- Hi, guys!
Welcome back to my channel.
In today's video,
I thought I would share with you some habits
that I think make me a happy person.
That is probably the number one question
I get asked over on Instagram or in the comments here.
"How are you so happy, positive, and energetic?"
And while you guys do only see
an edited version of my day,
I think on the whole I am a very positive person.
And in the past, I've made a video
about how to be a happy and calm parent,
so I will also link that video in the description
if you want to go and check that out.
But today, I'm just gonna tell you
some really easy, simple habits that I do regularly
that I think help me to be a happy person.
So I hope you enjoy it, give it a thumbs up if you do,
and I would love for you to stay and subscribe
if you haven't already.
Right, so I'm gonna start out with an easy one
and that is to make your bed every morning.
There's a famous speech by a Navy SEAL
called William McRaven.
I will link it down below.
Definitely go and watch it after this
because it's really inspiring.
He basically talks about how making your bed every morning
can change the world.
And I've also gone on to read his book,
which is also called Make Your Bed,
but the gist of it is
he says, "Make your bed every morning
"and it will give you a small sense of pride,
"and you will have accomplished something
"straight away in the morning
"and that will make you want
"to go on throughout your day accomplishing other tasks."
And he basically says,
"If you can get the small things right,
"then you can get the big things right as well."
And it's just become part of my routine.
It's really stuck with me.
And when I make my bed every morning,
it does make me feel like I've accomplished something
and that I'm going to be like super productive
throughout the day.
So if you can,
obviously, maybe not every single morning,
but on the majority of mornings,
if you can make your bed feel proud about the way it looks,
it can kind of change your day.
It's weird.
The next habit is the most important one
in this entire video,
and that is to practice gratitude.
Some of you will know that I like the law of attraction
and I love learning and reading about it.
And one of the teachers have it,
he's called Michael Beckwith.
He says that, "Nothing good or new can enter your life
"unless you're already grateful for what you have."
And that has really stuck with me.
If you think about anything in your life
that you're unhappy about
and flip it.
Try and focus on the positives
and the good things about it.
So say, take your partner.
This isn't about Matt, sorry,
(giggles)
but if you take your partner
and you're always thinking about the things
that they don't do or how annoying they can be
or things that they forget,
it's just gonna bring you down
and make you dislike them.
But if you take the same person
and you just focus on the good things that they do,
how helpful they are, how funny they are,
the things that they do for you,
it will just completely change everything
because you'll start to say thank you to them for that.
They'll want to do more of the things that you like.
I don't know, it just changes everything.
Even the way I parent,
I try it and just be so thankful and grateful
and praise them for the good things that they do
and then I think they want to do it more.
I could probably do a whole video on gratitude itself,
but just try and be more grateful
and it will definitely make you a happier person.
The next one is another really easy one
and that is to get everything ready the night before.
I feel like I say this all the time on my channel,
but it's such a game changer for me.
If I get everything ready,
like the kid's clothes, my clothes,
what they need for school, the clubs,
like just everything ready the night before,
I have such a better day the next day.
I just wake up feeling like I'm on it.
I know what's going on,
I'm organized.
And it's just that simple little thing
of taking like 20 minutes the night before,
just get everything done,
really sets me out for a good day.
My next tip is a big one
and that is to curate your social media.
We are in control of what we see online
and how it makes us feel.
So something doesn't make you feel good or happy,
stop looking at it.
So after this video,
go onto your Instagram account,
go to the accounts that you follow
and just scroll through them,
and if any of them don't make you feel good
or they've made you feel bad in the past,
just unfollow them.
It's that easy.
Even if it's a friend or a relative,
there are ways that you don't want to see their stuff.
You can mute them or hide them,
so you don't have to look at them.
And even if it's my Instagram account,
if I don't make you feel happy,
if I actually do the opposite and make you feel bad,
please unfollow me
and my YouTube channel as well,
feel free to unsubscribe.
This is like a happy positive place
and I would hate to think that anyone is watching my videos
and feeling worse about themselves
by doing that.
