.
They may be just fine, but a lot of people it is psyched in their mind
that if they are not sexually involved, they are actually moving away – not true.
You can be very close to somebody,
and need not be involved in any physical manner, isn't it?
But societies are psyching, especially in this part of the world,
people are hugely psyched if there is no sexuality,
you don't really have a relationship; in fact, the word relationship
it's only... it took me some time to understand,
that here if you say a relationship, you're supposed to understand
it's a sex-based relationship. Nothing else is a relationship.
I can have a very strong relationship with you,
and not be concerned about your body, isn't it?
I may not be drawn to your body in any way,
but I can have a very powerful relationship with you.
But all those possibilities are completely discounted;
a relationship means you must be in some way physically involved.
Man-woman, or man-man, woman-woman, whatever you like,
essentially, it is body based.
What kind of body is individual choices, but essentially, it is body based.
This has happened because somewhere
our identification in the body has gone beyond normal levels of identity.
It is excessive identification with the body.
That is why body based relationships have become the crux of the society.
One who is too identified with your physical body, naturally is sex-driven,
because that is the highest thing that he knows.
There are ways we can make you find something which is far bigger than this.
Once you taste something better,
I don't have to tell you give this up, or give that up,
it will anyway fall off, isn't it?
There are ways to do certain sadhana, which is more intense than sexuality,
which is more ecstatic than sexuality.
One one level, if you look at it, all dimensions of yoga,
one way or the other, are ultimately trying to activate the pineal,
because once it begins its secretion,
everything about you becomes sweet and beautiful.
It creates a whole inner pleasure
which makes all the outer pleasures look like kindergarten stuff.
That's the reason yogis are just sitting with eyes closed,
not because they are against pleasure;
they are against small pleasures, that's all.
So, the Shambhavi – one thing that's happening is,
it stimulates the pineal secretion in a big way,
which leaves you drenched in a certain level of sweetness throughout the day.
It just leaves you in a certain state of ecstasy and blissfulness,
because the pineal gland is active.
This is one aspect of your physiology
which is very close to your consciousness.
The rest of the physiology is about survival,
but the pineal gland is one aspect of your physiology
which is very, very close to transcending the physical.
In the yogic traditions, this sweetness is referred to as Amruta,
or the ambrosia, or the elixir of life.
One drop, if it comes into the system, suddenly the whole system just cools down,
the whole system is lubricated, functions at ease,
the desperation in the system is gone, the desperation in the mind is gone.
So, ambrosia means, you found your own pleasure.
If you're extremely joyful within yourself, you found the Amrita within yourself.
You are extremely... you are in an extreme state of pleasantness.
Now being with people is not anymore about squeezing pleasure out of them.
Being with people is just out of... just being with them.
Only now you are truly capable of love,
otherwise it is just a ‘open sesame’ trick.
‘I love you’ means...
whether they believe you or not, for that moment they make themselves believe you,
because they're also in need of something, you're also in need of something.
Isn't it? It's like the... you know, Alibaba and the 40... [Laughter]
‘Open sesame’ means it opens.
This is just like ‘I love you’ means many things open up. [Laughter]
Now, by doing this – I'm not saying it is right or wrong,
that's the way people conduct their life, there's nothing to it.
But by doing this, the true possibility of knowing
an intense sense of love within you is lost.
You're here constantly looking, ‘What can I get out of this person?’
‘What can I get out of that person?’
This is a con job. It's called a love affair, [Laughter] but it's a con job.
But if you are extremely ecstatic by yourself,
when you're being with people it is about sharing your ecstasy,
it is about, if they are not touched by it, somehow to touch them with it,
rather than seeing what you can squeeze out of them.
The whole fundamentals of your life will change.
Yes and no, in the sense, it is not the sexuality which limits it,
but it is the excessive identity with the physicality which limits it.
So, it is not sexuality per se which becomes the barrier,
but the attachment it creates to the physicality,
which definitely becomes the barrier.
This question is coming from a certain amount of...
bits and pieces, the gossip that you have heard about
how you could assimilate your own semen,
and raise it up to a higher possibility. Yes, it is true.
At the same time, it is not because of abstinence that one does it,
it is because of internalizing your energies that you do it.
It is not simply that somebody is abstaining from sex,
and suddenly his energies are all organized, and it's going up. It's not true.
If your energies get organized and begin to move up,
the need for sexuality may evaporate for you, but it doesn't leave you incapable.
It doesn't leave you impotent, but the need is gone,
it is just no more a compulsive thing.
And it is not just this one thing; all compulsiveness is lost.
Essentially, most of the sexuality that is happening on the planet
is happening because of a certain compulsiveness, isn't it?
It is a compulsive drive.
When you become conscious, when all compulsiveness disappears,
this also disappears.
It is just that because people are so body oriented,
they are always thinking spirituality versus sexuality. They are not connected.
