How The Top 1% Of Men Think Differently [0:00:00]
[Music] Over the years, I've met a lot of successful
men.
From my experience of being an officer in Marines to my experience of owning a business
conference, I've had the privilege to talk with these men at length.
What I've discovered talking with these high achievers is that they think very differently
than the average Joe.
In today's video, gents, I'm sharing with you eleven ways that the top 1% of men think
differently.
The first way that highly successful men think differently is that they look for challenges.
Seriously, they're not avoiding obstacles, they are actually running towards them.
Everyone sees an instrumental barrier except for these guys.
They see a challenge to take up.
For the high achiever, he looks at a challenge as a way to test his mettle, to see really
what he's got inside.
And it's been this way for a long time.
Let's look at the classic story of Hercules.
Now, most of us know him as this mythological strongman, but that's not actually why he's
remembered.
He's remembered for his twelve labors.
They were considered to be impossible.
They took this demigod twelve years to actually accomplish, but it was through these labors
that he became immortal.
And, if you think about it, guys, that makes perfect sense.
I know so many of you guys have dreams, you've got ambitions.
You want to be up here, but right now you're down here.
How do you go from being this piece of coal to becoming a diamond?
Just the way nature intended, you all of a sudden have to have some pressure you've got
some time you've got some heat and you transform into that diamond into the man you know yourself
to be.
Next, the top 1% of men constantly work to improve themselves.
No, let me fix that.
The top 1% of men creates systems to constantly improve themselves through passionate curiosity.
So, first up, they create systems, they don't work at it because if you get to work at something
you're going to get tired of it and you're eventually going to fail.
But, when you create a system, this is going to happen automatically.
It becomes a routine, it becomes a habit, it just becomes a way of life.
And, let's talk about that passionate curiosity.
I'm stealing this from Albert Einstein.
He actually said, “I have no special talent.
I'm just passionately curious.”
And, that right there is key because when you're curious, you ask questions.
We all got something that we can become passionately curious about and in turn become a world leading
expert.
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The next way the top 1% of men think differently, they build themselves up, so then they're
in a position to help others.
So many people love to publicly profess, “Oh.
I would love to help.
I would love to donate to that charity if I had the money, if I had the time.”
But, here's the deal, that's easy to do because in reality you're not going to do anything.
What's a lot harder is to see the problem to quietly resolve that you are going to make
a difference and then to put in the work put in the effort to put yourself in a position
when then you actually can donate money because your businesses really well.
Or you can donate time because you've created a position for yourself and you're healthy
enough that you can actually go be a volunteer.
The next way the top1% of men think differently, they look at life as the way it is.
They know life is unfair.
You see a man that accepts that life isn't going to be fair to him, realizes very quickly
that it's not fair to anybody that everyone has their problems.
And all of a sudden, he realizes that, okay, if I understand this if I study it, I can
actually use this to actually get what I want out of life.
[0:05:00] Now, I'm not talking about manipulating people,
I'm talking about better understanding people and understanding the problems that we all
face and then, being able to create solutions, being able to start a business, being able
to help people because you genuinely get that we're all in this boat together.
Now, these next two points I'm going to throw them together because they work well together
and that is the top 1% of men have an immovable core.
They have a why, they have a purpose which does not move.
This has been established very early.
But, the tactics about going through life and dealing with situations, these are fluid
they move around.
And, that's key because they're very different things; one is fluid, one is immovable, but
together it all of a sudden gives them a very lethal combination.
So, when you understand your why, you know what you stand for, you know what you're about
what your principles are your morals are, all of a sudden this is something that you're
able to make quick decisions about is this for me, is it not?
Now, the tactics that you're going to use to actually go after building that business,
this needs to be able to evolve and change.
And the smartest people realize that no plan survives contact with the enemy.
So, you're going to go out there you've devised a plan, but all the sudden you tried, it fails.
Failure is something that we learn and we adjust with, that's why those tactics need
to be fluid.
But, the core what you stand for that needs to be solid that needs to be something that
never moves.
The next way the top 1% of men think differently, they understand that balance requires work.
So many people when they're going after success, they reach a balancing point and they're so
excited they hit it.
And then, they fall right off and they wonder what happened how did all that go wrong.
It was like you had this perfect balance at this point and all of a sudden, you fall right
off.