So yeah, it's completely up to you.
We are in control of what we see
and how it makes us feel.
So yeah.
Unfollow people don't feel bad about it.
So you need to just cut anything toxic
out of your life.
The next one is to establish routines.
We are creatures of habit as humans
and we love to have a routine.
It makes us feel safe and secure
and like we know what's going on.
I personally love having a morning routine
and evening routine and sticking to it.
So if you don't know where to start,
I will link some of my routines below
and you can check them out.
My next tip is to drink more water.
And with this tip,
I feel a bit like do as I say, not as I do.
I really struggle to drink enough water
and my new year's resolution this year
was to drink two to three liters of water a day.
I'm really trying to stick to it,
but when I do drink my two liters of water,
I feel so much better,
my skin feels clearer,
I feel more energized.
It's just so good for you.
So one thing that helps me
is I found if I drink water
at a room temperature,
I drink it so much easier.
I think I've got sensitive teeth
and it puts me off when it's really cold.
I also have little like water enhancers,
so it's like a little squash which is sugar free,
and that also helps me to drink more as well.
My next tip is to write down your goals
and if you don't know how to get started with that,
I've actually made a whole video
on how to set yourself goals,
so I'll link that down below as well.
But by setting goals,
you're giving yourself a focus
and it can be really fun to sit down and think,
"Where do I want to be in five years?
"Where do I want to be in one year?"
And then when you achieve some of the goals
that you have written down,
it makes you feel so good about yourself
and just happy.
My next tip is to embrace failures
and learn from them.
And this can be easier said than done.
Sometimes you have to wait awhile to embrace a failure,
but there are lessons and learnings
to come out of every failure.
So don't just focus on how bad it went
or how bad you feel about it.
Just think of what you can learn from it
and how you can do it better next time,
whether it be a failure at work or in your personal life,
you can improve on that
and change things for next time.
My next tip is to surround yourself as much as possible
with positive, inspiring people
and stay away from toxic people.
And I don't even mean in real life,
I like to listen to audio books
or follow people on social media
that really motivate me.
Like Gary V
or I've talked about the Blinkers App before,
which has like 15 minute inspiring books on it
and I really love to like,
I think if you fill yourself with all that positive,
good energy or you surround yourself with friends
that really get you and just want you to do well
and are like cheerleading you,
then it will just naturally bring you up.
So when it comes to toxic people,
it can be quite hard.
And I don't think I found it easy
to cut people like that out of my life until I was older,
like in my 30s, (chuckles)
but if there's anyone that makes you feel bad,
maybe just see them a little bit less,
or if there's anyone that doesn't believe in you,
maybe just don't hang out with them as much.
My next tip is to visualize things going well
or visualize things that you want
or yeah,
just things happening the way that you want them to happen.
Say, if you have a meeting tomorrow
and tonight you're really anxious about it,
try and just in your head go through the motions,
visualize it going well,
you walking in,
you killing it and it just happening well.
I also like to visualize,
like things that we'd like to do,
like places we'd like to visit
or I love to go on Right Move
and just look at houses which are way out of range
and just imagine like us having them
or us walking around in them.
I don't know.
I know this is like probably a bit of a weird step,
but that is personally what I do.
Sometimes if I can't sleep at night,
I would just visualize us, you know,
doing something really nice
or something that we've talked about
or that we want to do.
I don't know.
I feel like that I have some rubbish tip,
but that is what I do.
And my last tip is to smile more.
Smiling it can actually trick your brain.
It will send a chemical reaction to your brain
and it will actually made you feel happier.
I have to also read this quote to you cause it's crazy.
"Science has shown that the mere act of smiling
"can lift your mood, lower stress levels,
"boost your immune system, and possibly prolong your life."
What?
Right, so that is it for this video.
I really hope you enjoyed it
and you got something from it.
Let me know in the comments,
which point was your favorite
and anything you do to make you feel happier.
And thank you so much for watching
and I will see you soon.
Bye.