What's going on? Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. On today's video,
we're talking about why you should never take an ex girlfriend back, nor
should you be going for your ex again and trying to get her back. This is all a big disaster. I've
never talked too much about this on the channel. And it's time to get into it right now. One
of the reasons why you want to learn this and understand this is because when you understand
this principle of abundance mentality, which most men don't have, which is what causes them
to try to get their ex back... when you have an abundance mentality, you end up finding a more
suitable partner for you. You end up finding a woman who's going to be a better fit for you
in the long run. I'm working with a client right now. And he's having trouble getting over his ex
and he wants her back. But he's not hiring me or working with me to get her back. He's trying to
get over her. And I say listen man, the only reason why you're not over her yet is because
you don't truly believe yet that there are so many more women out there. You have a scarce mentality.
Abundance mentality is the idea that you understand that there's lots of women out there
and there's two ways to achieve that. The first way to achieve that is the most obvious, you have
an abundance of women in your life. You learn the proper tools and techniques to attract more women.
You become a more attractive person. It gives you more options therefore, you have an abundance
mentality, which then allows you to then shoo away all the women that you're not truly interested in
and be with the women that are a better fit for you. B y the way, if you need help with this,
you should check out my Hooked program at Get Her Hooked dot com. It teaches you everything you need
to know to attract more women into your life and have an abundant mindset. The link is down below.
The second way to achieve abundance mentality is the abundance mindset, the understanding that
there are so many women out there that you could date, that you could sleep with,
that you can marry, that you can be with... it is truly endless. It's almost as if
it is infinite. Why? Because you're not going to be able to be with every woman because there's
so many. What I'm saying to you is you need to have an abundant mindset so you get someone great
and not go back to your ex. Let's tackle that for a second. Why you should not take your ex
girlfriend back. The big reason is mainly because there was a reason why it ended. There was a
reason why it ended. And it's either because of you, or because of her, maybe because of both. But
usually it's because of one person. Let's say it's because of you. Let's say you mess something up.
If you mess something up, it's going to be difficult for you to get to the point
where you are going to get her back. You're going to waste a lot of time trying to get her back when
9 times out of 10 it doesn't work because she is not convinced that you are an attractive person
because you have acted in a way that is probably beta or not masculine or simping in some way.
So she needs a lot of proof now that your behavior is not like that. That's very
challenging to do. You're probably going to waste a lot of time trying to get her back.
On the other hand, if it's something that she did. and she's crawling back to you. I don't know why
you'd want to give a woman a second chance who has done something to you and I can't sit here
and list all the things because who knows what it could be? I don't know cheating, whatever. She did
something wrong that made you break up with her. You don't want to be with this woman anymore. You
were settling, you were in scarce mentality. You are just trying to get her back because you have
not figured out how to attract other women. Or you feel like this is the only woman you deserve.
I mean really? Do you really think that this is the only woman you deserve? If you're watching
this video right now, I don't think that's you because you're watching this video,
which means you're learning how to get better, which means you deserve better than someone
who screwed up. No, I don't believe in second chances. And I have practiced that before. There
have been times where I've been broken up with. There's times where I've broken up with a woman.
And that's it. It's over. It's over. And I was okay with that because I knew that
there'd be someone else who would come around who's going to be a better fit.
I want to be careful when I say this. because I know a lot of guys can take this to heart.
And then they never end up with anyone because they're so picky. They're so incredibly picky
that they don't end up with anybody and then it's always like what's better,
what's better? My advice to you is, you still want to go for someone who's good enough. I don't
say that in a settling sense. I say that in the way where it's like, oh no, this person's great.
They have most of the non-negotiables that I'm looking for. This is it. This is great. Not every
woman's gonna be perfect, but as long as she's 70, 80% of the things that you're looking for,
that's a great fit. Because very rarely, you're going to find someone who has 100% of the things
that you're looking for and if you have a long list of what those things are, it's going to be
trouble for you my friend. Because you're going to narrow your pool so small. It's best that you have
what I call the 3-non negotiables. 3 things that you're looking for in a woman that you decide are
something that's going to be a good fit for you. There's a lot of things you can pick. M Maybe it's
based on religion. Maybe it's based on their based on their political beliefs. Maybe it's
just going with the FFF – fit, friendly and feminine. That's also good to look for too.
But just understand that if you're too picky, you'll never find it. But if you're too loose,
then you're going to have someone into your life that's going to cause drama, that's going to cause
pain. And that's going to ultimately waste your time, which is why I'm saying to you
don't take her back and don't try to chase her. Look at it as a lovely learning lesson. And don't
give me this stuff. And I know I'm gonna hear this in the comments. Don't give me this.– "You don't
understand Tripp. You don't understand this girl. She's perfect. She's everything. I need her back."
That is your brain fucking with you. It's completely messing with you.
You're so infatuated with this woman that it's telling you those things. But it's not true.
You're telling me... let's go logic route for a second, you're telling me that if tomorrow... I
know I'm going to go dark here, but just bear with me. This is a good example. Tomorrow, lightning
strikes her dead and she's gone off this earth. That's it for you? That's it? You'll never be able
to find another amazing woman again? She's gone. You're gonna be single for the rest of your life?
No, of course not. That's not true. Of course you're going to be able to find someone else.
Don't play unique snowflake with me. She's not that unique. I'm not saying that those
girls are a dime a dozen. I know it's hard to find someone who's a great fit.
But there are more out there. You just have to get your act together. Learn how to meet women.
Learn how to be your most attractive self so you can open up your pool to more women.
That's how you do it. Open up your pool by becoming more attractive
and learning it but then narrowing it down to the types of women that are a good fit for you.
And then you will find someone who you don't have to get in fights with, have drama with,
and end up breaking up with or they end up breaking up with you. So leave them be. Hope
this helps. If you want to learn more about how to open up that pool and become more attractive,
www.getherhooked.com is the website to go to to get my full video course
on exactly how to be that guy. Check it out. Hope this helps. I'll see you on the next video.