Those that stay at the top, they understand that you are like a man going across on a
tight wire and that you are never truly in perfect balance.
You are always working to get there, but to achieve that perfect balance is next to impossible.
I remember training as a pilot in the Marine Corps and it was something that they taught
you to scan the cockpit.
You were constantly looking around because if you got focused on one dial, you would
crash the plane.
And that is key with balance.
You got to understand it's work it's something that never ends, but the rewards are a life
well-fulfilled and I think it's well worth it.
So, this next point is really important to me because I have so much work I need to do
on this and that is I found that top 1% of men are very selective about who they listen
to.
They are selectively deaf to most people trying to give them advice.
And here's the thing, if you achieve any level of success in life, you're going to have tons
of people who are going to criticize you, who are going to hate on you, are going to
want to give you unsolicited advice, are going to want to butt in and try to direct you in
a path that they see is right for you.
And, that's the most dangerous thing here is that you start to have all the self-doubt.
You should question yourself and you should be one of your harshest critics, but you need
to be on guard with people that just want to throw information at you.
You need to be very selective about who you listen to.
And, let's talk about being action-oriented.
The top 1% of men, they are people that take action.
And the key here is falling flat on your face is going to hurt and is going to sting and
this is inevitable.
If you want to achieve greatness if you want to go out there and make things happen, get
that nonprofit off the ground, you are going to have people say no when you're asking to
borrow money, you're going to have banks slam the door in your face.
But you know what?
That is nothing compared to the pain you will feel the rest of your life of regret.
If I don't go do this, how am I going to feel in twenty years when I look back on my life
and say I could have done that, I could have gotten started with that business.
Guys, that is key.
So, compare the pain, long-term pain of that regret to the pain initially and very shortly
that will be lived of trying and getting started in dealing with some of the knows, I would
much rather deal with that.
Next up, the top 1% of men, they know the rules, they've studied the rules, and they
most importantly realized the rules were created by other people.
And they're not afraid to step outside the box, to play the game the way that they want
to play it.
Now, I'm not saying you want to do this all the time, but I am saying that when you all
of a sudden start looking at things this way, once you understand the way it all plays and
you get deep down into it, you realize you know what?
I can tilt the whole playing field in my direction and anyone playing that game is all of a sudden
going to be at a disadvantage except for me because my goal is down here at the end.
And, that's what you want to do.
You want the game to go in your favor.
I'm not talking about cheating.
I'm actually about devising things setting them up, so that you can’t help but win
whether it be in business whether it be, you know, getting your nonprofit off the ground,
whether it be in relationships, you want to set yourself up for success.
So, if you know that dressing sharp, all the sudden people are going to give you the benefit
of the doubt, why would you shoot yourself in the foot and not dress appropriately?
Or, if you realize that, hey, certain mannerisms are going to get people to trust me more,
why not take the time to learn them so that you start off at an advantage?
[0:10:02] Next up, let's talk about how the top 1% make
decisions, hell, yeah, or no.
And, if you can't say, hell, yeah to it, you’re going to say no and you're going to say no
the vast majority of the time.
They turn down a lot of people making requests to them.
Why?
Because that frees them up to then really laser in and focus in and give more time to
the yeses to those opportunities.
And it frees them up whenever a great opportunity comes by an amazing opportunity they could
say yes to that because they didn't say yes to an okay or to a mediocre opportunity.
Now, personally for me this was very difficult.
I want to say yes to people.
I want to be agreeable.
I don't want to upset anyone.
I want to help people.
But, here's the deal, we've all only got 24 hours a day in a very limited amount of time
left in our lives.
The straw that broke the camel's back for me was when I realized I wasn't spending much
time with my kids, I wasn't spending much time with my wife.
I was a hundred percent devoted to my company and that was out of balance, it wasn't something
I wanted and I realized I needed to start saying no as my default answer to all these
meetings to all these opportunities.
And what that did, when you start saying no to okay opportunities to nice opportunities,
you all of a sudden have this time that you can say yes to amazing opportunities and that's
when the magic happens.
So, what video to watch next?
How about this one, seven undeniable signs it's time to quit?
I don't know about you guys, but I was raised not to be a quitter.
But, being a quitter sometimes is the right decision I cover it in this video.
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