﻿10 Signs You’re MORE ATTRACTIVE Than You Think [0:00:00]
As a teenager, I did not consider myself attractive. And I’m sure some of you guys are
saying, “Antonio, you’re not attractive now.” [Music]
That may be the case, but in high school, it was worse. Seriously, I was skinny,
awkward. I wear these glasses that just made my head look weird. Something
interesting though happened when I was 15. We took a trip to Baltimore Estate Pool.
In any case, I had a girl approached me. Seriously, I thought this was maybe a prank,
maybe she mistook me for somebody. It turns out, she just really liked me.
To this day, I’m not sure exactly what she saw in me. But you know what? I’ll take the win because
it definitely did boos my confidence. [Music]
First up on the list, you are in a position of authority. Now, an extreme example of this is JFK,
35th president. That guy had no problem with the ladies, Marilyn Monroe in the White House.
Yeah, the stories, they’re probably real. But, let’s face it, most of us aren’t presidents
or CEOs, and to use that power to get some, yeah, that could be unethical. It was Henry Kissinger
that said, “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.” Now, it’s interesting as you study this more is
it’s not just women that are attracted to men in positions of authority. This just happens
to be the majority of the scenarios. No, men are also more attracted to and will follow other men
who are in these positions of authority. When I say authority, it doesn’t have to
be straight up line, you know, in the same company. This guy could work for another company.
It could be that you actually are in a volunteer position, but you have high visibility.
An example of this from my past, so I was an altar boy. Obviously,
if you’re familiar with the Catholic church, you know, that’s not a position of authority,
but it is high visibility. And, yeah, I’m 16 years old up there, having 18-year old women approach
me and interested in finding out who I am. Why? Because I’ve got this position, where I’m right
next to the authority and I had high visibility. So, where in your life are you an authority? Where
do you have high visibility? Do this, and all of a sudden, yeah, you could be a lot more attractive.
Now, gents, I hear you. At this point, you’re saying, “Come on, Antonio. Give me something
specific. How can I tell if she’s checking me out whenever everyone is wearing a mask?”
Well, lucky for you there’s a clear indicator she’s checking you out. And the mask or clothing,
don’t worry, it doesn’t cover this indicator. What I’m talking about here is the research done
by Dan Archer. This guy is a human face scientist. And in 1995, he clearly showed that human beings,
they can do a pretty good job of controlling the stuff down below, women especially.
But, you know what? The eyes, the eyebrows, the forehead, no, they can’t control this
nearly as good. And, if you want to see if she’s checking you out, look at her eyebrows.
Did she raise them when she sees you? That right there is a great indicator she’s interested.
In fact, there was research going back to the 1970s that clearly showed in France and the United
States, yes, women indicate interest by raising up their eyebrows when they make eye contact. So,
if you make eye contact she raises the brows, you may be more attractive than you think.
Next up, let’s talk about a characteristic that a lot of guys don’t think about,
but makes them more attractive. And that is when you see a problem when you have an issue,
you take actions to fix it. Now, there are the easy obvious
ones. You see a leaking faucet, you fix it. I know my wife loves it when I’m basically
acting as a handyman. What’s harder though is fixing things that aren’t as concrete. I’m talking
about relationships, bad habits. Perhaps you’re having a guy issue like erectile dysfunction.
And, I get it. It’s difficult to talk about, so make up excuses, “Yeah,
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The next sign you’re more attractive than you think, people value your opinion. So,
how does this work? Simply put people value the opinions of those that they find more attractive.
In the book, Beauty Pays, economist Daniel Hamermesh talked about how in the workplace
oftentimes we defer to the opinion of the person that we find to be attractive.
Attractive people are perceived to be more beautiful. Beautiful people are
assumed to be successful. Successful people are assumed to have strong solid opinions.
[0:04:54] Now, what’s
interesting about this for guys, again, it’s not so much about the physical attractiveness,
but also your position, the way that you dress, the way that you behave. And, on top of all that,
if you’re subject matter expertise, you can also be perceived by many people as attractive because
you’re an authority in that field. Now, this obviously has limits. Being
an expert in Magic: The Gathering is only going to do so much for you.
Next up, let’s talk about affiliation. So, any affiliation is better than no affiliation.
Basically, being a lone wolf walking into a bar yourself, guess what? You are perceived
as an unknown. No, there isn’t anyone around you that is saying, “Hey, this guy is good to go.