They are not connected: one is of the body, another is of a different dimension.
It is simply because people are so...
because religions of the world, moral schools and the ethical schools
have been always speaking against it,
it has become such a big issue in people's minds.
They think the only way to know something beyond is, you must be away from this.
Because somewhere, you are not able to accept the simple biology of a human being
which is a tragedy that you cannot accept the simple biology.
You either have to celebrate it, or you have to push it down the drain.
Both are not needed. You can look at it for the limitation that it is,
and for the possibility that it is.
So, if because of the impurity of sex
your spirituality is going to get disturbed,
I want you to know that your very birth is impure.
When you come from such an impure birth, where is the possibility for you?
There is no possibility for you.
Only if you fell from somewhere else, if the stork dropped you,
there is some possibility of you becoming spiritual.
If your mother had a normal birth,
you have no possibility.
A 6-year-old girl
came home one day from school
and...
asked, "Mama, how was I born?"
The mother was embarrassed. She said, "A stork dropped you."
She said okay, she noted down.
"Mama, how were you born?" "A stork dropped me, too."
"Mama, how was Grandmama born?" "A stork dropped her, too."
Then the girl became serious, and she sat down,
and started writing something in her homework.
Then the mother was feeling uncomfortable, she finished her cooking, and then...
the girl had finished her homework and left the book there, she went and read.
So, the essay was about the family tree.
So, the girl had written, "For 3 generations in my family,
nobody had a natural birth." [Laughter]
So, because of absurd ideas, either we exaggerate something,
or we try to unnecessarily play it down.
It has a certain role in your life.
If you make it too big, you will become perverted in your head.
If you try to obliterate it, you will become even more perverted in your mind.
After all, now I am speaking – this is a kind of energy.
You are looking at me – this is a kind of energy.
You are listening to me – this is a kind of energy.
These are different expressions of the same life energy, isn't it?
Now, sexuality is also another expression of the same energy.
Now, one has to decide how much of his energy,
in which direction he wants to send it?
Because after all, you are a limited amount of energy, isn't it?
See, it's just like you have an income, let's say you have $5,000 a month,
how much for the house rent, how much for eating, how much for schooling,
how much just for fun, how much for vacation – you apportion, isn't it?
Tomorrow morning you got your salary, in the evening you went out and blew it up.
Now the next month is going to be trouble, isn't it?
Of course you have a credit card, but... [Laughter]
Everything in your life, if you are handling your life sensibly,
everything in your life is apportioned according to your understanding,
your need, and your capability, isn't it so? Yes?
Your money, time, energy, isn't everything allotted the way you like to arrange it?
This is also the same thing. How much of it? First of all, do you need it?
Or, are you doing it because of socially... you're psyched?
If there is a need, if I ask you to stop it,
you will become perverted, because it will all happen in your head.
If somebody is telling you, you have to do it, if you don't do it you are not normal,
another kind of perversion will come. Both are not needed.
After all, you are not going after a man or woman,
you are going after a certain level of pleasantness.
So, once you experience a certain level of pleasantness,
won't you like to dig deeper into this, because whatever pleasantness happened,
maybe you used the other person, but the pleasantness happened within you, right?
So suppose, anyway the pleasantness is happening within you,
the other person is just a key to open this.
Wouldn't you like to have the key in your own hands? Yes?
That if you sit like this, you're on, full scale. [Laughs]
You don't need anybody, no... see, anything – anything in your life,
either for pleasure, money, love, this, that – it doesn't matter what,
for whatever, the moment you become dependent on other person,
nobody on this planet is truly reliable, isn't it?
I keep hearing these complaints all over,
some people, generally women, keep complaining
their husbands are excessively physical.
Some women constantly complaining, "He doesn't lay a finger upon me."
Whatever happens, it's a problem,
because it will never happen exactly the way you want it.
As long as another person is involved,
nothing will ever happen 100% the way you want it, isn't it so? Yes, or no?
It never will. It doesn't matter if you get married to your God, it still won't happen.
As long as your way of being,
your sense of pleasure and joy is dependent on another person,
you'll always have a complaint, it doesn't matter how wonderful the other person is.
So, in this context, people might have talked about celibacy,
because they said, take some time off, don't...
because to extract pleasure out of somebody you have to play any number of tricks.
It doesn't happen simply.
This is called as ‘courting.’ [Laughter]
Once you go to the court, the judgment day will come. [Laughs]
It takes enormous amount of time, effort, energy,
and all kinds of other things,
frustrations, jealousies, problems, everything attached to it.
So, somebody said, "Take time off from those things,
and see if this could be internally generated,
and then being with people will become more out of your love than out of your need."
Which is definitely a better way to be with people, isn't it?
It is definitely a better way of honoring another human being, isn't it so?
Give this a little more attention, instead of paying attention to that one,
and that one, and that one; give this one a little more attention.
It will produce much more pleasure than any other one can produce for you.