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And today's question comes from Elzamika and she writes, "Dear Marie, in the past year
I've started to make money with my art, which makes me very proud and happy.
Though every time I make a sale I feel guilty.
If I do well at market I drive home at the end of the day with guilt pressing on my heart
and I sometimes feel the urge to return to buyers and give them their money back.
I think this comes from a sense that deep down my work isn't good enough and it doesn't
deserve to be sold.
Rationally, I know it's good enough, but you can't change your emotions with rational thought.
So my question is, do you have any tips on how to deal with sellers guilt?
Thanks for your consideration, lots of love.
Elzamika."
Elzamika my dear, it is clear that you're possessed by some money guilt goblins.
These little suckers are worse than bedbugs, but unlike bedbugs you don't need a dog named
Roscoe, harsh chemicals, or thousands of dollars to get rid of them.
Look, you cannot change what you're not aware of, so let's shine a light on three of these
nasty little buggers and get them out of here.
Money guilt goblin number one, senor either or, also goes by the name I win, you lose.
Or in economic speak, this guy makes you believe in a zero-sum world.
So, what does that mean?
It means that you believe there's a limited supply of money.
That if you get more, then somebody else is going to get less.
You win and somebody else loses.
Here's a little reality check to kick this goblin right in the butt.
We do not live in a zero-sum world.
And if you want the facts to back this up, you should check out a book called The End
of Poverty by Jeffrey Sachs.
Now, yes, we still do have a lot of work to do to solve economic inequality, but you receiving
money for your art does not take away wealth from someone else.
It only adds to the total global money flow, and that's called positive sum which is the
best kind of sum, unless you count dim sum.
Guilt goblin number two is Mrs. Self Doubtfire.
Now, this skank rears her ugly head any time we put anything creative out into the world.
Here's what she says.
She says basically you're not good enough, you're a fraud, and you really pulled a fast
one on people.
Look, what you create is intrinsically valuable and worthy because you are intrinsically valuable
and worthy.
Now, if you're still not buying this you've gotta make sure you check out our other MarieTV
episode which was made just for artists.
And that leads me to our third and final money guilt goblin.
Guilt coblin number three, Mr. Buyers Be Suckers.
Now, this little turd makes you believe that your buyers are suckers.
That anyone who gives you money for your art is a chump.
Your customers are not dummies, so give them some credit that they know good art when they
see it.
And by accepting their money you're actually validating their taste and their point of
view and you're giving them a chance to experience more joy and more beauty in their life through
your art.
Also, remember what a great feeling it is to spend money on something you love.
How much joy is there in being able to say, "You know what?
That was worth every penny."
And, finally, even if you don't believe that your art is that good or worth that much money,
somebody else paying for it does, so you need to honor and respect that.
So let's land this plane.
Shining the light on money guilt goblins is just step one in the process.
Step two is you actually have to replace those beliefs with new, better ones.
So from this moment forward, any time that you get paid for your art I want you to repeat
this mantra.
And yes, it's a tweetable.
"Getting money means giving joy."
Realize that every single time you receive money for your work you're giving joy to the
person who's receiving it.
That was my A to your Q Elzimeka, I hope it helps.
And now I would love to hear from you.
Do you ever feel guilty about making money?
If so, what did you do to get rid of your own guilt goblins?
And if you're still in that space, I would love to hear which one of these three guilt
goblins do you really need to kick in the goblin hole?
As always, the best discussions happen after the episode all the way over in the beautiful
fairy tale land of MarieForleo.com.
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