You walk in with a group of three people, a group of five people, all of a sudden your
attraction level shoots up. You walk in maybe with your sister. Nobody knows it’s your sister,
they just see that, hey, you’re with this attractive woman, guess what? Your status has shot
up because you’re with a woman. And other women see this and they say, “Hey, that guy has been
approved by women,” and they’re more interested. You see how this works? Basically,
your association to people you’re around can affect your attractiveness levels a lot.
And by the way, gents, I know you’ve got an opinion. I want to hear from you in the comments.
Do any of you guys have female friends that you’ve gone out with and all of a sudden because you’re
with them, other women are more interested in you? I know it has worked for me. I would love
to hear your stories down in the comments. The next sign you’re more attractive than you
think, people want to get up close. They want to invade your personal space.
Now, here’s what’s going on. People when they’re around attractive people, people that they like,
they want to get closer. They want to touch you. They want to – they want to show that, hey,
we have a relationship, I actually feel comfortable around you.
Now, the reality is a lot of guys are oblivious to this especially when they’re doing it to women.
Women on the other hand, they’re much more attune to what’s going on and they use this
as an indicator that, hey, I like you, I feel comfortable. And they go in and they touch your
elbow, touch your shoulder. This right here, breaking that touch barrier, very important.
The next sign you’re more attractive than you think, you’re locking eyes with a lot of people.
This one may sound obvious, but it’s not obvious if you have low confidence and if you’re not
looking at people in the eye because guess what? There’s tons of women out there that have tried
to look you in the eye, but you’re looking down. You are afraid to make eye contact.
My recommendation to you is simply say hello to people. Make eye contact and focus in on just
being friendly greeting more people. And what you’re going to find is because you’re greeting
more people, you’re looking more people into the eye and all of the sudden you’re realizing,
wow, she was actually keeping my eye contact. She gave me a smile,
maybe I should actually talk to her. So many guys probably could be, you know,
they’re having people wanting to make eye contact with them, but they don’t have the
courage to look them in the eyes. So, practice just greeting people and being friendlier.
The next sign you’re more attractive than you think, when you give a compliment people really
appreciate it. They’re like, wow, that means a lot coming from you, and listen for. People say this a
lot, but some people just say it to be nice. A lot of people say it though and they mean it
because, hey, if you really know your stuff and you’re to give them
a compliment on their presentation and this is what you do for a living, they’re like, “Wow!
That felt really good coming from you.” Or if you know plumbing, you’re a master,
you know, plumber and you’ve got your own business and you give a guy you look at his work and you
give him a compliment, it’s like, “Wow!” Like, all of a sudden your status your level is up
there and that is something to listen for. When people are telling you this, hey, that meant a lot
coming from you, you are viewed as attractive. Now, this indicator that you’re more attractive
than you think isn’t always a sure guide, but it can be and that is
people are asking you questions. So, is this an indicator that you’re more attractive?
Because when people want somebody to like them, they ask them questions. And a lot of times
they ask them easy questions, questions that they feel this person should know,
this person is an expert with this person. They value your opinion. They want to talk with you.
And one of the easiest ways to start the conversation is just to be asking questions. So,
you’re speaking with that, you know, beautiful woman and she keeps asking you questions.
That is a great sign that she obviously wants things, she wants to, you know,
keep talking to here. So, answer the questions and it’s like about, you know, it’s a match. Go ahead
and throw it back, ask some questions of her. Now, this next sign you’re more attractive
than you think, this one in particular I found incredibly interesting and that is when you reveal
an insecurity, people are shocked. Why? Because when we see attractive people, we think people
are at a higher level than us. We are always surprised that this person is human. Yes, it’s
pretty obvious. But, we didn’t think that they were dealing with this complex with this issue.
And when you reveal this maybe on Facebook, you put it out there to a small group maybe to larger
group, you’re giving a presentation and you reveal something and afterwards people come up and tell
you, “You know what? In your Zoom presentation today, you talked about a problem that you
are dealing with and I’m dealing with that problem. I never would have imagined that you,
you know, the guy that’s been running this thing deal with that same difficulty.”
And that right there, you know, it’s maybe it’s not the attraction that, you know,
you guys are going to start dating here. But it is an indicator that this person viewed you
as someone that had their stuff together that revealed that you are human, which you
are and nothing wrong with this. I think it’s important to actually be
open with people, but that right there can be a clear indicator
that you’re more attractive than you think. So, what video to watch next? How about the seven
things that attracted men never do? Seriously, guys, you don’t do these
things if you want be attractive. And they’re pretty simple. I think they’re pretty timeless.
So, check out this video right here and hopefully you’re not doing any of these
things in the video. [0:10:20] End of audio